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RE: Question on roles. - 4/10/2008 12:54:19 PM   
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that is, what it is, a relationship from hell. it sounds like the someone is complaining she is bitter he says she is unreseanable, if a sub truely adores his Mistress.  the word unreasonable would not apair on the list, a good relationship is where every one is happy ; only to happy with everythng he does and she is happy with what she is doing and what she is getting out of the relationship, is a sub/slave  gives his gift away he has his submission if he or she has no one to give it to guess what? he isnt living his lifestyle . maybe thats why i am still single LOL

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RE: Question on roles. - 4/10/2008 12:56:32 PM   
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he isnt living his lifestyle .


Gotta say, im shocked it took this long for a comment like this to come up, im not gonna bite this time i dont think though, just sigh and smile knowingly


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RE: Question on roles. - 4/10/2008 1:10:22 PM   
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Does this make me a true (twue) sub, and/or does this make Her a True (Twue) Domme.  Be careful how Y/you answer, there is a bit of a trick here.


does that mean you want to hear ;  YES   ?

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RE: Question on roles. - 4/10/2008 4:01:02 PM   
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Relationships aren't about what you DO, orientations aren't about what you DO, they are about who you are and how you interact.  Who had the authority?  Who wanted the authority?  Were you fulfilled in an authority dynamic?

The who wipes or whips which ass is irrelevant.

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RE: Question on roles. - 4/10/2008 4:15:14 PM   
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Other than the sex aspect, it sounds like she's a toddler.  But hey, if you like the way it is, then it's true for you.

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RE: Question on roles. - 4/10/2008 9:30:56 PM   
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Some of the age threads of late have made me wonder, Am i a true (twue for those who go there) sub.
some history:
i have been in a relationship with a female who:
       1. did not want to have sexual relations with me.  And She had a great deal of control/say as to how i relieved that situation.
       2. who wished me to be extraordinarily attentive to Her needs, desires and complaints, and who counted on me to use my best discretion to resolve those issues.
        3.  Who seemed to enjoy my presence, but occasionally would ignore me if She was not pleased with the world in general, or my speed at meeting Her needs, requests, desires.
         4.  She counted on me to bring Her food and Serve it to Her.
         5.  She allowed me to bathe and dress Her.
         6.  She allowed me to  (and expected me to) clean up after Her, do Her laundry, occasionally allowed me to brush Her hair.
         7.  She allowed me to handle Her finances and, if we went shopping together, She would let me know what She wanted or needed, and rightfully expected me to pay Her way.  (Yes, She would complain bitterly if i told Her that She was being a bit unreasonable)
          8.  She had my undying devotion and unconditional love.

Does this make me a true (twue) sub, and/or does this make Her a True (Twue) Domme.  Be careful how Y/you answer, there is a bit of a trick here.

That's my little girl.  Except that now she's 15, and things are a bit different.

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RE: Question on roles. - 4/10/2008 9:36:00 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: atursvcMaam

Some of the age threads of late have made me wonder, Am i a true (twue for those who go there) sub.
some history:
i have been in a relationship with a female who:
       1. did not want to have sexual relations with me.  And She had a great deal of control/say as to how i relieved that situation.
       2. who wished me to be extraordinarily attentive to Her needs, desires and complaints, and who counted on me to use my best discretion to resolve those issues.
        3.  Who seemed to enjoy my presence, but occasionally would ignore me if She was not pleased with the world in general, or my speed at meeting Her needs, requests, desires.
         4.  She counted on me to bring Her food and Serve it to Her.
         5.  She allowed me to bathe and dress Her.
         6.  She allowed me to  (and expected me to) clean up after Her, do Her laundry, occasionally allowed me to brush Her hair.
         7.  She allowed me to handle Her finances and, if we went shopping together, She would let me know what She wanted or needed, and rightfully expected me to pay Her way.  (Yes, She would complain bitterly if i told Her that She was being a bit unreasonable)
          8.  She had my undying devotion and unconditional love.

Does this make me a true (twue) sub, and/or does this make Her a True (Twue) Domme.  Be careful how Y/you answer, there is a bit of a trick here.


The trick is that it's your daughter, who you've raised from birth and is now grown up and on her own, no longer really needing her father to provide for her as she once did, but the lessons you've taught her and the love you've allowed her to grow up with will never fade from her mind.

Although honestly, what normal little girl DOESN'T keep her father wrapped around her finger at all times?    I'd say being a "daddy's girl" is about the twue-est form of exerting power over someone out there!


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RE: Question on roles. - 4/10/2008 10:42:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: atursvcMaam


Does this make me a true (twue) sub, and/or does this make Her a True (Twue) Domme.  Be careful how Y/you answer, there is a bit of a trick here.


I kept waiting for the point of the post and the trick sheesh

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RE: Question on roles. - 4/11/2008 1:04:27 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie

quote:

ORIGINAL: atursvcMaam

Some of the age threads of late have made me wonder, Am i a true (twue for those who go there) sub.
some history:
i have been in a relationship with a female who:
      1. did not want to have sexual relations with me.  And She had a great deal of control/say as to how i relieved that situation.
      2. who wished me to be extraordinarily attentive to Her needs, desires and complaints, and who counted on me to use my best discretion to resolve those issues.
       3.  Who seemed to enjoy my presence, but occasionally would ignore me if She was not pleased with the world in general, or my speed at meeting Her needs, requests, desires.
        4.  She counted on me to bring Her food and Serve it to Her.
        5.  She allowed me to bathe and dress Her.
        6.  She allowed me to  (and expected me to) clean up after Her, do Her laundry, occasionally allowed me to brush Her hair.
        7.  She allowed me to handle Her finances and, if we went shopping together, She would let me know what She wanted or needed, and rightfully expected me to pay Her way.  (Yes, She would complain bitterly if i told Her that She was being a bit unreasonable)
         8.  She had my undying devotion and unconditional love.

Does this make me a true (twue) sub, and/or does this make Her a True (Twue) Domme.  Be careful how Y/you answer, there is a bit of a trick here.


The trick is that it's your daughter, who you've raised from birth and is now grown up and on her own, no longer really needing her father to provide for her as she once did, but the lessons you've taught her and the love you've allowed her to grow up with will never fade from her mind.

Although honestly, what normal little girl DOESN'T keep her father wrapped around her finger at all times?    I'd say being a "daddy's girl" is about the twue-est form of exerting power over someone out there!



   i actually was pleasantly surprised at everyone's reactions.  sometimes i get the feeling there is a lot of judgemental crap (including my own) on these threads.
   Right on target, i think Her mom would probably have a few nasty words to say if i were to ever to call the little one "Mistress",  although i am giving a great deal of thought to renaming my dog.
  Just as a note, She required closer attention than most, and more than i hope anyone ever has to deal with. 
   This actually is based as a caregiver for special needs child.
        could she interrupt my life? sure.
        did i stop whatever i was doing to go to her aid?  sure.
        Who had the authority?  that was a tough one to answer.  however, she tended to (unintentionally of course) call the shots.  i went to her, she did not come to me, and it was my responsibility to determine her needs without instructions.  i demanded nothing of her.
          Yes, she exerted control with or without words.
          if i sounded at all resentful, i apologize at even portraying that thought. 
          Did we complete each other's lives?   Yes it was a great day if everyone woke up.  She taught me to appreciate what is and not what might be.  i still melt at a smile.
          

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RE: Question on roles. - 4/11/2008 1:10:29 AM   
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quote:

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Does this make me a true (twue) sub, and/or does this make Her a True (Twue) Domme.  Be careful how Y/you answer, there is a bit of a trick here.


I kept waiting for the point of the post and the trick sheesh

BadOne

Sorry if i disappointed you.

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RE: Question on roles. - 4/11/2008 8:55:29 AM   
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I have a problem with the wording of point one, "did not want to have sexual relations with me", because there is an "appearance of impropriety" due to the inference that sexual relations was a possibility for her but she didn't want to, or that you wanted to and she didn't.  Four pence, keep the change.

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RE: Question on roles. - 4/11/2008 9:58:15 AM   
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your 4pence is welcome, and i thank you.
   my attempt was to avoid clouding the issue here.  i could, as easily have said that She was at the age of consent, (but did not have the capacity), and that She is not related to me by biology or by marriage.  i was simply trying to convey that sex was not a part of my thought of Her, nor Her of me.  
     i apologize if there was any appearance of impropriety at all.  and the description is equally as correct for a parent/infant relationship. 

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RE: Question on roles. - 4/11/2008 11:29:44 AM   
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and the description is equally as correct for a parent/infant relationship. 


Yes, yes it is.  As demonstrated by the fact that every time my son and I go to read a book now, he throws the ones I pick out on the floor, and demands one of his choosing.  LOL.  Here's a sample conversation...

Me- "Do you want to read the moon book ('Goodnight Moon'), honey?"
Him- *big grin* *grab, throw, crash*
Me-  "Okay, how about "Is Your Mama a Llama?"
Him - "No." (in the cutest voice possible)  *bang, crash*
This goes on for several more books until he finally sees one he likes, and then...
Him - "Chicky, Mama!  Read Chicky!"  ("Chicky Chicky Chook Chook")
We read it, then...
Him - "Jammy, Mommy!"  ("Jamberry")
And we read that, too, and anything else he picks until he's tired of it or too sleepy to read anymore.

He loves to read, but he apparently doesn't approve of Mommy's taste in books.  Ah well.  It's completely made up for by the fact that he's the most adorable thing I've ever seen in my life.  On our walk this morning we came across a big yellow fire hydrant, at which he elatedly yelled, "Yellow duck!" and gave it a big hug.  I absolutely cracked up.  He's a constant source of joy, love and light in my life. 

Yes, that was off-topic, but I brag whenever I can.

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RE: Question on roles. - 4/11/2008 11:44:18 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: atursvcMaam
and the description is equally as correct for a parent/infant relationship. 


Yes, yes it is.  As demonstrated by the fact that every time my son and I go to read a book now, he throws the ones I pick out on the floor, and demands one of his choosing.  LOL.  Here's a sample conversation...

Me- "Do you want to read the moon book ('Goodnight Moon'), honey?"
Him- *big grin* *grab, throw, crash*
Me-  "Okay, how about "Is Your Mama a Llama?"
Him - "No." (in the cutest voice possible)  *bang, crash*
This goes on for several more books until he finally sees one he likes, and then...
Him - "Chicky, Mama!  Read Chicky!"  ("Chicky Chicky Chook Chook")
We read it, then...
Him - "Jammy, Mommy!"  ("Jamberry")
And we read that, too, and anything else he picks until he's tired of it or too sleepy to read anymore.

He loves to read, but he apparently doesn't approve of Mommy's taste in books.  Ah well.  It's completely made up for by the fact that he's the most adorable thing I've ever seen in my life.  On our walk this morning we came across a big yellow fire hydrant, at which he elatedly yelled, "Yellow duck!" and gave it a big hug.  I absolutely cracked up.  He's a constant source of joy, love and light in my life. 

Yes, that was off-topic, but I brag whenever I can.


NOMC,

That was truly beautiful.  Thank you for sharing that.

Stephan

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RE: Question on roles. - 4/11/2008 11:48:53 AM   
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Thanks for the smile. 

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RE: Question on roles. - 4/12/2008 10:42:13 AM   
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Thank you, Stephann.  He really is the best thing that ever happened to me.  The whole world lights up when he's around.  (And he's the smartest kid I've ever seen.  *grin*)

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