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RE: Does it fizzle? - 4/7/2008 3:43:20 PM

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Our lasted 7 yrs before I pulled the plug on us so that he could deal with things I could be no part of. We were still hot up until that point. So hot that the only way for him to get his stuff done was if I was not there as a distraction.
If I had not have pulled the plug, I would say we would still be together. As it unfolded, he thought I was done and he moved on to someone else. But the heat is still there between us, I can feel it.
I think people do find this can last if they are willing to work at it.
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RE: Does it fizzle? - 4/7/2008 3:58:57 PM

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Well I'm only at three years currently, but I didn't respond because the question just wasn't worded or sparking with me at the time.

It can and does work about as well as any other type of relationship.

Remember most people still get into Ds during their "second childhood" release all their common sense and experience and act like a teenager for the first few years- so their relationships should be taken in the context of what a junior high or high schooler might do, not an actual functioning adult.

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RE: Does it fizzle? - 4/7/2008 6:29:00 PM

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I didn't notice any comments from people who had been together beyond that. Can the D/s dynamic of a relationship go beyond that? Does anyone here know of it existing? Or because it's so intense, does it fizzle out, say before year ten? I'm really only interested in the comments from people knowing of it lasting, not , "We are so in sync and in love we will last a lifetime." I'm wondering if it can last, or do we need different Doms throughout life? Or do we get tired of this?

I know that Alandra posted to that thread and she has been in a M/s relationship for 20 years with our Lord. They are still very much in love with each other.

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RE: Does it fizzle? - 4/7/2008 6:48:50 PM

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i can only speak of my relationship. It does not fizzle but it DOES change. The passion is still there but the ability to act on it has been greatly reduced with the addition of little ones, changes in Sirs work schedule, family issues....etc.

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RE: Does it fizzle? - 4/7/2008 7:02:01 PM

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We have had a service type D/s relationship for the whole 39 years we've been married and it has worked well for us. We have only been experimenting with the sexual side of BDSM for about 4 years, but it has certainly improved our sex lives and given us a new bond, and i expect that to continue.

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RE: Does it fizzle? - 4/7/2008 7:06:45 PM

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Welcome!

Just like any relationship, you get out what you put into it. So, if you keep the "spark" , then the relationship will mature. W/we started out as a vanilla married couple. Then W/we started swinging/swapping, then W/we moved onto whips and chains with our swinging. So, as the relationship evolves, so can the fun. Also, two people can find that their needs evolve into a different direction as well.

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RE: Does it fizzle? - 4/7/2008 8:01:39 PM

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Soooooo many fabulous responses. Thank you. Thanks for the warm welcome as well.
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RE: Does it fizzle? - 4/7/2008 8:22:18 PM

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On the should it be a small sliver of what you look for in a mate. Yes. If i am having a relatationship it must have D/s in it and i prefer 24/7 but beyond that he must also be my best friend and partner, someone I can have vanilla fun with, talk until the sun comes up about every issue under the sun and just exist as a 'normal' couple.

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