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MladyHathor -> My/Your Journey (4/14/2008 6:16:17 PM)
Well, with all the hierarchy, life versus reality threads, this one awakened Me and well it is what it is---My journey has been one of smooth sailing for many years--well had, then I had life issues which made Me question what was a well established lifestyle persona ( and yes I had RT as well)--I tried and failed, was too nice, not kinky enough, had a UM so ones could not be naked and chained, yet I knew who I was, well I thought I did---then life altering events and I doubted--My approach to life never changed as that is what I am, but I questioned as erin and colouredin have said-life against fantasy, reality of the fantasy and I came and went and came again--and became saddened for twhat I was, was not what I saw--and so now I am in soul searching, element by element, what do I seek what do I offerm what do I want--and how will that all work--and so I am in redesign of Myself, I hope to emerge whole, happier, not defined by lists, hierarchys, groups, protocols but defined by Me---and somewhere out there, there is a yang for My ying, if not, then I am what I am and that is good enough I think. *Have you redefined Y/you lately?*

Madame4a -> RE: My/Your Journey (4/14/2008 6:37:11 PM)
As I read your post.. .I just started to grin... for me, it feels like I redefine daily, on one level or another... I think its always important to question, reassess, examine who you are and make adjustments, for whatever reasons along the way... Today is my day off, and other than a couple of hours at the gym this morning, I had little planned. It seems days like this, with lots of time on my hands are the days I go deepest into.. "who are you?" "what are you doing" I think its an important part of the human existence and leads to growth.

LadyPact -> RE: My/Your Journey (4/14/2008 7:08:13 PM)
I redefine Myself constantly. As I've said in other threads, I'm a work in progress. In a sense, My goal will never be realized, because there will always be more. This doesn't just go for BDSM. It is about all facets of My life.

Stephann -> RE: My/Your Journey (4/14/2008 8:49:52 PM)
Just a thought: I love playing Civilization video games. There are tons of ways you are scored in the game, from how happy your people are, to how powerful your military is, to how much land and gold you have. For me, it's a chance to have clearly defined goals and expectations to meet and exceed. Obviously, these goals are arbitrary, and change depending on the difficulty level I set. Ultimately, it's up to me to play this game, or not, if I enjoy it. There's something to be said for established rules, goals, hierarchies, goals, and protocols set by others. They can serve a purpose to offer guidance and framework to operate within, so long as you are ultimately achieving your own goals. I think if you find value in BDSM community values and are able to incorporate them in your life in a way that makes you feel good about yourself, than it's great. Some people find using a hammer to be a great tool, others prefer an axe; as long as you get the job done to your satisfaction, you should be happy. Stephan

MzHard -> RE: My/Your Journey (4/14/2008 9:54:09 PM)
Nope I havent...but, I'm an asshole

MasterFireMaam -> RE: My/Your Journey (4/14/2008 11:17:10 PM)
Yeah, I have. A few years ago, I read Scared Contracts and worked out what my 12 Archetypes are. One of them is the Alchemist. Then, I did a creative project for the Metaphysics degree I'm working on in which I did a collage for each archetype, among other things. The Alchemist was all about taking science, in particular physics, and changing it into stuff that everyday non-science types can understand. When I came back to school for my PhD in Mechanical Engineering, I really stuggled. I soon found that science and all that stuff is just fluff. It's stuff I do to keep my mind busy and to, hopefully make money, while I do what's really important: help people in the lifestyle find themselves in a spiritual way. That came as a HUGE schock for me. Science has long been a part of my identity. Being 'smart' has been something that I've used almost as a shield for a long time. Now, what's important on the inside is no longer that. Don't get me wrong. I LOVE it...and I'll stay in school until I have that PhD. But, the Metaphysics degrees that I'm working on are, in a lot of ways, more important...or at least more meaningful. Does that make sense? Oh...and there was the thing about changing from Mistress to Master years ago...that was pretty transformative, too, and again, wrapped up in the spirituality I find in Leather/SM. Master Fire

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: My/Your Journey (4/14/2008 11:20:26 PM)
I'm constantly redefining myself. I reinvent myself more than Madonna. [:D]

TermsConditions -> RE: My/Your Journey (4/15/2008 5:28:34 AM)
MladyHathor, perhaps you and I are peering into two different sides of the same mirror. You from a “lifestyle” reality and me from vanilla. Or maybe reality isn’t what’s on the other side of the mirror but the mirror itself? I’m nearing the end of the beginning of a significant makeover. Those unfortunate enough to read my tearful tirades in earlier months may recall that I am facing some changes. I got great advice here and am plodding toward some sort of reconciliation. My progress is surreptitious and slow. I’m of an age now that all the authority figures I grew up with, everyone whose judgment I feared and everyone who I wanted to impress – all those folks have passed away. For the first time ever I feel like I have the right to have an opinion and that my opinion counts as much as anyone else’s. I am in charge of my future which is happening now, now, now, continuously in front of me. This has led to some introspective contemplation. Sometimes during a quiet moment a vision of clarity occurs and I reel, feeling like I am at the pinnacle of a great height about to topple off. I look around at my collective experiences, “accomplishments”, roles, responsibilities, relationships – and I don’t even recognize myself. The point of no return is nearing and beyond that nothing will be the same. Life as I know it may end and it could be very good or it could be very bad. “The future does not belong to those who are content with today”. Nor to the timid. It’s a good thing you can be brave and frightened at the same time J Good luck to you on your journey. You have lots of friends here ready to aid and encourage you.

Dnomyar -> RE: My/Your Journey (4/15/2008 8:25:23 AM)
Sorry op but don't end your post in a popeye quote. You are who you are because thats who you are supposed to be. We are constantly redifining ourselves. We have to because change is constant.

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