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what part is that? - 4/11/2008 11:54:58 AM

gelding

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i was wondering is some could help me understand the two parts of "me"? one part is happy to submit, but one part is embarrassed. Why is this? What is "this part" and "that part"? Thank you.

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RE: what part is that? - 4/11/2008 12:18:12 PM

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one part is your submissive side the other side is your repressive side , if you repress your submissive side then your just well repressed .Why are you embarrassed ? only you through self discovery can answer that .

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RE: what part is that? - 4/11/2008 12:19:57 PM

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RE: what part is that? - 4/11/2008 4:52:03 PM

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Most likely, you are reacting to what you think other people are saying you should be...and you're not.

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RE: what part is that? - 4/11/2008 4:58:26 PM

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Its never easy accepting who you are, especially when it goes against whats considered normal. Talk with like minded people, keep using the forums. In time you will accept yourself more and more. At least thats what i found.

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RE: what part is that? - 4/11/2008 6:54:26 PM

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I am no shrink, but I think we are "socialised" all our lives by family, school, friends and other people to feel embarassment/ shame if we do something other influential people do not want us to do eg getting fat, farting and picking your nose, playing with yourself, stealing, lying, cheating, violence etc

I do not think babies are born feeling shame. It is taught to children by punishing and humiliating them.

We all have desires that are not "nice".

We all experience conflict between our desire to do something and the personal shame we would feel if we do it. Even if we do not get caught doing it, we have been taught to internalise that it is "wrong"

Now you need to ask yourself some questions about the thing you find "embarassing". Is it really wrong and bad? Is it legal? Would anyone else be hurt? Is it against your personal religious beliefs, if any?

If not, why do you feel conflicted? Why are your "parts" arguing with eachother? Is the right thing for desire or shame win this battle?

Self awareness is a great goal in life. Good luck exploring your submissive desires in a way that leaves you feeling pride, not shame. You can be a "good" person and a happy person!!!

< Message edited by MsCfromMelbourne -- 4/11/2008 6:59:49 PM >

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