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RE: Does a submissive?? - 4/13/2008 9:20:12 PM

marieToo

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Yes, we all have needs and wants that should be met. First and foremost we're slaves to our own desires, which is what leads us to this stuff in the first place.

No matter what type of relationship dynamic you have, both parties should feel fulfilled. Afterall, a slave or sub who isn't getting their needs met, isn't going to be much good to his/her master anyway. And I think this applies in vanilla relationships as well; if one or the other isn't happy, their partner isn't having a good time of it either.

If something doesn't feel right to you, I would raise the issue to him, then take it from there.

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RE: Does a submissive?? - 4/21/2008 9:35:51 AM

joyfulmalcontent

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had a relationship where silence was the order of the day. it left me feeling lonely, confused and anxious. i would try calling, no answer, leave a message on the phone, no answer, text message, no answer, im message, no answer, email, no answer. i would wait to see if he would discuss matters with me in time, no answer. i couldn't live like that anymore. so hence, i'm single yet again. a slave is supposed to have nothing inside here but a desire to serve her master, nothing else matters, nothing. i can't do that. i have feelings inside me, deep feelings. i need communication. I need to be heard. I need someone to talk to me, I need to listen. I need a relationship, regardless of d/s or vanilla nature. I need connection.

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RE: Does a submissive?? - 4/21/2008 7:15:47 PM

greenearth21

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ORIGINAL: chya

Does a submissive truly have needs, wants and desires or is she only there to serve the Master? If she feels has needs that are not being filled or is thinking negatively.. How does she communicate this to her Master? Or does she just walk away?

Everyone (sub/dom) has needs that need to be met. Some have to be met and that is just the way of life. If someone said they had no needs, that would be a blatant lie to me. So i say it is a mixture of both, a slave/sub is there to serve their Master, but the Master has to meet the subs needs as well, in order for her to feel whole or satisfied in the relationship.
If my needs are/weren't being met, I'd find a way to bring it up without creating a riff in the relationship, but hey...those happen too. If over time my needs arent being met...which means i'm not satified...what's the point of staying when I can have someone else who meets my needs? And that goes both ways, as well.
My belief is that everyones needs should be met in order for both parties to grow together in a harmonious way towards the same direction. Otherwise its just a temporary relationship

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