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I have no clue - 4/10/2008 6:31:15 PM   
DChammer


Posts: 59
Joined: 10/31/2006
From: DC
Status: offline 		This forum is incredibly useful to me, but have no clue where I fit in.  I have been here for more than a year with only 20 posts.  There is no desire for me to be submissive, I have tried it and I really don't like giving up control.  I don't get the whole domination thing, because of how I feel regarding being a sub.  Don't flame me on those statements please.

I always remember going to my first introduction meetinng for the local alternative lifestyle group and the person leading the group stated "Don't use labels, as everyone's definition of something and everything is differerent from the next persons"  I have always taken that to heart.

I just like to get naked and play and experiment with other people as to what they do.  It is all for the moment, there is no psyche component for me.   I don't care who you are, I just want to have fun not feed a base d/s need.

Yes my profile identifies me as a switch.  It is that damn social requirement to conform.


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RE: I have no clue - 4/11/2008 9:21:42 AM   
chamberqueen


Posts: 1597
Joined: 10/25/2007
From: Kalamazoo, MI
Status: offline 		So you are actually just someone into kinky sex but not the lifestyle, right?  I don't think they have a box to check for that. 

Just because you click a box doesn't mean that it is all that you are.  You can always put the extra in your profile.

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RE: I have no clue - 4/11/2008 10:25:21 AM   
Dmon


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Status: offline 		An ex-friend of mine once used the term Kinkster. No particular base needs. No real need for D or S. Just a honest to goodness kinky mother fucker. Some one who's wants to explore sex, in it's many forms and varieties. Ofcourse you might not be interested in all forms of sex, but your definetly some one who wants to sample all that looks sexually attractive, and maybe even take a risk on something you might doubt.

So maybe your just a Kinkster. To you D/S are a part of a much larger picture. And it also sounds really cool.

Well just my two cents on the subject.


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RE: I have no clue - 4/11/2008 11:46:54 AM   
midgetmafiosa


Posts: 195
Joined: 3/23/2008
From: Maine, and SLC, UT
Status: offline 		Whee! I'm a kinkster! Yay!

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RE: I have no clue - 4/11/2008 12:42:02 PM   
azropedntied


Posts: 1829
Joined: 7/25/2005
From: Phx AZ
Status: offline 		DCh> you sound like a Kinkster  yet just be you if you do not need  a label .

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RE: I have no clue - 4/16/2008 9:35:52 PM   
DChammer


Posts: 59
Joined: 10/31/2006
From: DC
Status: offline 		Ahhh!!   I feel more comfortable now 

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RE: I have no clue - 4/17/2008 1:45:36 PM   
Shawn3006


Posts: 1
Joined: 4/16/2008
Status: offline 		do I need a label?? Do I fit the bills as a switch?? I like the term kinkster but that means little to many on here..

I find myself enjoying all aspects..Dom/sub, top/bottom, and most in between. So I'd say switch is dependent on who I am with and what feelings are invoked within me at the time.


what am I? lol and does it matter to most?

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RE: I have no clue - 4/17/2008 1:47:01 PM   
Leatherist


Posts: 5149
Joined: 12/11/2007
Status: offline 		I'm different-like everyone else-how do you label that?

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RE: I have no clue - 4/17/2008 6:28:20 PM   
SephandElena


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quote:

m different-like everyone else-how do you label that?
quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

I'm different-like everyone else-how do you label that?


Unique! *grinz* Just like all the world.

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RE: I have no clue - 4/18/2008 7:09:42 AM   
DesFIP


Posts: 25191
Joined: 11/25/2007
From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		One of the best bondage tops I know has zero interest in a power relationship. But he still is an acknowledged expert in the field, appears at Shibaricon, and is sought out for his skill.

If you enjoy topping and bottoming in play then you are a switch. Unfortunately the word switch can mean both power and just play. It's your responsibility to make the distinction clear. However cme is more of a place for people into power dynamics. You might do better finding partners if you got involved with your local community. Make friends with other unattached types and service top each other.

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RE: I have no clue - 4/18/2008 7:28:00 AM   
GoddessTeaze


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DChammer

Ahhh!!   I feel more comfortable now 

who cares what you're called?
as long as you're happy!!!

don't worry & B happy!

Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`


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RE: I have no clue - 4/18/2008 9:22:20 AM   
Dmon


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessTeaze

quote:

ORIGINAL: DChammer

Ahhh!!   I feel more comfortable now 

who cares what you're called?
as long as you're happy!!!

don't worry & B happy!

Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`



Heres a little song I wrote.
You don't have to sing it note for note.


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RE: I have no clue - 4/18/2008 9:25:19 AM   
TeachMeTonight


Posts: 67
Joined: 11/13/2006
Status: offline 		It is my observation that there are many levels of BDSM relationships.  The three dichotomies (probably false ones, but still useful) that we tend to think in terms of are
Top/Bottom or Sadist/Masochist, Dominant/Submissive, and Master/Slave.  One of our BDSM educators and teachers that I admire is a leatherman named Skip Chasey aka Master Skip.  Without giving one of these a higher status or a value judgement per se, he suggests that Top/Bottom is the physical dimension of what we do, the Dominant/Submissive is the mental dimenseion, and the Master/Slave is the spiritual dimension.  I do not consider someone who operates in the Top/Bottom spaces any less "lifestyle" than the person who operates in the Master/Slave space.  The fun part is that each of us gets to choose what works for us.  I have known people who totally do not grok the D/S portion of things, and for that matter D/S and M/S people who do not have an SM or physical dimension to what they do.  Still others that are Dominant, Sadistic, and Masochistic all in the same package.  Midori does an interesting workshop called "Beyond Twisted."  She outlines the infinite set of possibilities that we can travel through in our chosen lifestyle depending on things like partner, mood, and what we want at the time. 

Do what works for you and consider the judgement of others for what they are, statements about themselves and not you.

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RE: I have no clue - 4/18/2008 1:44:41 PM   
DesFIP


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Joined: 11/25/2007
From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		I prefer top/bottom to sadist/masochist because for those of us who are bondage freaks, s & m really isn't our thing. We incorporate some pain as sensation play but it isn't the focus.

And I would disagree that to be spiritual you have to aspire to M/s.

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