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txcutiepie75503 -> is there something wrong with me? (4/12/2008 12:16:40 PM)

I have been looking for a master/mistress/trans dom for several years and they seem like there interested in me, but sometimes I get the feeling that they are just playing mind games with me. Is there something wrong with me?



xxblushesxx -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/12/2008 1:11:05 PM)

I'm sorry. I don't know you. How could I possibly answer that with any sort of authority?



GabrielleSlave -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/12/2008 1:16:12 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

I'm sorry. I don't know you. How could I possibly answer that with any sort of authority?


Yes, totally what she said!

Gabrielle x



SirMIkeSD -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/12/2008 1:47:01 PM)

If you really want to know, then I suggest you go back and ask politely to those that have said it's not going to work for us if there is something that stood out negitivitly to them about you.  Also you could take a serious look at/into yourself and see what you come up with.  Are you over egar, too pushy, too whatever?

Mike




lusciouslips19 -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/12/2008 1:51:16 PM)

Well maybe the people you are contacting are really straight? Meaning the men want a biological female and the women want a biological female? Perhaps you need to search for those who are searching for your type?



Floggings4You -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/12/2008 1:52:29 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: txcutiepie75503

I have been looking for a master/mistress/trans dom for several years and they seem like there interested in me, but sometimes I get the feeling that they are just playing mind games with me. Is there something wrong with me?


Where (and how?) have you been looking?  How is it that they 'seem like they're interested in you? 
 
Do you know anyO/one in your local BDSM community, especially other subs?  My submissive was able to get good referrals on Me, from several people in O/our area, before I ever met her.  It might help you to talk with other subs in your area, and see if you can find out more about prospective Doms, before you invest time dealing with more mind games...



DesFIP -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/12/2008 2:17:18 PM)

Unfortunately there's a much smaller pool of people seeking, or open to, a trans than to a biological female. With that said, have you gotten involved in your local community? Because getting to know people who will like you will increase your odds. Once they already consider you a friend, they'll be more open to a relationship with you.



erebus -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/12/2008 2:35:48 PM)

Really, only you can answer this question.  To me, I would think most Doms would know what they are getting into with you.

I agree that the pool of men who are interested in crossdressers/TVs is small.  Perhaps you just have to keep looking and keep a positive attitude that you will eventually find someone who is 'right' for you. 



Poetryinpain -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/12/2008 4:04:31 PM)

OP - It might not hurt to put a little meat into your profile, too. Get a little personality showing, and set out what you are looking for.

pip, being helpful, I hope



KnightofMists -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/12/2008 4:22:48 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

I'm sorry. I don't know you. How could I possibly answer that with any sort of authority?


just Guess!!! 



Luciferica -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/12/2008 4:27:27 PM)

I dunno, do you feel there is something wrong with you?



mnottertail -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/12/2008 4:30:51 PM)

Ja, you got some hella fuckin dogs on you judging by that tennis shoe in the background, and I don't know how that picture was approved in the first place, I don't think tying up smurfs in plastic bags and throwing them in a laundry basket is in accordance with site TOS.

So, if you are alive, and some kin to homo sapiens, of course there is something wrong with you, comes with the living of any human, but don't fret it, you are young and will get over it.

Relax, look around and post and learn....If you have a mousetrap, the world will beat you up and it will be delivered to your door.


Ron



lronitulstahp -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/12/2008 4:36:20 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: txcutiepie75503

I have been looking for a master/mistress/trans dom for several years and they seem like there interested in me, but sometimes I get the feeling that they are just playing mind games with me. Is there something wrong with me?
Soooo let me see if i got this right....you are having mind games played on you by people with whom you're seeking a relationship???  That sounds like the most average crap life has to offer, whether vanilla, kink, whatever...  Relationships are hard work, and sometimes they don't end well.  Nothing wrong with you that's any different from what's going on with the majority of single people looking....Your life is fucked up, that makes you normal.  Welcome to Normalsville...
~welcome wagon slut



antipode -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/13/2008 12:00:17 AM)

If you normally communicate by asking a question without giving any background or explanation, there is most definitely something wrong with you.



lally3 -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/13/2008 4:05:49 AM)

hi,

peeked at your profile and found no smurfs... infact no profile atall, but that might just be that youve come here to find help, but a little expose on yourself might help us to help you.

all that im wondering is, in the way that youve worded youre question, are you maybe a little oversensitive, you think theyre playing mind games.  i remember in my early twenties not being sure if people were what they were or were just playing me along, it was all to do with not being fully sure of who i was.  you have alot going on there in being a trans/bi/sub, hell alot of us go through issues just being a sub.  i remember being on the defensive alot, picking up on vibes that really werent there and feeling over sensitive, reading more into a look or a misplaced word than i should have done.  i assumed that everyone had a handle on themselves and it was just me in a bog, but it isnt the case, most of us are treading water hoping not to get snagged by a passing shark.

maybe what you need to do is stop trying to second guess other people, the minute you do that you create a vibe that they will pick up on and theyll end up doing what youre doing and bingo...situation failure....   a friend told me once that if theres an issue being yourself then let it be the other persons issue not yours, it sounded kind of arrogant at the time, but what it did do was let me be me, it let me grow into being me and from there i grew in surity that me was ok and i got alot less sensitive about the vibes that werent there or even if they were, began to matter less and less.  what happened next was that my increasing confidence gave others confidence to be more themselves and it all got a whole lot easier.  im not suggesting for a minute that youre going through anything like this or that youre not sure of yourself, just your post rang a little bell and reminded me of how i used to be at around the same age.

i might be totally off beam here, and if i am.........[sm=ignore.gif]




SirJohnMandevill -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/13/2008 11:36:24 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: txcutiepie75503

I have been looking for a master/mistress/trans dom for several years and they seem like there interested in me, but sometimes I get the feeling that they are just playing mind games with me. Is there something wrong with me?


Do YOU think there's something wrong with you?
 
Your question comes naturally if you've had a number of unsuccessful encounters. You need to look at yourself and figure what you have to offer and push it. And don't seem needy; I think that's a turn-off to many Dominants.
 
Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)



MagiksSlave -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/13/2008 11:44:06 AM)

Based on the few sentences you posted in the OP I would say you are bi polar, possably with a touch of borderline. I prescibe Lithium and paxil...


Sorry Ill be good now.


Squee!!

MS



Daddyslilpookie -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/13/2008 11:44:09 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

I'm sorry. I don't know you. How could I possibly answer that with any sort of authority?


I agree here, no offense but however are we supposed to answer a question like that when we don't even know you? 



MisterStrongWill -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/14/2008 4:50:30 AM)

I will tread where others fear to go. First there is always something wrong with TRANSGENDER you are not who you want to be. Finding yourself is the hardest. Male to female , or female to male, trans is a hard road. Expand your profile tell me something about you. Then use what CM has set up..filters,likes-dislikes...ect. Don't ask people who ride the straight to help you with the trans life..talk with like minded people. Sorry if I sound harsh but reality is harsh I pity as well as respect you it is not easy to make the change.



ResidentSadist -> RE: is there something wrong with me? (4/14/2008 10:18:18 AM)

You know the old adage, “if you have to ask..."

All ribbing aside, you are going to have to attend your thread and reply with some more information.



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