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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/13/2008 2:32:11 AM

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in any case i've seen someone able to do it without any interaction, and at any time they choose, it's like going through the motions of having an orgasm but with an apparent lack of enjoyment, reminds me of the phrase "ruined orgasm". how is it possible? the same way some people can squirt milk out of their eye, it's just something they can do. i don't believe it's something you can teach anyone like whistling, it's more like being double jointed from what i can tell, it'll be something you'll quickly figure out on your own if you're capable.

now just not allowing yourself to reach climax till being told that you can is easy enough, that's just having self control enough to stop, unless it's like "keep doing it but don't have an orgasm till i tell you", all i can say is good luck with that lol.

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/13/2008 2:52:39 AM

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i did not really believe when Master told me i would eventually with training cum at His command. well its true. i cum when He tells me too. i do not fake it.the strenght depends on the amount of play prior but play is not necessary. the only side effect is that i'm unable to orgasm without His command or permission. at a play party i was used by very sexy people. i was very turned on but after much use this girl only came when Master whispered in my ear "cum for me girl".

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/13/2008 8:23:31 AM

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Thank you all so much for your wonderful responses. You gave me lots to think about and discuss with my Sir.

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/13/2008 10:59:21 AM

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I was at a play party once where there were two very well trained subs (male and female) who were participating in a group sex scene with their respective Dom/mes. The male Dom started counting down " 3...2...1... CUM!" for his girl, to which the male sub responded "Dammit <dom's name>!" It appears he was so well trained that it isn't just his Miss he responds to!

Of course, the sport for the rest of the evening was to see how many trained s-types they could get going at once. It was fantastic to watch.

-Corinne

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/13/2008 12:57:02 PM

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It is possible, but it does take control and practice. If I manually masterbate a woman, I can control the pleasure, order her to beg to come, and then take her there. I don't think they are faking it, but that's possible. However, I've had it 'break the mood' and she'll come down quickly, and I have to start all over again.

I do enjoy playing with a woman in this manner. It does take a woman who is comfortable having you play with her without being terribly self-conscious about her body.

I think that is part of the 'trust' thing.

Doing it in a conventional sex act would be much more difficult. But bdsm doesn't usually involve that.

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/13/2008 1:54:38 PM

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During online sessions I am to masturbate but not orgasm until I am told to do so. Sometimes it is very hard not to cross that line but when I do release (on command) it is explosive. We haven't done this yet during our real time sessions, and it may be more difficult for me, but I would imagine that the results will be similar.

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/13/2008 6:46:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Here is the deal, this is a win-win situation if looked at properly...You shoot for the moon, fail miserably and hit the stars.

So very true !

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Do not fake it, constantly cultivate the proper gotta wanna attitude, relax and try as hard as you can (like tai chi, look inward) and remember, failure in this case is really great success........you are just on the journey, you have not missed the destination, you are just traveling slower than we all hope for.

And if the Master doesn't agree with that, kick the fucker to the curb.

Ron

Well said Sir.

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/13/2008 6:57:43 PM

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quote:

Yes it can be done.
But it's rare to really do it.
It would take a long time of intense training and behavior modification.
It would be very difficult to train someone part time -once in a while - play setting.

Actually, I taught myself and it wasn't that difficult. I didn't know it was a 'big deal' until it came up in a conversation with a dominant. ~shrugs~

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/13/2008 7:31:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: phoenix92901

I guess I should preface my question by saying that I'm very new to the lifestyle and in my first (and hopefully, only) D/s relationship. My Sir is very loving, patient and kind and has been introducing me to new ideas and experiences slowly.

He recently brought up the concept of controlled orgasms. From now, I'm to ask for permission to cum. So far he hasn't denied me so I don't know if I'll be able to not cum should he tell me it's not allowed but that's not what I'm curious about at the moment. He said eventually he wants to be able to just say a word and have me orgasm. He admits that it's something he hasn't done before but has read and is curious about.

I can see how some would just fake it for the sake of pleasing the Dom/Domme but I have intention of doing that. Faking an orgasm is like lying and has no place in a good relationship as far as I'm concerned (your opinions may differ, of course). The idea of being able to orgasm at my Sir's command is extemely intriguing. So my question is... have any of you ever been able to orgasm at will?

Thanks in advance for your answers and suggestions.

It can be quite exciting when you use orgasm denial...
I, for one, have held my slaves in absolute anticipation...dripping wet and waiting to explode...
Why I finally gave them permission to cum....
A few of them have actually squirted...
Just great!

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/13/2008 7:52:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: goodpet

So from the behavior modification point of view, it would be very difficult cum on command from a cold start. But in the heat of moment, it can be used to move you over the edge at his command.

QUESTION:

Why do you not see men come on command from a cold start? Cause they can't fake it.

LOLOL!!! This is so true.

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/13/2008 11:21:31 PM

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geez,why do you subs have all the fun.....How cool would it be to just say "veeblefetzer!!!!!", and pop a load in my pants!

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/14/2008 1:14:50 PM

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I once posted on this before. I got a lot of negative response from people who felt i was lying. No need to lie; i can easily come on command. I have no idea why i am so lucky, but i will say that i amat a point in my life where i can climax very easily.

I got involved in my only Ds relationship less than a year ago. He started out right away right away with climax control. i had to ask for permission to come, and i got quite good at it. Still i was surprised to find i could climax at will from a cold start !

It seems i break some of the rules stated in this thread. It was a relatively short period of training maybe 2-3 months and we seldom saw each other more than once in a week. As far as i know He was not trying to teach me this skill, just NOT to orgasm without permission. And while i agree that it is relatively easy to fake climax; i can't imagine how one would fake the squirting.

If you are in the NYC area my Dom might even demonstrate my talent for you.

IG

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/14/2008 11:09:55 PM

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It is absolutely possible to train a girl to cum at will.
I only know because I'm living proof.

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/20/2008 9:51:31 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: goodpet
QUESTION:

Why do you not see men come on command from a cold start? Cause they can't fake it.

Actually this is partially incorrect and partially correct. For a guy to ejaculate on command, without additional stimulation, it's extremely difficult to accomplish simply because that's a rather uncontrollable response. A guy can however learn to seperate the ejaculation and orgasm from each other and orgasm on command just like a woman can. The difference between the two, is that women don't have that obvious physical aspect played out on their end where they tend to link an orgasm to.

< Message edited by CuriousPuppy -- 4/20/2008 9:52:00 AM >

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/20/2008 10:00:21 PM

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I was one of those people who thought it was impossible.

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/21/2008 4:49:42 AM

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My Dominant desires the same of me. It's definately not something I am interested in. I request permission to masturbate or orgasm simply because she enjoys to control me in such a way. I'm willing to sacrifice my privilage to masturbate for her enjoyment. Orgasming on demand seems preposterous, at least to me. I don't think I can spontaneously orgasm on demand, it seems like a very egotistical claim for someone to suggest. If he believes he can train you to orgasm on command, and you're willing to be trained to do so, keep an open mind and good luck.

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/21/2008 5:26:37 AM

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I can come on command and hold off until I have permission. It did not take long to train me to this, but I already can come fairly easily most of the time.
Just as a warning, though, I recently had a horribly stupid experience. My husband and I were staying over with my Master and his wife, as we often do. Master had beaten me and teased the hell out of me, but had not had me come. (He hadn't said anything particular about it that day, I just know I'm not supposed to come unless he tells me) Our time together ended with me extremely riled up and he sent my husband in to be with me. Fine and good, but I never left sub space. I had great sex with my husband... and couldn't come. We told Master. Both my darling guys laughed at me for about ten minutes before they could do anything else. Eventually he told me that I am never commanded not to respond to my husband (which I really know, but it was good tht he said it) and he told me to come, which I did. We have laughed about this for weeks.
The mind is a very powerful thing. Take care in messing with it.

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/21/2008 5:31:20 AM

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Not egotistical for all - simply a fact that they can do it. Yes, it can take training but not everyone requires a lot of training. I think it does need an amount of trust, and in my personal case, love and devotion. It only works for Master and no one else so I don't run the risk of anyone else triggering it. And it's not about faking it, I've trained a few others to be able to do it as well as knowing others who can do it. It may not be something that everyone can do, but it can be done. It's all about where your head and heart are.

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/21/2008 5:37:31 AM

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I never thought it was possible.Now with trust;time and training...(the three t's) i atm very near to the attainment of that goal. .and gosh has it been fun!!!...*giggles*

Smile bunches,

xbx

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RE: Orgasm at will? - 4/21/2008 5:51:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: ThundersCry
As I male, when I was subbing/bottoming, one of my goals as to be able to accomplish...this. What hindered it was some trust issues. It was like a door could not...open. I was always and almost right *there*...coulda put my fist thru a wall a few times =laughs=

Once your able to give that kind of trust and power over to someone...the door opens and like someone else said, it makes some types of setting sooooooooooooo much more enjoyable...

Sounds almost as if you miss it...

Almost..

GoddezzT`

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