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colouredin -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 2:04:12 PM)
looks through roladex at all the male subbies she knows they are out there

MissSepphora1 -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 2:06:18 PM)
they?? sub men? i'm sure they're out there. quote: ORIGINAL: colouredin looks through roladex at all the male subbies she knows they are out there

colouredin -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 2:09:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissSepphora1 But I think most of the sub men on here are married and looking for a little online kink. It was in response to this hun, seems often that when someone is struggling to find someone they assume that its everyone elses fault. A lot of comments have been made about your profile, it doenst inspire much confidence in you really, you have to give yourself the best possible chance, see I hear a lot about how everyone on these sites are just after kinky sex but I have met so many i couldnt even count them from various sites none of which were like that. So baffles me a bit.

MissSepphora1 -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 2:17:07 PM)
perhaps you live in a more populated area? where there are more people into the scene? the first "munch" i attended, there were about 5 people including me, and it was at a restaurant. exciting... quote: ORIGINAL: colouredin quote: ORIGINAL: MissSepphora1 But I think most of the sub men on here are married and looking for a little online kink. It was in response to this hun, seems often that when someone is struggling to find someone they assume that its everyone elses fault. A lot of comments have been made about your profile, it doenst inspire much confidence in you really, you have to give yourself the best possible chance, see I hear a lot about how everyone on these sites are just after kinky sex but I have met so many i couldnt even count them from various sites none of which were like that. So baffles me a bit.

colouredin -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 2:25:36 PM)
LOL no i dont, i live in a small town in rural england, i travel to events and to visit people online

metalmiss -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 2:32:15 PM)
If i was seeking casual play and speaking to somebody seriously.. Not only would i be considering trusting that person with my safety and potentially my life depending upon the scene, i also have my morals to take into consideration.. is the person married etc.. So yes, i would ask questions.. To get as far as playing with somebody i have to like them, and to like them i have to get to know them to some degree.. With me these things cut very deeply.. i am a slave, not a swinger.

xxblushesxx -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 2:35:37 PM)
OP; your profile is so empty people would HAVE to ask you AT LEAST 20 questions just to get a feel for who you are. When people read my profile, they have a sense of who I am, how I carry myself, and what I expect from friends and others. There are plenty (as in a plethora) of subs looking for a nice domme. Tell them why you are the one for them. Give them a sense of WHO and WHAT you are. Otherwise, why should they want to meet you? When you say you are looking for a sub to take care of all your needs, it makes it sound like more than sex. At least to me. But then you say you don't want to answer questions, and just want to meet in a hotel room...well...are you asking money for these sessions? Just curious. That's perfectly legal of course, as long as no sex is involved.

MissSepphora1 -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 2:35:41 PM)
Well, I draw the line at travelling to see people from online. But you have to remember, England is much, much, much smaller than the US. And I live in the largest city in my state. And there's no scene here. To travel to NY or ATL is out of the question for me. quote: ORIGINAL: colouredin LOL no i dont, i live in a small town in rural england, i travel to events and to visit people online

colouredin -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 2:40:02 PM)
Well i dunno how far that would be, but sure you are right, if you are looking for a specific thing in a small catchment area, are inflexible, have a badly written profile and dont want to answer questions, yeah it will be hard for you, not really a shock is it?

hopelessfool -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 2:54:20 PM)
You talk about someone stalking you MS. I hate to burst your bubble, but every time you connect to an instant messenger, a website, and do anything online, with little to no skill someone can find you if they try hard enough. Hell if you have a photo on the site and view someones profile they tell you how many miles you are from that person. I live in a small area, someone 10 15 even 50 miles from me. I can almost pinpoint what town they are in Not a stalker theres like 10 towns in a 30 mile radius, the rest is farmland As for people wanting to know if you have children, maybe they have a policy on no baby momma drama, or they arent interested in you having to leave the scene because your babysitter bailed. Im a sub, Im in essence putting my life in my partners hand, weither it be for play or not. Im sorry but Im going to want to be DAMNED sure if I safeword out of a scene, your going to respect it and actually listen. Sadly there are at least 2 storys on the news a day about this person or that person being kidnapped or harmed after meeting someone online, and most of these people arent Openly engaging in something dangerous..... disclamer general obvious mentioning warning This is a website Dedicate to people, who enjoy certian kinks. Some of those kinks involve BEATING and HURTING of other people(consentually of course). Things such as Cutting people with sharp objects poking them with needles and general sadistic situations occur. end overly obvious post You Honestly think anyone with more then 5 brain cells isnt going to get to know you and ask questions simply because "Your a mistress and say so?" If the situation was reversed wouldnt you be asking questions as well?

MissSepphora1 -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 3:04:08 PM)
If I wanted to meet a dominant, I can pretty much guarantee I would not ask first thing if they have children. Now, this is the thing. I meet at hotels because I have children and want more than anything to protect them. Would it be healthier if I paraded strange men in and out of my house? HELL NO!!! Should I stop desiring to experience a D/s relationship because I have children? Perhaps it would be more convenient for the sub, but alas, he doesn't need to worry about my babysitter, or my "baby momma drama." By the way, I believe that damn saying only applies if you're the baby daddy. For real. I would like to experience a D/s relationship without all the drama. If I wanted all the drama, I'd have all my business out there for everyone to see.

CalifChick -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 3:07:20 PM)
Okay............. So you really just wanted us all to tell you that you were right? quote: ORIGINAL: MissSepphora1 I would like to experience a D/s relationship without all the drama. Okay, pick one. You either WANT a d/s relationship or you don't. You told us you didn't want a relationship before, now you're saying you do. [sm=m23.gif] Cali

colouredin -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 3:09:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissSepphora1 without all the drama. Most drama we create ourselves.

hopelessfool -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 3:11:36 PM)
-defines baby momma drama as it was explained to her- Any drama or problems that occur when the parents of a um seperate for whatever reason and the opposite parent is involved with the um to some degree that it causes strain or distress on the new partner of the other parent. I.e. Im male I have a standing play session with you, you cant make it because your um's father is causing a disturbence (I dont know if this is the case with you I dont know you)... Your um falls out of a tree, breaks their arm you have to leave our scene to care for um. And If Im taking my time and driving any distance with the price of gas as it is, to scene with you, It is my business to know if my money and my time..is going to be wasted because something came up. Knowing what Im getting involved in is important and I pray its important with others. Its just like knowing if your partner can or cant do this activity due to past trauma.

MissSepphora1 -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 3:16:24 PM)
Jesus Christ, if you're driving all the way to see me - whatever - and all you're worried about the whole time is my kids, then screw you. Don't even bother. Okay, perhaps D/s relationship was the wrong term. I'm looking for a fuck buddy who wants to be tied up and abused. Is that better? Edited because I can, and did.

colouredin -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 3:19:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissSepphora1 if you're driving all the way to see me quote: Well, I draw the line at travelling to see people from online So whats good for the goose isnt good for the gander then? You wouldnt travel but you expect them to? You sneer at online and yet you are looking at online to meet this fuck buddy? Im sorry you are a mystery wrapped in an enigma and really rather a hypocrite.

camille65 -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 3:20:03 PM)
I know a lot of adults w/o offspring that have no interest in dealing with those that have offspring.For some, yup it is important. If so many are asking you for more detail then maybe you need to review what information you give you. Look at it from their standpoint and try to see why they feel the need to seek more answers from you. Some here said your profile doesn't give much, change that and see what happens. Instead of getting upset over try to change it.

MissSepphora1 -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 3:22:28 PM)
That was a hypothetical answer to her hypothetical situation, which is hypothetically bullcrap. The last thing I would be worried about is if my scene partner's kid is going to fall out of a tree. I am looking online hoping to find someone local. Apparently that is not working either. I am not looking for someone to drive to me. Whenever someone messages me, I let them know I am NOT looking for Long Distance. That may be why I had on my profile I'm only looking for real time... huh?

CalifChick -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 3:22:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissSepphora1 I'm looking for a fuck buddy who wants to be tied up and abused. Then perhaps you could try Craigslist. Cali

hopelessfool -> RE: 20 Questions (4/11/2008 3:23:13 PM)
So You and I are in a Scene and I have an imaginary Um, they call because they did something stupid wrong or against the rules and I have to leave our scene. You honestly dont think its nessicary to know this something that is going to interfear with our play. And why are you so open to share about yourself here on a forum but not with a potential partner... it seems to me you just want to have a place to add to your post number and have people feed you attention. If you dont want your life known by people, even when pressured you dont share it, because its your personal life you dont want to share... But obviously... Nevermind....I will not be that snarky... I wish you the best of luck in your search to find what it is you seek Sepp, and hope you have an easy time finding it...

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