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snugglepet -> Could it still be love? (4/7/2008 5:38:12 PM)
When he calls it off and then after a period of time rejoins your life, leaving mixed messages, and all you have ever wanted was him. No one else could or ever would compare to him, what are you supposed to do? Is it wrong to still love him? Is it wrong to still want to be with him? He is not clear as to what he wants from you, so what do you do? He has also said that he will be around no matter what, and if you were to move, be with someone else, the bond is still there and that you will always be his when the time is right? Any suggestions? Is this just foolish fantasy? thank you for your time

hopelesslyInvo -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/7/2008 5:46:31 PM)
sounds more like "was it ever love?"... if he's playing a retarded game, remove yourself from the retarded board. if you open your eyes and give others chances, you might still think of him, but most likely the only thoughts of him will be how insufficient and a waste of time he was in comparison to someone who is worth being with. don't make someone a priority when you're nothing more than an option to them.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/7/2008 5:55:55 PM)
Relationships need more than love. Ask yourself if this relationship would really fulfill you? If you are weak, admit you are weak, and do not allow it to control you.

MladyHathor -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/7/2008 6:02:15 PM)
*even the string in a yoyo breaks eventually.*

katie978 -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/7/2008 6:45:44 PM)
It certainly sounds like he's playing you and you're living in a fantasy world that love will make everything better. It won't, it will just make you hurt more when he screws you over. "He also said..." The kind of people who screw around with people's emotions tend to be particularly eloquent when it comes to elaborating a fantasy future they have no intention of living up to. It's not wrong to still love him, but you need to consider what's best for you, without emotions getting in the way. "No one else could or ever would compare to him..." In my experience, people who fall in love strongly and quickly do so over and over. The incomparable jerk with his mixed messages will seem like a bad dream if you give your love to someone more deserving. Good luck.

obis -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/7/2008 6:51:51 PM)
I don't think it's ever wrong to love someone, or desire them. But don't act on it unless they are reciprocating in their actions, and it sounds like he isn't. If he can't make you a priority, you can't make him one without just dragging yourself over coals forever and windind up nothing but burned. Love him, wish him well, and find someone else. You'll love others in a different way and for different reasons, and they'll be a lot better for you to put energy into.

HopeLost -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/7/2008 6:53:10 PM)
until he knows what he wants you will be getting hurt. its not a risk i would take time and again.

Leatherist -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/7/2008 7:03:40 PM)
Sounds like a flake-can you do better?

DrkJourney -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/7/2008 7:07:51 PM)
When I first got a computer, I "fell" for this guy in a chat room. The first time we chatted he got upset over something that he read in my expectations. Didn't ask for an explaination or talk it over, just flew off the handle. I walked away, didn't bother me. He tried to contact me a few weeks later I'd have nothing to do with him. Turns out we had a mutal friend and he got her to talk to me and give him another chance. Someone that would go to all that trouble had to be serious right? wrong! He would talk a good game, then when we get close he'd go "poof", always after a nice conversation, no disagreements, and ending with "love" (well that level of it any way)...always returning with some lame excuse for going away. This happened off and on for about three years. [sm=boohoo.gif]Yes, stupid me, I was in love. oh and I could give him the best excuse for his behavior, he had a bad marriage and a horrific divorce...so...ya know...boo hoo....lol Then on one of his "trips" back to me...he made the mistake of telling me he was going to be in my state, so I packed my widdle bag and drove all the way to Dallas to meet him...well...one of the "excuses" that I gave him is that with all he'd been through, if he could just see me, and see I"m flesh and blood and not just words on a computer screen or a voice on the phone, that would be the final connection right? no more games? WRONG! We had a wonderful time, we laughed, we had fun, no disagreements...he called me the day I got home, to make sure I got home ok, another good conversation, talked about the fun we had on the trip and how much closer we felt.... and then....you guessed it, he went poof. That was in 2004. The jerkwad had the nerve to contact me again here a few months ago. It was hard, but I was totally cold and let him know...game was over....so far no more contact and I know you won't believe it at the place you are now....but it's a relief not to hear from him again. These guys have loads of techniques, that always seem to get under our radar. I personally don't see what people get out of playing with other's emotions, saying how wonderful it is, that we have this "connection" and making all these plans to meet, etc. just had one do it to me, just last week...but unfortunately it's the nature of the beast on here....you vent and you move on, I usually put some remark in my journal, then delete it after a day or two...just makes me feel better...LOL ...don't let them own any more of your life than they already have. I wish you luck, and strength....hang in there :>

TwistedLeather -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/7/2008 7:31:06 PM)
We can't help the things we feel. We can, however, help the way we react. In other words, accept your feelings, whatever they may be. Only you can know what's really deep down inside of you. Then take a step back and decide what the best course of action is. What's best for YOUR welbeing? Eventually, your heart will catch up to your head.

laura2161 -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/7/2008 7:32:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hopelesslyInvo don't make someone a priority when you're nothing more than an option to them. I haven't posted on this board yet, tho I read quite often and THAT one little sentence is priceless. It says it all. Perfect.

TethersEnd -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/7/2008 7:40:45 PM)
Shake off the ~happily ever after~ thoughts. As much as we'd love to think others can change it's rare they do. Here's the thing, you may honestly love him and any time you can love someone its a good thing, but dont let your love blind you, dont suffer due to it and NEVER EVER expect it to be returned as given.

Luciferica -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/7/2008 7:44:02 PM)
It's easy to think you've found the one and only guy who will ever love you, but honey, if he's not stable, then run, it'll hurt at first, and you may never forget, but someone better will eventually show up, meanwhile work on loving the important person here: you.

DesFIP -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/7/2008 7:44:57 PM)
It's not love or he wouldn't have gone without contacting you all this time. He's without a warm body to fuck is all, and wants yours till something better comes along. Run away. You deserve so much better than this ill treatment.

catize -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/7/2008 8:07:41 PM)
I refer to those who do this as the “come here-come here—get away-get away” folks. They only want what they can’t have and lose interest once they get it. They are toxic and you only start feeling better once you have broken the connection. The Voice of Experience

domahpet -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/7/2008 8:11:11 PM)
poor snuggle, it happened to me once too dude just stopped, after about seven months. decided he was needing a break. then he came back. and i really did care about him so i said ok. then he did it again. then he tried to come back again. talk about confusion! of course i love you baby i always have, blahblahblah. fortunetly for me there was enough time without him the second time for me to realize i was only an option. its a hard decision to make, but one of the times you absolutly HAVE to think of yourself first. Good luck

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/8/2008 4:55:10 AM)
It isn't wrong to still love but is it healthy? Would this relationship be fulfilling , healthy and happy for you? People are ex's for a reason.

Daddyslilpookie -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/8/2008 10:22:30 AM)
It seems like he is stringing you along, but if you love him you need to sit down and have a talk. I would say to him look you can't just appear and reappear into my life it is either we are together or not. If not I would drop him and find someone who is more dedicated to the relationship.

gypsygrl -> RE: Could it still be love? (4/8/2008 10:34:39 AM)
quote: No one else could or ever would compare to him, what are you supposed to do? ...Is it wrong to still love him?... I'm feeling kind of sappy and weepy today, but I think its possible to love someone deeply and honestly but still have to let them go. Maybe keep him in that place inside where you keep other things you've loved but but had to leave. Most of all, try not to be too cynical.

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