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RE: collar - 12/15/2005 1:18:10 PM

MHOO314

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yes, listen to EmeraldSlave, her advice is very sound---and do not give over anything like paychecks, bank accounts etc. until you are more experienced---

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RE: collar - 12/15/2005 1:37:59 PM

nephandi

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So how are things going OP it is a time since you posted the first post, how have things turned out? All well i hope.

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RE: collar - 12/18/2005 7:06:22 AM

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I'm not collared yet. I won't be until my Sir and I meet in person

Im not judging, but i certainly have a hard time understanding why the subject of collaring and thinking about it enough to post about it is even on the forefront of your mind at this point of not meeting...

Is it the wise, wonderful Master you seek or the collar?

I have been in the lifestyle almost five years, I still consider myself very much a rookie...I have been involved in a complete D/s relationship for the last year and very content to be owned, yet uncollared. I sought the wise wonderful Master and He found me...

I do wish you success however you define it.

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RE: collar - 12/18/2005 8:38:27 PM

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We should start another thread....why the rush to collar?
Shouldn't it be an important symbol of a (hopefully) lasting relationship?
That's how I would view it. And I wouldn't be impressed by anyone who offered one quickly and to every person.

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RE: collar - 12/18/2005 9:47:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

I kinda agree with Iron. My advice to novices is ALWAYS wait at lesat 6 months before even considering getting into a serious commitment.

No one has yet listened to that advice, but I still consider it sound.

The only thing you need to know is be honest, be yourself, take your time, understand exactly what you're agreeing to and don't let anyone tell you that you're "wrong" for wanting what you want and making the right choice for yourself.

Trust me, there will be plenty of people telling you whats right and wrong. No matter what you end up doing.

I've seen you give this advice before... and heard similar from friends in the lifstyle.
It is sound advice, as i've noticed is the case with many of your replies to posts here.
Note that it Has been heeded by some of us.
Some of us, while still relatively new to the lifestyle, are smart enough to realize that we have much to learn, and take note and pay heed to, and appreciate the wisdom imparted by those who have been once where we are today.
Thank You and others here and in my social world who are generous with their thoughts and advice.
Now...
That said.... i sometimes get a little impatient with the fact that it seems like i've been searching forever for the right Dom... i sometimes want everything Right Now.
Yet, i will not accept a collar until such time as I am ready to make a serious commitment to serve a Dom. And that kind of commitment will not be made lightly, without knowing him well, knowing that he is right for me... and that i am right for him. Just because i think he may be the one for me, may not necessarily mean that i am what he needs.
So while I long to be collared, long to be claimed by a Dom or Master as his own, i will go slowly, and make sure i'm making the right decision.

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RE: collar - 12/19/2005 3:03:52 AM

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i agree , go slowwwwww. It took me over a year to find MasculineDom on here ( leaving his real name out for privacy). I talked to many , and made sure i submitted to none , because why submit in any form until you personally know that they are good for you , and have the same beliefs. i am owned but not collared yet. i personally think he is "the one" and hope it stays that way. my advice is go slow, proceed with caution , meet Dominants publically for coffee and talk, talk , talk. Communication and understanding are key to any successful relationship.

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ORIGINAL: cravinspankin

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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

I kinda agree with Iron. My advice to novices is ALWAYS wait at lesat 6 months before even considering getting into a serious commitment.

No one has yet listened to that advice, but I still consider it sound.

The only thing you need to know is be honest, be yourself, take your time, understand exactly what you're agreeing to and don't let anyone tell you that you're "wrong" for wanting what you want and making the right choice for yourself.

Trust me, there will be plenty of people telling you whats right and wrong. No matter what you end up doing.

I've seen you give this advice before... and heard similar from friends in the lifstyle.
It is sound advice, as i've noticed is the case with many of your replies to posts here.
Note that it Has been heeded by some of us.
Some of us, while still relatively new to the lifestyle, are smart enough to realize that we have much to learn, and take note and pay heed to, and appreciate the wisdom imparted by those who have been once where we are today.
Thank You and others here and in my social world who are generous with their thoughts and advice.
Now...
That said.... i sometimes get a little impatient with the fact that it seems like i've been searching forever for the right Dom... i sometimes want everything Right Now.
Yet, i will not accept a collar until such time as I am ready to make a serious commitment to serve a Dom. And that kind of commitment will not be made lightly, without knowing him well, knowing that he is right for me... and that i am right for him. Just because i think he may be the one for me, may not necessarily mean that i am what he needs.
So while I long to be collared, long to be claimed by a Dom or Master as his own, i will go slowly, and make sure i'm making the right decision.

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RE: collar - 12/19/2005 1:46:14 PM

Noah

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ORIGINAL: sexyuksub

I am novice to being a sub.. As I don't want to rush into being collared please advise what is the normal rules when a collar is first mentioned?

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IronBear
...run like hell ...

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EmeraldSlave2
I kinda agree with Iron...

... etc.

Fer chrissakes, the question was what to do when the word is mentioned.

So after a week or a few months of really seeming to hook with this guy and everything's going real well and looking somewhat promising he says maybe: "Collars mean a lot of different things to different people. Have you given the whole idea any thought?"

And you guys want this girl to head for the hills?

Maybe the sky really isn't falling, C.L.

I think that it would be just fine for the original poster to think that the world really hasn't come to an end and maybe, you know, stick around and answer the question.

My question to sex-yuk-sub is: what's so yucky about sex?

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