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chyanna -> confused (4/10/2008 10:13:38 AM)

Today i was using another chat facility, and my best friend who is Dom was in the same room.. he put a message in the room for me to strip off and start to play to his direction.
I refused point blank, because something like that is for someone special and certainly not in public
i have more self respect for that
He no longer speaks to me because i refused Him....was that all he wanted from me,
Im a woman not a peep show.......public i wont do for a Master in private i would
who is right and wrong here??



kittinSol -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:14:44 AM)

If he no longer speaks to you because of something like this, I would reconsider calling him 'my best friend'.



sirsholly -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:16:23 AM)

He was out of line and pushed the bounds of friendship, imho. But my guess is his anger is moreso related to the public embarassment than to your refusal. He has no one to blame but himself.



chyanna -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:17:10 AM)

Yes, i see that error now, i have deleted or blocked all access to me by me.
Is pride and self respect so wrong. He didnt give a damn



mzbehavin -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:18:23 AM)

Open cyber in random chatroom w/ NonMaster = Hard limit for me too.



chyanna -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:20:25 AM)

I have never done that in public infact hardly online....I prefer a Dominant who likes to get to know the submissive first develop the bond and trust, not to be treated like a piece of meat.



colouredin -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:21:41 AM)

Bit confused, it was just silly cyber nonsense? and your best mate doesnt talk to you any more over it? Sigh the worlds a funny place sometimes



givemyall -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:21:59 AM)

My initial reaction to your question was 'do you really have to ask?' - and I've sat here pondering about if it sounded a little harsh as I don't like to upset people with words, but im sorry to say that my initial reaction covers what I think, but I would like to add that I'm glad you have respect for yourself, because your so called best friend doesn't have any for you. 



chyanna -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:24:13 AM)

No he was serious , strip off spread legs get good cam position and play!!  my gift is special and therefore given to someone special



chyanna -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:26:07 AM)

ty for that givemyall.......i have been taught all along to have self respect, pride and to show dignity.....so i do



colouredin -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:26:26 AM)

So why is your post a question? do you really need validation?



camille65 -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:28:32 AM)

I think that sometimes a person just needs to talk something out, even if it seems obvious to someone else.



mzbehavin -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:28:52 AM)

Wow.... yikes.... That was rude of him. Time to weed your garden of friends. I have garden tools if you need any. xox



chyanna -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:29:39 AM)

i asked because i wanted to seek peoples opinions from all sides of the lifestyle.
If i was wrong too, im sorry and wont post an matter that was awkward for me to interpret



Poetryinpain -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:30:52 AM)

I say he's pouting because you turned him down in front of others. His actions in the chatroom were not those of a friend - they were those of someone who created the illusion of friendship for his own purposes. He was not a true friend, and he certainly was not the best friend you can find.

Wash your hands of him. Let him go his own way, and go your own way. I hope you don't feel hurt by what he did - confused would be a totally understandable reaction, though.

pip, hoping you find a good friend



colouredin -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:31:01 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: camille65

I think that sometimes a person just needs to talk something out, even if it seems obvious to someone else.


Maybe, but then it doesnt need the posing of the question whos wrong and whos right, she seems very sure that he was wrong, I think he sounds like an idiot myself thats not really the point, I just kinda didnt understand it.



colouredin -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:32:21 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: chyanna

i asked because i wanted to seek peoples opinions from all sides of the lifestyle.
If i was wrong too, im sorry and wont post an matter that was awkward for me to interpret


Im not trying to be mean i just didnt understand the purpose of the questions, I do think you are right but you dont seem to think you are wrong, Im sorry it happened and you are better off out of it in my view.



camille65 -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:33:08 AM)

chyanna it isn't 'wrong' to ask questions or opinions, just expect that when you do so on a public message board you will get all sorts of responses. I suggest that if you get responses that don't apply or work for you then just skip them, sometimes though the answers you don't like may just be the answers you need.[sm=2cents.gif]



Daddyslilpookie -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:36:18 AM)

He is in the wrong, is he your Dom? If not then I wouldn't worry about it. As for saying he is your best friend, I wouldn't even let him be worthy of the title just my 2 cents. Also he isn't even a friend because what he asked you to do is extremely direspectful.



chyanna -> RE: confused (4/10/2008 10:41:30 AM)

after today, i am not going to waste my time on the man i have more important things to do.........Like finding my "one"



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