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fyreredsub -> Protocol? (10/8/2005 6:31:04 AM)

Does this site have a particular protocol for submissives who would like to write to a Dom?
i heard (on another site) that this is not an acceptable practice.
One would think that each Dom would have their own preferences.



ownedjulia -> RE: Protocol? (10/8/2005 6:33:31 AM)

I'm sure there are many Doms on this site that would love to have hear from a submissive.

Why not write a message? Say hello and give a brief reason why your writing then let things go from there!!




mistoferin -> RE: Protocol? (10/8/2005 6:39:38 AM)

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Does this site have a particular protocol for submissives who would like to write to a Dom?


I write to Dominants on this site all the time, most often to compliment them on a well thought out profile. It is generally well accepted amd welcomed but on the rare occasion that they take issue with me making first contact.....well that in itself is a great indicator to me that they are someone I don't wish to have further contact with anyway.



happypervert -> RE: Protocol? (10/8/2005 7:30:18 AM)

Protocol isn't determined by the site -- it is an individual thing. You can probably pick up cues from reading profiles for just how much would be appropriate. However, you could also think of protocol as a kink and use as much or little as you like to test how the other reacts.



obis -> RE: Protocol? (10/8/2005 7:34:38 AM)

It never occurred to me to be offended when subs contacted me. Personal preference.



IronBear -> RE: Protocol? (10/8/2005 7:39:59 AM)

I've never taken offence at any sub who writes to me, never thought of protocol, it is usually someone wanting to make a comment on something I've posted or about my profile or to ask a question. Nothing to get stressed about.



Padriag -> RE: Protocol? (10/8/2005 8:25:36 AM)

Speaking as a dominant I always enjoy it when I find a note from a submissive in my mail box. There is no particular protocol other than just common courtesy. I have said before that I do not think submissive should sit passively waiting for DomCharming to come find them (you'll likely end up with lots of frogs instead). I've also suggested that more submissives ought to take advantage of these msg boards as a way to meet and interact with dominants. It gives you more of a chance to see something of what we are like in social situations, how we deal with conflict, etc.



fyreredsub -> RE: Protocol? (10/8/2005 8:34:16 AM)

Thank you all for your comments.
i do believe i shall keep on the boards.
Some sites the members are rather cliqueish(is this a word?).
Collarme seems much more receptive to learning and meeting others.



sub4hire -> RE: Protocol? (10/8/2005 8:43:57 AM)

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One would think that each Dom would have their own preferences.


Quite sure they do, however how do you know if they wish to be contacted or not until you do?
The lifestyle is the same as the vanilla world. If you are afraid to take a chance you're going to be alone.
The most that can happen is the dominant writes back and essentially says they are not interested.
So, you're shot down by one you try another.



RainGod -> RE: Protocol? (10/8/2005 9:40:05 AM)

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Does this site have a particular protocol for submissives who would like to write to a Dom?


Lol... protocol be damned....! I love getting a nice, well-written, hello-type email from a submissive. It is very charming and sexy as far as I am concerned... as long as it isn't one of those that was cut copied and pasted to about a million other guys... lol
Seriously... I like the ones best that mention specific things about My profile they found interesting, and when they want to know more. That tells Me they are interested in knowing Me, and not just interested in a hit-and-miss Dom hunt.
No, I see nothing wrong with a girl approaching a Man in email first. But of course, I am not much into the internet protocol stuff. I am more like this: If you don't speak up, how will I know you want to know Me?



sweetpettjenny -> RE: Protocol? (10/8/2005 9:44:54 AM)

ain't that the truth ""wink""
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ORIGINAL: RainGod

quote:

Does this site have a particular protocol for submissives who would like to write to a Dom?


Lol... protocol be damned....! I love getting a nice, well-written, hello-type email from a submissive. It is very charming and sexy as far as I am concerned... as long as it isn't one of those that was cut copied and pasted to about a million other guys... lol
Seriously... I like the ones best that mention specific things about My profile they found interesting, and when they want to know more. That tells Me they are interested in knowing Me, and not just interested in a hit-and-miss Dom hunt.
No, I see nothing wrong with a girl approaching a Man in email first. But of course, I am not much into the internet protocol stuff. I am more like this: If you don't speak up, how will I know you want to know Me?




topcat -> RE: Protocol? (10/8/2005 11:52:56 AM)

Midear FRS-

Certainly, don't be afraid to reach out- at the very least it is flattering that you have taken the time, and summed the courage.

As to the note it's self, a salutation, body and closing, is I think all the protocol needed, But do take a moment to spell check it.

Welcome to CM.

Stay warm,
Lawrence



KatyLied -> RE: Protocol? (10/8/2005 12:59:12 PM)

If you see someone who captures your attention, write to him (or her). Every outreach doesn't have to be about the possibility of a relationship. You can make friends here and meet some interesting people.



fyreredsub -> RE: Protocol? (10/8/2005 5:22:59 PM)

thanks TC

quote:

ORIGINAL: topcat

Midear FRS-

Certainly, don't be afraid to reach out- at the very least it is flattering that you have taken the time, and summed the courage.

As to the note it's self, a salutation, body and closing, is I think all the protocol needed, But do take a moment to spell check it.

Welcome to CM.

Stay warm,
Lawrence




fyreredsub -> RE: Protocol? (10/8/2005 5:23:58 PM)

finding a mentor would be nice and making friends with some even nicer

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

If you see someone who captures your attention, write to him (or her). Every outreach doesn't have to be about the possibility of a relationship. You can make friends here and meet some interesting people.




Focus50 -> RE: Protocol? (10/9/2005 3:55:21 AM)

Best "protocol" I can suggest is always just be yourself.

Main reason I now prefer this site to bondage.com is that they changed the email contact rules and it felt like the place had become a ghost town re my email or any other free member. I enjoy the mail I get here, predominantly from fem/subs, and it makes the site feel alive.

If you write to some dom/me (or anyone else) and you get the protocol b/s back, think of them as someone you won't ever have to bother writing to again. You seem fairly outgoing and email attitude sounds like an early indicator for you that they're a waste of time.

Focus.



fastlane -> RE: Protocol? (10/9/2005 5:15:55 AM)

Fastlane requires five letter's sent to five people, who will then send it out to five more, each inserting a dollar with my return address on the envelope, for garaunteed happiness and success in finding your Dominant.

Do you have my address Hon?




Peleeeeze, just express your thoughts to whom ever you wish to here and if they don't like it......Good for you.

My Best, Kevin



RainGod -> RE: Protocol? (10/10/2005 5:54:52 PM)

Focus wrote:

quote:

Main reason I now prefer this site to bondage.com is that they changed the email contact rules and it felt like the place had become a ghost town re my email or any other free member. I enjoy the mail I get here, predominantly from fem/subs, and it makes the site feel alive.


Yeah.... that "other" site has really declined in traffic too since they pulled that bonehead move. This site has far more going for it.



fyreredsub -> RE: Protocol? (10/10/2005 6:18:02 PM)

that is the site this girl speaks of and advice was taken to heart and the email well received.
thanks ya'll, a boost of confidence was what was needed in knowing that it was acceptable here.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Focus50

Best "protocol" I can suggest is always just be yourself.

Main reason I now prefer this site to bondage.com is that they changed the email contact rules and it felt like the place had become a ghost town re my email or any other free member. I enjoy the mail I get here, predominantly from fem/subs, and it makes the site feel alive.

If you write to some dom/me (or anyone else) and you get the protocol b/s back, think of them as someone you won't ever have to bother writing to again. You seem fairly outgoing and email attitude sounds like an early indicator for you that they're a waste of time.

Focus.




angelic -> RE: Protocol? (10/10/2005 7:31:34 PM)

as i've said before... i'm supposed to READ the profiles??? crap i just wanna look at the pictures! [;)]



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