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ORIGINAL: antipode

Why would I want to contact my sub?

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We talking cyber nonsense here?

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ORIGINAL: submissfifi

Hi Dom/Masters/Sirs,

I was thinking of something today, and wondered if you lovely people could give me some insight into the dominant mind. How often do you contact your sub? once a day? or more/or less? And if you were going to be away on holiday or you were ill..would you let your sub know this? I understand that times can be busy, but it can only take a few seconds to say that your going away-if its a holiday its got to be planned out so surely there is time before leaving to say, but when your ill its a bit harder...but then theres text messages or a phone call if you can't get to the pc to email etc.and that can be done when your over the inital illness and just needing to recover..I'm just wondering if I'm being unreasonable in this request? Because keeping in contact to me, lets me know where you as a dom are at, if your ill, busy etc...I can understand, and even help..

Many thanks,

submissfifi x

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

How often I contact the boys depends greatly on how often they are going to be available. Angel's schedule is not terribly forgiving. I speak to him several times a week on IMs, see him about once a week and we rarely call one anotehr aside from to leave voicemails. I consider it a step up if we actually catch one another on the phone during the weekend at some point.
I talk to Fox several times a day. He is far more contact dependant than Angel is. At the moment, we talk less becasue his cell phone was lost in the car wreck and he has to wait until he is infont  of his computer in order to be able to message me.
When I was ill, I told the boys I was not well and that was that. They knew how to reach me if they needed me, and knew not to expect to hear from me until I was feeling better.  I am not a social person when I am ill, and they were advised to keep their distance unless I invited them down. They both listened well, although they hated the idea.

And no, Antipode, this has nothing to do with cyber-nonsense. Both my boys are realtime. Neither live WITH me, nor will they for quite some time. Angel has his own apartment, closer to where he works than I live, and is also a parttime studet until the end of this semester. It will be even trickier to contact him whe he gets his army commission and is at basic, and then eventually deployed somewhere. I will not be giving him up, we will just have to rethink contact methods for a while.
Fox is a full time student a city away and lives on campus when he is at school lives with his family when he is not. I contact them because that is how we keep our relationship up, sine without contact via phone or messenger, I cannot make plans for contact face to face. The boys havent quite learned mind reading yet.

DV

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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

Always make the promise well within the capability you KNOW you can manage then anything else is a bonus.... if you do it the other way around and fall short then all you are doing is building insecuritys.

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ORIGINAL: awakenednj

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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

Always make the promise well within the capability you KNOW you can manage then anything else is a bonus.... if you do it the other way around and fall short then all you are doing is building insecuritys.

:::swoons:::  So there is someone out there who believes this :::swoons again:::

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

But we discussed contact, how much we needed, just like we discussed everything else. I need a lot of contact. To someone who only wants a quick phone call on Thursday afternoon to clarify plans for the weekend, I would seem to be 'needy' or 'codependent' and in return I might consider such a person as cold or emotionally unavailable. Where the truth lies I don't know, I only know that I'm not compatible with someone who needs a lot less contact than I do.