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MzMia -> RE: WIITWD/BDSM activities/The Pie Chart Mia calls your life/Long post ahead!!! (4/13/2008 6:45:30 AM)
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
I very specifically wanted to be one of the people who would have to say it's not possible for Me to do a pie chart on the subject. None of My categories were completely devoid of wiitwd. I'm always who I am, no matter what I'm doing otherwise.
I thought about the time that I'm asleep. No good. There are times I have wonderful, kink filled dreams.
I thought about work. Couldn't do that either, since there are some times at work, certain people will ask what I did over My days off. (Yes, I'm 'out' to some people at work. I think they live vicariously through Me.)
I thought about time at home, but My family is here (meaning My poly family) so even down time still counts. Many times, I'm sitting with My husband beside Me, My submissive at My feet, or both.
Then, of course, I thought about play time, events, community work, and those other things kink related. Some days, it's more than others. No way to actually pin it down. It would highly depend on whether the chart only included actual play, or just time where D/s is evident.
I'm sure other people with have better answers for you than Mine. Strike that. I won't call it better. I'll say different.
Thank you LadyPact for answering.
You are involved in a relationship, so naturally your numbers WOULD be higher.
I have already noticed by those that answered this thread, that many single people, tend
to spend less time on WIITWD, so basically my question has been answered.
I would normally expect those with partners, that participate in events, etc. to have higher numbers, than those of us that are single and don't attend many events.
**Also, a lot of my post has to do with accomplishing your life's goals,dreams and desires AND having time for WIITWD.
I have noticed few people mention that fact, I AM in the process of making a few dreams come true that I dreamed 20 years ago, and they have nothing to do with WIITWD, and everything to do with making me comfortable for the rest of my life, and fullfilling certain volunteer related goals.{Mia's avocation/business ventures-have nothing to do with work, or WIITWD and are going to take a lot of Mia's free time}[:D]
Avocation by definition are diversions, when you are off work. I want to hear about success in other area's besides work and area's related to WIITWD.
Specifically, how you go to work, participate in WIITWD, take care of your family and personal obligations, and succeed in OTHER area's of life, non BDSM related.
{writing novels, obtaining advanced degrees, hobbies, challenges, starting your own business{on the side}, climbing the highest mountaines, safari in Africa, traveling around the world!, creating the next biggest invention, opening a shelter for homeless people, taking in stray dogs and cats, whatever, basically making some of your life's MISSION and dreams come true.}
**Maslow also called this "Self-Actualization"-see I remember Psy 101, over 20 years later.**
For me, there has been something I have dreamed about for over 20 years, and I am actually doing it, and it is beyond thrilling, and it has nothing to do with my job or WIITWD. [:D]
If I ever get into a serious D/s relationship, my pie chart/time will expand for him, but NOW I am enjoying having the time to pursue MY business goals, and I am fucking loving it.
Many of us, have dreams we want to accomplish before we die, that have nothing to do with work or WIITWD.
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