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some help and info please? - 4/12/2008 6:55:13 PM

DominaJayde

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One of my sweet boys is into feminisation, unfortunately he still lives at home and his family would certainly NOT approve if they found out his need/desire, he asked me for more ways that he could be more feminine whilst at home, that would be acheivable, without being too obvious.

He already wears panties for me under his everyday clothes, and bra and camisole when he can, but is there something else that he could be doing that would make him feel more feminine that isn't going to be glaringly obvious.

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/12/2008 7:01:50 PM

Lynnxz

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A waist cincher, Thigh highs- under a pair of pants, garters, etc.

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/12/2008 7:39:44 PM

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maybe have him wear a butt plug

to help break in his ass for you to take when you decide to do so

mal

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/12/2008 7:45:15 PM

DominaJayde

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quote:

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A waist cincher, Thigh highs- under a pair of pants, garters, etc.

Ooh, now I like THAT idea very much, garters are very feminine, thank you!

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/12/2008 7:47:29 PM

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maybe have him wear a butt plug to help break in his ass for you to take when you decide to do so mal

That is already being done, but it doesn't make him feel extra feminine.

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/12/2008 10:35:18 PM

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Make him have a period and wear pads for 4 or 5 days.

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/12/2008 10:44:17 PM

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Make him have a period and wear pads for 4 or 5 days.

Akasha

Yeah, and he can pedal that cycle around the town of "what a bitch".

Just for the reality factor.

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/13/2008 12:10:42 AM

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If feasible....shaving...his groin...legs....chest....whatever he can get away with without family seeing. It's always been quite effective or that type of result.

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/13/2008 2:02:18 AM

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Always sleep in a pretty, silky nightie. All night. Start a collection of them. Assuming this is not he sort of family that barges into his bedroom.

If they do, he will just have to pull the covers up quick

BTW, we have a dresser full of glamorous nighties at our place (his and mine).

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/13/2008 3:11:53 AM

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Shave all the areas he can easily hid from his family...and keep it shaved. If he's willing to always were socks, get him a very dainty anklet and paint his toenails. If he has a leather watchband, sew a piece of pretty ribbon down it's length inside the band. Hang a garterbelt from his rearview mirror. He can tell people he got it from a stripper...but you both know it's his.

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/13/2008 3:44:55 AM

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At first i wish to welcome DominaJayde back on the forums after Her break. Secondly i would have to sounds like a very "tight" situation You exposing your boy under.... he would be under enormous stress of being found out........

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/13/2008 5:02:45 AM

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Lady DJ-- Have him wear a slightly colored lip moisturizer. Encourage him to grow his fingernails a bit longer than a male would. Encourage him to tuck always( with some surgical tape) so he will have to sit to pee. He could always wear a bit of mascara and a feminine type ring.

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/13/2008 5:12:37 AM

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I would suggest having him keep his fingernails and toenails polished with clear polish. It is barely noticable to most people however, you and he will know it is there. Make sure he makes the effort to shape his fingernails with a file, rather than letting them grow naturally. Have him look at the fake nails in the store and make a simple square shape, which is not far from what most males would wear naturally. You might want to consider letting him buy and use a female deoderant, something with a soft smell that wouldnt be immediately noticable. If he wears tee-shirts, have him shave his armpits. Next time he goes clothes shopping (assuming he does not have to do so with his parents) have him buy a pair or two of girl's slacks or jeans, without the glaring name brand across the pockets. Fox has black slacks for work that are womens slacks, and aside from the dainty pockets, you could never tell the difference. Clear mascara can also be worn on occasion, since it is barely noticable, but the act of putting it on, and knowing it is there, might work. And, as was stated before, either a lightly tinted or shiny lip gloss. If anyone notices, he can say he picked up the wrong one by mistake or he didnt realize it would look that way, but it works for his chapped lips so he is going to keep it.

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/13/2008 10:25:25 AM

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I shave my entire body. I've done this for upwards of seven months now. My family has no idea, and I see them quite often. It's easy to hide if you just try hard enough.

I've often felt the physical isn't very important at all for getting into a more feminine mindset. I can be my Owner's girl if I'm wearing a T-shirt and blue jeans, really. Girls wear that too :-p. Clothing is not, in my opinion, really that associated with expanding your own mindset. So... I'm not going to suggest all sorts of clothing-centric stuff to hide that may get the poor guy caught.

To flex his mind and his imagination, perhaps he could spend some time while he's away writing stuff for you. He could write everything from how his interest in feminization has progressed over time to where he'd ideally like to be brought. This you would no doubt find interesting and possibly useful. You could have him write about what he thinks it means to be feminine, because that's not something everybody agrees on at all. He could write to you about his fantasies, if you're not already intimately aquainted with them. This allows him to think about and analyze his own femininity and it also might give you something interesting to think about. This may also give you and him new insight into what he finds alluring about exploring his femininity...and thus, new outlets of embracing it.

In short, I think giving him some other means to embrace his femininity than the physical would be very beneficial. After all, a woman isn't feminine because she wears panties anymore than a man is masculine because he wears blue jeans. The trappings help, of course, but they're far, far, far the only means. I'm not entirely sure what those other means could be, though.

DV's Fox

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/13/2008 12:41:49 PM

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Besides all the physical things like shaving and wearing lingerie there are some things that would mess with his mind. Visit him at home or anywhere and do a panty check then spray him with a feminine perfume for a little surprise. Make sure he knows there are consequences for non compliance from your instructions. Call him on his cell phone and make him describe his panties and other fem items he is wearing, color, type, maker ect. Make him give you answers to cue questions on the phone such as,"What do you like to do?" "I like to wear panties". "What is your name?" "My name is Sissy Panties" and so on. Ask him on the phone to describe his feelings about dressing under the way he is. Make him feel that he is under your total control and he will feel vulnerable, submissive, and very feminine.

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/13/2008 1:45:34 PM

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If he has a cam phone, have him take a picture of himself, with his panties on, at work or other places outside of home. Mine went into the bathroom and took a photo of himself and sent it to me as proof of his compliance.

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/13/2008 7:43:19 PM

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Does he like scents? Between shops like Lush for bath products and Black Phoenix Alchemy Lab for perfume samples -- and the forums that both stores have -- he'll have plenty of time to indulge in scented baths and / showers and wearing a complimentary scent every day. The nice thing about both stores is that they have a fair amount of gender neutral stuff but both cater primarily to females.

One of the suggestions I've heard for men who want a better understanding of women is that they should consider indulging primarily or almost exclusively in women's media: female authors, magazines with a high female readership (Bitch, Bust, Mother Jones ... hell, even Ad Busters), women music artists ... the Guerilla Girls wrote a guide to Women's Art History, so he may be able to track down prints from his favorites on their site. If he reads comic books have him base his choices on lists from sites like The Friends of Lulu and Sequential Tart.

Going back to clothes, he can be femmed up a little without it being horribly obvious. Has he had his colors done yet? Does he choose soft, petable fabrics? Has he seen much Queer Eye for the Straight Guy? Heavens, does he own a Utilikilt? That's downright socially acceptable nowadays. Dressing like the lead singer from Dead or Alive did in the 80's is less so, but it's still an option if he can get away with shopping at places like Hot Topic.

I hope that this helps. Good luck!

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/14/2008 7:56:31 AM

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If he has a cam phone, have him take a picture of himself, with his panties on, at work or other places outside of home. Mine went into the bathroom and took a photo of himself and sent it to me as proof of his compliance.

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/14/2008 9:25:16 AM

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Maybe amongst his secrets could be a stick of unscented Secret ;-)

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: some help and info please? - 4/14/2008 12:46:56 PM

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Body lotion, and regular manicures (even if they can't be colored.)

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