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MaamJay -> RE: Who Does this happen to more frequently? (4/8/2008 10:58:32 PM)
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ORIGINAL: kallisto
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Nope. Haven't been stood up. And I don't look nearly that good in a bikini.
That was my exact thought as well. [:)]
Yeah well, on Me a bikini would look like 2 rubber bands on an egg LMAO! I've not been stood up for an actual meeting ... one boy arrived rather late cos he got lost LOL ... and got there just as I was leaving. he paid for that later [;)]
However, I've had quite a lot go "poof" as soon as a meeting was talked about seriously and that's annoying. All that ground work and time goes to waste. The weirdest one was a boy I'd spoken to extensively for over 2 months online and on phone, who was all set to come and visit, then phoned the night before to say he had been collared online to someone in Germany for 6 years and was instead going over there to marry her, he was just "testing his loyalty to her"! I was NOT amused and told him so in no uncertain terms, as did Master when he had the nerve to call back. Suffice to say he had the cheek to phone again about 6 months later when it hadn't worked out (surprise surprise!) and would I take him back? My reply is unprintable here LOL!
The one that annoyed Me most was one I met in person, and found him quite charming. he seemed very warm towards Me, he initiated a hug and asked if I would allow him to kiss My cheek on departing, which I did. All looked good and W/we made a date for a first play session. It was to be a morning session as he didn't have to go into work that day till 3pm (chef). he was a no show ... didn't phone either despite having landline and mobile numbers, didn't answer his mobile, so there I was, all dressed up in My Dungeon and no place to go (and no arse to spank!). Later I got an email from him with what I considered to be a pathetic excuse: "My friends had their first baby yesterday and I'd promised them when that happened I'd go and celebrate with them to "wet the baby's head" and I was hungover this morning". I cut him off at that point. My reasoning was (a) I don't want someone who can't control his drinking and (b) there was no need to get drunk to celebrate. he could have honoured his commitment to them, gone and had a drink or 2 and stopped at that, told them he had a morning appointment and couldn't stay out late or drink too much. So (c) I also didn't want someone who put Me that low on his priority listing and who (d) was unreliable.
For a while, when I had a series of "poofs" I did step back and think "Well You're the common denominator here, what are You doing wrong?" I think with a couple I had wanted a meeting before they were necessarily entirely comfortable with that ... but I just wanted a coffee meet, nothing more. I don't want to chatter endlessly online and I had made that clear. However, I think most were simply more than happy to dream about this, to talk about it ... but were unlikely to ever get serious enough to actually meet someone and take this forward in real. I think I just hit an unlucky streak of those! What was important was not to get jaded, not to treat the next guy as if he was bound to do Me wrong. Instead I focused on thinking "You never really know when today will be THE day ... when the one You begin to talk to will turn out to be THE one that You want". So I try to treat each in a fresh way. And right now, holding breath almost ... I have been talking to one that seems a VERY good prospect who is hoping to be here for a first meeting and visit within the next week or so, depending upon his job (he's a pilot). Definitely don't want (or expect) this one to go "poof!"
Maam Jay aka violet[A]
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