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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

I'm not a very angry guy. I tend to laugh and smile a lot. I pride myself on being for the most part, level-headed and having a pretty long fuse.

However, like all human beings who experience emotion, I experience anger in various circumstances in varying degrees. Sometimes I get a little angry and easily deal with it. Other times I get really angry and I have to take more drastic measures to keep myself on an even keel.

The worst case scenario is when my emotional trigger is hit. Whenever I am pushed into a position where I am being bullied, forced, restrained, controlled and all in all, "backed into a corner", I get really really angry.

I explode into a ball of rage.

I go on the motherfucking warpath.

For example, one night, my roommate and I got into a little tussle over doing dishes and we both happen to be equally as stubborn, hard-headed and determined to get our way. Things escalated a bit and through his own actions, whether he was aware or not, he triggered that "trapped in a corner" type feeling with me.

Next, I was stomping around the house, spewing obscenities, and moving each stack of dishes, one by one, from the cupboards to the closet in my room, yelling back down the stairs with each trip "LET'S SEE YOU DIRTY MY DISHES AND NOT WASH THEM NOW, @#*@$#**#!"

The next morning I awoke to a closet filled with the majority of my kitchen's content, wondering how the hell I managed to act like such an idiot LOL.

However, the point I am getting at is these kind of incidents are very rare. I can count them all on both hands with some fingers to spare. With self awareness, I know about this trigger and can take steps to avoid it.

But when we talk about anger, it always seems to be synonymous with a loss of control and therefore something we should stay away from and never ever touch.

I don't entirely agree with this.

I consider anger to be very much like lust and sexual arousal. Just like I can control my own sexual arousal when stimulated and keep from fucking someone in the middle of a train station, there has been many many times when I have gotten angry and kept it under control.

I've even managed to use it to constructive ends. The best workouts in a gym I have ever had were when I was angry.

Then there is the real point of this thread...the fact I find it to be downright hot, sexy, and erotic. I absolutely love to get a little riled up and include that emotion during sex. It adds a powerful and intense energy that is just downright "HOT".

Has anyone else included the element of anger in their play, scening, or sex with positive results?

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

Great OP.
My intellectual understanding of anger it's that's it's on a contnuum of emotions, with apathy at the one end of the scale and ecstatsy at the other. Somewhere in the middel therefore I would put anger, which when controlled can express itself as wonderful courage and help to turn the emotions from negative to positive.

In the animal kingdom, as well as us as humans, since we carry the same atavistic chenistry, it forms part of the fight or flight chemical reaction...and then it depends on which point along the animal pecking order an animal is as to what path it normally takes. Birds of prey will, well attack. Sheep will (en masse) flee to the other side of a field and then, about four seconds later, lose all memory of why they were startled and go back to chewing the cud.
(Apparently fish cannot expel the chemistry and can die some time later from shock....but anyone who knows fish can tell me if that's true or not).
But we as humans do a very poor job of dealing with the basic chemistry. It stays around at primary, secondary and tertiary levels and then we try and transact, balance out, how to best use it, cope with it, suppress it, channel it and so forth.
Lecture nearly over....socially the predominat pattern is that it's more ok for males to express anger rthan females...but the gender biases are disipating fast here in oue culture at least.
As for bdsm and anger? Wow, I love anger channelled into a scene. I love being face smacked, asphysiated, whipped, caned, punished and more. The nearer to loss of control anger I can trigger a Dom into the better.
(Still miss 'P' edgy, spomtaeneous, random bursts of anger. I love it when it gets as close to loss of control as possible. BUT I also rspect and trust a dominants ability to control anger. That is the role of a good dominant in my book.
Sexual chemistry is the one certain cessaton of anger. During orgasm the chemistry (and that branch of the nervous system) all get switched and orgasm is a well-wow-I-don't feel-so-wound-up-release eh?
But in sexual sadism the contexts get crossed....that's the bad stuff where the abuse/anger and sexuality are bound uo together.
My love of anger has left scars.....both physical and emotional. Some of my scars were created before I really understood much about my own need for anger from a dominant. I would push and push and push I am ashamed to say, in my vanilla world until I got an angry response.
PMT (moon phases) make me feel as near to anger as I can get without external cause.
When I get crossed, fucked over or abused I can channel my anger BUT I have been known to be a covert female supremacist on the qiet and well....revenge is definitely anger served deep frozen and thrown in icicles.
Wow.......back to the day. Great inspiration. Thank you.