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littleone35 -> Being away (4/14/2008 12:43:05 PM)
In a few months i have to go away for business. I have to go can't get out of it. I will miss my Master like crazy it is 10 days. I will call him every day. It's of course not the same as seeing him every day. My question is what do you do when you have to leave your Master/Dom/me for an extended period of time an you miss them so bad? Matt's littleone

Vampyrefledgling -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 12:49:56 PM)
I don't know. My Master lives in Ireland and I live in Chicago. Yes, we've met in person and however strange it may sound it works, or has. It is difficult. Very much so. Just remind yourself that it isn't forever; that eventually you'll be together again. Find ways to serve him over the phone. If he likes naughty messages, leave some on his cell phone on your lunch break. Take pictures of yourself and send them to him. Think of the time apart as a way for you both to explore new arenas together. You'll discover how much you love the sound of his voice, more than you ever thought possible. ~Fledgling

parttimehotty -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 12:50:18 PM)
Sleep so that i may dream of Him! Workout so that i may get rid of all the anger/frustration i have in me at not being able to be w/Him! [sm=boxer.gif] i want to present myself to Him in a desirable manner when W/we do get to meet again.

Aileen1968 -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 1:08:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 My question is what do you do when you have to leave your Master/Dom/me for an extended period of time an you miss them so bad? Matt's littleone Masturbate.

RCdc -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 1:18:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 My question is what do you do when you have to leave your Master/Dom/me for an extended period of time an you miss them so bad? Matt's littleone Masturbate. If I'm allowed.[;)] Fill my time with activities that he approves of that improve ours and my quality of life. He desires it, so I do it. I don;t wallow - that would be a waste of his management and authority. And dream of him lotsly.[:D] the.dark.

FRSguy -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 1:22:21 PM)
I'm a Dom so I am kind of on the oposite end of the coin. There is a lot of things that a Dom can do to keep his ocupied on a trip depending on how much privacy you are going to have while you are away. A good cell phone and a bag with a few toys or even tasking to find a good toy.. phone sex ... being made to do things while working ect. Writen instructions in seperatly sealed envelopes so you have something to open up every day to remind you of him. Making him aware of your schedule so that he knows when the best times are to call and interupt you. Perhaps an empty envelope with the postage paid so that you have to drop your panties in the mailbox everyday... you know... little things that are a pain in the ass so you can get your pain in the ass when you get home.

SweetiePie26 -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 1:25:40 PM)
Well I personally have at least 2 wks to a month of him bieng gone offshore, usually when he's gone depending on where he is we talk everyday, so it's not THAT bad because time passes quickly. Unfortunately sometimes out at sea there is no connection and we can't talk at all, during those times I just keep myself occupied with work, hobbies, I journal, I just try not to focus on it.. I do things that I know will please him when he returns. It is hard especially if he is gone for a month, but I just keep in mind that he will be back on whatever date he's coming back and look forward to that.

MistressOfGa -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 1:40:08 PM)
Be very careful of sub drop and Dom drop. I used to see my pup every weekend and I would come home miserable, bitchy and just downright hard to be around. I thought I was going nuts. I would pick fights with him so that we would argue until I saw him again. Thanks to the fine folks here on CM, I learned about Dom drop. In my case it was easier to feel anger than to feel the loss of leaving him each Sunday night, or him leaving me. I think that the best way to handle you not seeing him is to think about those who haven't seen their Owners for months and months. Be thankful that you do see him all the time and that 10 days is just like a raindrop in the ocean. Do something positive that reflects how much you miss him, yet says that you are alright without him for a few days. It is OK to miss him and still be productive. MoGa [sm=oddballs.gif]

chamberqueen -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 1:44:36 PM)
It is part of my job to travel for about a week a month out of the country so I face this often. We keep in contact via email and chat, and He says some of the most beautiful things to me when I am gone. He has a pierced ear, and we have decided to get a pair of diamond earrings - He will wear one and I will wear the other - and then we will have a physical sign of the other one always being with us, always touching. It will be nice to simply reach up and feel a part of Him with me when He is 5000 miles away.

camille65 -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 2:47:58 PM)
I think one thing that may be important is that you don't blow this out of proportion to the event. It is a few months away, for ten days and you're already working out a plan. If you're working you may not have a lot of free time so perhaps you could do a few things in advance instead of worrying? Start making handmade cards to send him while you're gone, plan out treats for him to find or arrange for a friend to drop off a prearranged gourmet dinner? I would take some of his tshirts to wear as pajamas, maybe a really good photograph. If you have a laptop do you have a cam so you say see each other and say goodnight? Instead of looking at this with dread change it around.Make it into something that is a good challenge, a challenge to creative ways of 'being together'. Try not to fret too much though, especially if work is something that needs your concentration/attention.

daddysliloneds -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 2:59:57 PM)
shit, i miss him when he goes surfing and i'm just thirty minutes away from him, but such is life. count your blessings; ten days isn't so bad, plus, you can take time to pamper and refresh yourself for when you arrive home to him!

DesFIP -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 3:03:06 PM)
He's been away for a couple of weeks now. It's rough. I find I'm a lot more weepy than usual. And I'm eating more chocolate. Usually he's gone for four and back for three. This two and a half weeks bit is for the birds.

daddysliloneds -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 3:08:34 PM)
eat trail mix; will satisfy the chocolate cravings and it better for you all around!

DesFIP -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 5:19:17 PM)
One extra dark truffle daily. But I really need a 70% cocoa solid square. Didn't see one in the Lindt shop at a quick glance and didn't dare linger for fear I would succumb. Copped a handful of extra dark and fled [:D]

xxblushesxx -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 5:26:09 PM)
I enjoy having the time just to myself once in a while. I miss Him like crazy, and am SO happy to see Him once He's back or I am. He just got back tonight from a NY trip! YaY

Sandyshores29718 -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 5:51:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FRSguy I'm a Dom so I am kind of on the oposite end of the coin. There is a lot of things that a Dom can do to keep his ocupied on a trip depending on how much privacy you are going to have while you are away. A good cell phone and a bag with a few toys or even tasking to find a good toy.. phone sex ... being made to do things while working ect. Writen instructions in seperatly sealed envelopes so you have something to open up every day to remind you of him. Making him aware of your schedule so that he knows when the best times are to call and interupt you. Perhaps an empty envelope with the postage paid so that you have to drop your panties in the mailbox everyday... you know... little things that are a pain in the ass so you can get your pain in the ass when you get home. i really like this... That sounds like a wonderful thing.

CalifChick -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 7:32:09 PM)
Virtually every couple I know in real life has had to spend time away from each other, whether it is a day or a month. I guess I see it as so common, I don't understand the big deal. You go about your day as you usually do; you take care of the kids, you go to work, you go to school, you cook, you clean, you do whatever you do every day. And you talk on the phone when you can, and before you know it, that person is back. Maybe I really am just a cold bitch. Cali

Bound2One -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 8:09:26 PM)
I'm personally of the opinion that some alone time is healthy. It's important to me to have my down time and quiet time. And I do find that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Ten days may seem like a lot, but you'll be busy and time will fly by!

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Being away (4/14/2008 8:43:03 PM)
Depends on how long it is. I'll do stuff I enjoy, but for the most part will just laze around, the world drains of a lot of color.

Dnomyar -> RE: Being away (4/15/2008 4:43:33 AM)
Op if you can't be with the one you love then love the one your with.

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