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clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 5:59:42 PM

Tigrita

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Hi all! I have a quick question about other people's experience with clit oversensitivity after orgasm (or even at other times). I have this annoying problem that continued stimulation almost unbearable after orgasms sometimes, and I've talked to others who have it too. I've never really tried to work past this feeling while continuing stimulation. Then the other night I was watching some BDSM porn with my Man, and the girl seemed to have my same issue, screaming for him to take the humongous vibrator away after she came, screaming worse than she was when he was cropping her clit hard as hell... and then after a minute she stopped screaming 'no' and came again.

Has anyone had similar experience? The discomfort for me is almost worse than pain play, but it isn't really 'painful', and it seems to kill my sex drive and make me not even want an orgasm any more for the rest of the night or even days. Has anyone worked past this and had a good orgasm? My Man wants to use it as a form of torment and not relieve the discomfort by stopping the stimulation. Unfortunately we haven't had time to play much lately because I've started new classes and am preparing to start a new job, which is why I'm posting the question instead of personal experience.

edited because my grammar skills have abandoned me now that I'm no loner an academic.

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 6:01:41 PM

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Both men and women experience this. It's quite common.
It's also common for many dom(me)s to torture their sub/slaves with it once they have that knowledge...

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 6:07:07 PM

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*raises hand* I've gotten in trouble more than once for getting to a point where I'm frantically trying to push him away from there with my legs... kind of intense, ya know?

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 6:25:22 PM

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Yep me too...in fact I'm not a big fan of direct clitoral stimulation. Once I've orgasmed any continued direct contact just becomes annoying and unpleasurable.

I much prefer vaginal orgasms and seem to have mastered them quite nicely...

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 6:53:51 PM

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pssssttt....girls....you DO realize there are sadists lurking about these parts, right?

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 7:28:41 PM

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*raises her hand* Same thing here, if it's a clitoral orgasm.

The way I deal with it is to discontinue -direct- clitoral stimulation and shift to the surrounding tissues for a bit. Now that all the blood and nerve arousal is concentrated in that entire general area, even the outer labia are fun to play with. I find if I shift away for a couple minutes, I can go right back and orgasm again (and it's usually even more intense than the first one.)

Practice, pratice, practice....*grins*

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 7:36:09 PM

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It's so intense after a clitoral orgasm that continued stimulation is almost painful. The longer it goes, the more intense it gets. And yep, i happen to know from experience that some Dom/mes enjoy tormenting their girls with this pleasurable "pain." i've begged please, no more... and had to have my hands restrained to keep from pushing him away. To my knowledge, there's no cure for it... but you're definitely not alone.

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 7:45:41 PM

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Yes, it happens to me too. Usually not until after a few clitoral orgasms, but yes, i've done the begging/crying/writhing/ please no more daddy thing a few times... sometimes he stops and sometimes he doesn't. Being able to shift even just a little so that the vibration isn't directly on my clit helps some, but usually it isn't long before i'm begging him to stop again...

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 8:02:09 PM

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You've hit on one of Master's favorite pastimes- allowing me to cum just to then enjoy giving me the torture of clitoral over-stimulation.

At first it was absolutely unbearable for me (that had no effect on His fun, however). After a while (months and months), I could bear it a bit. Then, one day, as He continued, the weirdest thing happened- the torture crossed a line neurologically for me and I stopped begging for Him to stop and started begging for permission to cum again. I was granted permission and had an amazing orgasm.

Since that time, the torture has decreased (not the activity, mind you, just the unbearability of it), but the pleasure has gone through the roof. He can now put hard pressure directly on my clit- enought to move the "root" back and forth- until I can't tell the difference between pain and pleasure. He's now begun to use this overstimulation during other play (including intercourse). It is incredible and very powerful (pun intended). (My last journal entry was about this very subject, actually.)

Another wild thing- I have always considerd my orgasms from the wand as "different" somehow. They are more internal and intense. I had never felt that intensity from anything else- cock, dildo, hand (mine or someone else's) - nothing. A few weeks back, Master was playing around with my new ability to withstand clit torture and I came with the same intensity as if He used the wand. Now, I've been masturbating with a wand since I was 12 or 13, and I never, never, thought to experience that feeling any other way. This really blew my mind.

So, to answer your question- yes, in my opinion, you can be trained past the oversensitivity. And it IS worth it.

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 8:16:37 PM

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I've found it to be extremely common in males with their penises, and fairly common in females as well. In fact a friend/sometimes play partner loves to exploit that line with forced orgasms. Since this is often the only way in which I experience multiple orgasms, it's often an internal fight for me between "yes great orgasm again" and "no too painful"

However, direct clitoral stimulation may become overly much, vaginal stimulation during and after orgasm becomes a gazillion times better than pre-orgasm for me.

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 8:16:44 PM

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quote:

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*raises hand* I've gotten in trouble more than once for getting to a point where I'm frantically trying to push him away from there with my legs... kind of intense, ya know?

Yes I know the feeling it lasts about three times sometimes, but when I am done, it's done.

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 8:27:45 PM

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*raises hand and nods in agreement with madshysoul* It's the same for me. Super sensitive to a degree that is unpleasantly painful (and I'm the first to admit that normally Im a total painslut). But if after I reach that point the sensations are changed to more indirect stimulation for a while or if it's stopped and then started back a bit later, its all good. I just need a pause in between or it can get excrutiatingly painful to the point where Im gonna so get myself into trouble for fighting tooth and nail (literally) to get away.

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 8:57:35 PM

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I can relate completely with Hejira. Daddy knows that there can be a time when direct clit stimulation post orgasm is terribly uncomfortable if He continues messing with me. However, He also knows that if I can just get through that bad few minutes, I'm usually ready to cum again. Once we were playing and I finally said, "Daddy, I'm really sensitive right now, like You get, please stop!" He said very casually, "I know that, but you are not Me, and I want you to cum again." After moaning, groaning, and begging Him to stop, I found that I was this close to having another orgasm and He asked if I wanted Him to stop. I begged Him to continue, which He did, again (total of 3 times). I didn't want to be touched at all after He was done with me, but it was really yummy getting to that point, even when it was painful.

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 9:11:20 PM

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I've always wanted the female perspective on this one...
We shall have to give that a go around.
I've usually stopped when the screaming started...

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 9:29:24 PM

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Usually I can't stand more clit contact after he eats me out but we have tried letting things cool off for a few minutes and went back to it and its fine just have to let the nerves rest a bit and the blood to flow to other places. If I use a vibrator I can cum several times and can continue until my clit has been vibrated against so long that it no longer feels the vibrations....then I can't cum again for a few hours.

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 9:38:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Tigrita
Has anyone had similar experience? The discomfort for me is almost worse than pain play, but it isn't really 'painful', and it seems to kill my sex drive and make me not even want an orgasm any more for the rest of the night or even days. Has anyone worked past this and had a good orgasm?

This has always been an issue for me. I need at least a minute or so of cooldown time between orgasm and further stimulation, depending on how hard of an orgasm I've just had.

Which is quite inconvenient, seeing as my boy can't really hear me telling him to stop with my thighs over his ears, so I've taken to having to push him away once I'm done with him. I keep thinking of rolling up a newspaper and leaving it by the bedside so I can bop him on the nose with it when I'm done!

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 10:14:54 PM

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Thanks for the responses everyone, it is good to know I'm not a freak of nature. And thanks especially to hejira and Daddysredhead, those are exactly the kinds of responses I was looking for, about people who've been forced through it and not given it a rest. My instinct is that this would kill my sex drive severely, as that is what happens when I start feeling it and they stop, I'm just turned off. But if there is a point where it feels good again, without giving it a break, that is very interesting news.

Thanks again all!

P.S. My grammar was even worse than I thought; apparently irreparable. Maybe these new faux intellectual glasses are not working as well as I thought.

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 10:30:34 PM

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No you aren't a freak of nature and for most women, they experience that nagging , even painful sensation that over-stimulation can bring.

BUT, as many women here have confessed, there IS a point beyond where that feeling of "pain" is replaced with a different type of pleasure. Kinda like that point of feeling of wanting to pee for women who squirt first have to pass BEFORE they explode... The key is to be willing to keep pushing on thru it and having someone to simply ignore your pleas to stop because they know what's best for you anyways *grin*...

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 11:16:45 PM

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If all the attention is focused on the exterior, then, yes, clit overstim can become an issue. Fortunately, I've had partners with the experience to just shift the focus of their attention from one hot spot to another, and not only am I multi-orgasmic but I don't even begin to squirt until after the first half-dozen to dozen orgams. It's not just external stim, you see. There's labia, clit, g-spot, vaginal walls, and cervix. A relatively short break will let the clit get a new lease on life, and then it doesn't take anything like the attention to start the next explosion.

But then, when I'm topping one of my subs, CBT doesn't stop at the head of his penis; whatever toys (or just my hands) I'm using, I've got targets all over his crotch.

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RE: clit oversensitivity and orgasm - 4/10/2008 11:21:22 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

pssssttt....girls....you DO realize there are sadists lurking about these parts, right?

*runs off quietly into the night*

heh. Daddy KNOWS this about me. and he loves nothing more to take me from "no, no more...stop...no more!" to "no...dont...oh no, dont....dont STOP...dont you stop, evil bastard!!"

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