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RE: i want to jump on the couch... - 4/14/2008 11:23:50 AM

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In this country, no healthy adult is "forced" to move back in with mommy and daddy. Some simply choose it because it is easier, for either them or the parents.

i guess i would ask what your definition of healthy is then...i am on disability...SSI...i would love to work - but i can't, and Social Security agrees with me, and i was approved in 8 months, it is not like i had to prove a whole lot, just get through the paper work, see there doctor and poof, i started getting checks...i don't know if ya'll are familiar with SSI, but it is not enough to live on, it is a suplimental income...i am on the list for section 8 housing, but i am a single adult with no children...and people with children keep moving here, or getting on the list for whatever reason, and they take priority...i have looked into owner-approved low income housing (rather than government approved) and i just can't live next to a crack house or on a street where there are daily shootings...

I moved back in with my parents when my ex dropped me off for a "few months" while he went to mexico to make money because we were struggling financially...i never heard from him again...i have tried "moving out" to be in a relationship, but that was out of the frying pan and into the fire...i won't do that again...i will not have a relationship just to get out of the living situtation i am in...

so thanks for the ideas that were posted...i was mentally blocked, not stupid...i for the life of me couldn't figure out what to do on my own when i posted this last night...a "duh" moment...i am not so unusual in this, we all have them whether you admit it or not...i painted, btw....but i will keep the suggestions posted in mind...i know that was not the last time...

to the "move out" crowd...thanks, but been thought of, try again if you like....

chelle

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RE: i want to jump on the couch... - 4/14/2008 11:29:27 AM

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the numbers used for section 8 are pretty hard to find. what i mean is the price they figure everything must cost. simply put a landlord looses money on it. many times due to carrying costs such as property taxes and insurance.

*shouts* hey you's kids! Stop jumping on the furniture! ;-0

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RE: i want to jump on the couch... - 4/14/2008 12:13:43 PM

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Then your situation makes perfect sense. Which is why I said "healthy".

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RE: i want to jump on the couch... - 4/14/2008 9:27:59 PM

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I know what the OP is on about..

In my younger days in the 80's in London I shared a flat with an older man who was totally routine. Now I see routine the same way as I see prolonged influenza.. I'm usually spontaneous, random, chaotic, unpredictable, with effort I can be regular, and can even become organized.

This was a civil servant, a man who listened to jazz music every night, and had lived in the same routine since 1964 - I'm not joking. He hated change just as much as I hated routine. It was like living in your own sitcom.

He would get up at the same time each day, go through the same morning routine, leave for work at exactly the same time every morning, Monday was chicken night and John Coltrane, Tuesday was baked beans and Bix Beiderbecke, Wednesday was lamb chops and Art Blakey, and so on. 6.30pm to 8.30pm on weekdays he took a nap, and if he didn't visit the bathroom at the same time each morning he would go to the doctor's. He would go ballistic if he was woken up at any time during the period he designated for sleeping.

I had been living there about six months when I came back to the flat at 7pm (I will always remember this) to find him sitting in the kitchen with a cup of tea drinking in the cup with his name on it which he washed once a week, smoking a cigarette with a big grin on his face.

He'd discovered...something which was going to change his life completely... AMWAY.

Guess who he wanted to go in with him? Yes, you guessed it..

From that moment on the only thing used in the flat which didn't come from AMWAY was toilet paper. We had everything - detergents, pans, pots, vitamins and nutrient supplements. He changed his breakfast routine from tea, Shredded Wheat and two slices of toast to Shredded Wheat, tea, two slices of toast, Vitamin A, Vitamin B, Vitamin B12, Vitamin B6, Vitamin D, Vitamin E, Iron, Zinc, Copper, Cod Liver Oil, Shark's Cartilage, monosodium glutamate, magnesium, E201, E203, and Dromedary Camel's Testicle Extract.. Nineteen pills in total.

This is a turgid, monosyllabic guy born under Taurus listening to motivational tapes, Skip Ross, reading books like How To Win Friends And Influence People, The Seven Secrets of Success, Motivate Your Clients To OCD, How To Sell The Amway Way, Become A Diamond Distributor In Six Hours, and so on. It was comical at times watching him getting into it all.

He bought everything, flipcharts, an overhead projector, A0 sized paper, whiteboard markers, but best of all was The Trampoline. Fifteen minutes after he had woken up from his evening nap he would 'bounce' for 15 minutes.. It was originally 30 minutes but I think smoker's cough reduced it to half. Orders never really went above three or four bottles of detergent and LOC a month, but it didn't matter. This was how he was going to pay for a condo in New Orleans. If we had guests it didn't matter, we all had to sit and watch 'The Bounce'.

This was why I moved out.. I'm a serious coffee drinker and that together with listening to motivational tapes every night kind of whoa.. had me feeling like I was living in fast forward. Besides I really didn't want to get into selling Herbalife.

But I will always be grateful to this guy for teaching me about jazz music and opening my ears to people like Art Blakey, Cab Calloway, Benny Goodman, Miles Davis, and also for introducing me to Ronnie Scott's.

I guess my unpredictability might rub people up the wrong way, it can put people on edge. I get accused of being unreliable.. I don't care.. I was born to keep people interested in life and to shatter assumptions.

I say if you want to jump on the couch go ahead, stage a pillow fight.. Why not take the first train out of town just to see where you end up?

But above all cherish your freedom, spontaneity and independence.. Life is shorter than you think, the older you get the quicker time passes, and a lot of opportunities and people don't come back a second time.

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RE: i want to jump on the couch... - 4/14/2008 11:55:41 PM

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Don't get pregnant without a husband.
Single women with children are, for the most part doomed to lives of poverty!
We don't have to look very far for examples of that.

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RE: i want to jump on the couch... - 4/15/2008 1:31:24 AM

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welcome to the real world.
it is how it works, wake up, get dressed, eat breakfast if time for it, hurry to work, get back home tired, eat dinner, after a long day ay work only thing you have energy to do it sit on the couch and watch some TV before bedtime and there the wheel start again.
the older we become the less adventures we will be, main reason is "been there done that" less and less things in life is new and thrilling and maybe not even seek it anymore.

I get your feelings many time, but every time I think I would be more happy if I live in other city I always come up with same conclusion. I can only do same things I already do today.
new walls and new street is only "new" for small amount of time until it will be your grey everyday life again...sad but true.

write down on a paper what makes you happy and what you want to do
I can bet you can do it even if you live at home with parents or at least find a solution for it.
like someone already said, you can go eat ice cream, you can go to cinema, you can go to bars
don't need to be home and hold hands with mom 24/7
if you want to get a boyfriend and have sex etc, be at his home or hotel over a weekend would be fun for both of you.
spend more time outside their home. I can guarantee your parents will be happy if they get more privacy time too.

if you don't know what you want, you can never change your life to better.

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