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Pavel -> I claim this board for spain! (10/7/2005 3:27:09 PM)
Seriously, where is everyone? Isn't there something and switchy we could be talking about? It's been 4 days since anyone has bothered to post in here, are we just that boring? So in the spirit of getting things rolling, how did you come to the conclusion that you were a switch? Was it just somthing you always felt, or where you on one end or the other, and just felt the need to expand?

Evanesce -> RE: I claim this board for spain! (10/7/2005 6:23:20 PM)
quote: So in the spirit of getting things rolling, how did you come to the conclusion that you were a switch? Was it just somthing you always felt, or where you on one end or the other, and just felt the need to expand? Personally, I dislike the label of "switch," but it's the only one people seem to understand. On the one hand, there's Master, to whom I cannot NOT submit. But I want to rule the roost... just not His roost, if that makes any sense. I enjoy inflicting pain on a willing bottom. But I also enjoy the headspace I find when He's inflicting pain on me. I guess... I'm a switch just because I am.

Saint -> RE: I claim this board for spain! (10/8/2005 7:56:05 AM)
I started out as Dominant, and for the longest time tried to deny the fantasies and thoughts I would have about being put into a submissive position with the right person. It caused me to have a lot of emptyness inside that I couldnt really comprehend. I think at the time, I saw someone who was submissive, as being weak minded and I couldnt tolerate that within myself. I dont hold that view now, I grew out of it and know it for exactly what it is, BS. Hmm, where to go with this? I finally did discover my submissive side, and it confused the hell out of me for around 5 months. I have always acted in a lot of instances, 'animalistic' and friends would joke with me saying I should explore that. So one day I did. I jumped onto mirc and went into a puppy play chatroom just to debunk that side of myself, to exorcise that curiousity of mine. To get rid of and be done with it so I could get back to my normal self. Imagine my surprise when I found that I was more turned on then I had been in a long time. lol Talk about confusion issues! After that incident, I slowly started exploring that in real life with good friends of mine in the community, and eventually I decided it was time to publically announce my new change in status from that of Dominant to switch. And there I have been ever since.

itzelwing -> RE: I claim this board for spain! (10/9/2005 8:31:07 AM)
I think that's part of the reason this area has been so slow... most of the "easy" questions, like this one, have been asked. But in the spirit of cooperation, to restate and rephrase what I posted on this earlier, I have pretty much always been switch, particularly in the S&M aspect of the scene. My nature is pretty evenly distributed between the sadist and masochist, and I have found heavenly enjoyment from both roles. When you start to get more into the D/S side of things, I'm a little more one-sided. I'm not a willing submissive, although I can be taken there by the "right" dominant... and usually only if it's done in concert with S&M. However, I find the dominant role comes quite naturally. By the way, I've read where many of the other switches on this forum are in switch relationships. That is not my case, and I don't want it to be. For me, to have a real, long term relationship the roles needed to be less fluid. Therefore, with my Kat, I am the Dom and she the submissive. If I order her to give me sensation, she will do so, but only within certain limits. If I have the need to bottom, I will find a strong and competent top to do the honors, and Kat will be there to help with aftercare. Ahh... but I ramble.

Evanesce -> RE: I claim this board for spain! (10/9/2005 12:31:07 PM)
quote: By the way, I've read where many of the other switches on this forum are in switch relationships. That is not my case, and I don't want it to be. For me, to have a real, long term relationship the roles needed to be less fluid. That's how we are as well. I have no desire to see Master in a submissive position or role. He is Master. Period. To see Him as anything BUT Master would probably cause serious damage to our relationship. And to inflict pain upon Him? Only time that's gonna happen is when we have our occasional "toy wars" from across the bed.

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