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midgetmafiosa -> RE: What can I do? (4/16/2008 7:56:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Griswold quote: ORIGINAL: winterwolf23 I have been on this forum for 2 years and have had some what bad luck finding a submissive. I was wondering if any one could help me understand why. It's the hat. honestly, that was my first impression, too, but hey, different strokes...

adoracat -> RE: What can I do? (4/16/2008 8:36:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark Runes and me don't get on...[:D] But I can grab the cards and do a reading if he wants... the.dark. laughs after i glanced at wolf's runes and told him what they said (he's studied and i havent) he forbade me from touching them again. [:D] kitten

DDraigeuraid -> RE: What can I do? (4/16/2008 9:31:45 PM)
I'm going to have to disagree with some of you about the hat. I used to wear my Stetson to the munches. It made me stand out a bit amongst all the leather. But I am strange. Son, work on your profile as others have suggested. Also, get active in your local community. The Chicago area has munches, get togethers, play parties when you have been accepted. Learn all you can. Your profile states that you are a beginner in many areas. OK we all were at one time. You too can get the experience, but it is not going to drop in your lap. If this lifestyle is really what you want, you are going to have to work for it. You said you left your camera in your work truck. I'm assuming you are in the trades. You know what it is like to work. Are you willing to work enough to find a submissive? Dragon

Hisgirlonly -> RE: What can I do? (4/16/2008 11:49:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: winterwolf23 I have been on this forum for 2 years and have had some what bad luck finding a submissive. I was wondering if any one could help me understand why. get new glasses and lose the hat, Indiana Jones. sorry, but i'm tired, cranky, and yeah

GreedyTop -> RE: What can I do? (4/16/2008 11:51:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DDraigeuraid I'm going to have to disagree with some of you about the hat. I used to wear my Stetson to the munches. It made me stand out a bit amongst all the leather. But I am strange. Son, work on your profile as others have suggested. Also, get active in your local community. The Chicago area has munches, get togethers, play parties when you have been accepted. Learn all you can. Your profile states that you are a beginner in many areas. OK we all were at one time. You too can get the experience, but it is not going to drop in your lap. If this lifestyle is really what you want, you are going to have to work for it. You said you left your camera in your work truck. I'm assuming you are in the trades. You know what it is like to work. Are you willing to work enough to find a submissive? Dragon yeah, but a nicely blocked Stetson on a good looking man is HAWT!! (especially if he's in tight jeans and shirtless) oops.. went away for a moment.. I'm back fans self

SailingBum -> RE: What can I do? (4/17/2008 12:59:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: winterwolf23 I have been on this forum for 2 years and have had some what bad luck finding a submissive. I was wondering if any one could help me understand why. Come back in 2 years if you still have this same issue ... I will give you the answer The Seer

Leatherist -> RE: What can I do? (4/17/2008 1:02:45 AM)
Go and meet some real people who do it. The fucking internet is not going to cut it.

DelilahDeb -> RE: What can I do? (4/17/2008 2:17:19 AM)
Delilah Deb's dirty decision tree when perving profiles. Note that this tree works just as well for your search with tweaks for male/female, straight/gay, dominant/submissive. Male Straight or Bi No: Hide User Yes: check where he puts himself on the Dominant/submissive axis Slave: Hide User Submissive: Is there text in the profile? Switch: Is there text in the profile? No: Hide User Yes: Read for real English spelling, grammar, punctuation (content may trump minor errors) (extra points for using correct capitalization even if submissive) No: Hide User Yes: Read text for deal-breakers. Examples: dominant, smoker, married & cheating, seeks only monogamous, anti-feminist, Republican apologist… Yes: Hide User No: Read activity list for deal-breakers. Examples: Hates Wicca, Lives for Diapers, Dislikes Renaissance Faires, Hard Limit Whips… Yes: Hide User No: Read statistics for age. Less than half my age can be too young to communicate, must have exceptional text content to counterweight. Acceptable: Read statistics for location. Unacceptable: Hide User Another country: Hide User This country: Check distance. And that all happens before or irrelevant of whether the guy has a picture posted, whether I like the guy's picture, how experienced he is in the scene, and a multitude of imponderables that happen in my brain in the process of scanning, reading, and examining (should I get to that point). There are perhaps a dozen or so of the nearby states' population of male subs who might be of interest. So far, I've met four. No, I haven't met my new primary! I have had some nice meetings and a few pleasant play sessions…and I know I have made one or two friends.

punkdom -> RE: What can I do? (4/17/2008 3:04:56 AM)
I could savage your entire presentation worse than Simon Cowell with PMS, but I'll leave it at this... I think you're going about everything all wrong. Your profile doesn't inspire loads of confidence that you would know what to do with a submissive. You seem to live in a major metropolitan area, perhaps you should interject yourself into the local BDSM scene a bit first and gain the knowledge base necessary to be a Dom. Being a great Dom involves an extensive knowledge base. That said... How well do you do with normal real world dating? I assume ineptitude in real world dating translates into ineptitude online. Finally, there is a certain ethos to a Dominant, which is partly cultivated. It includes the sense that to a certain extent, you are Dominant in all aspect of your life, including dating women, something you shoot yourself in the foot with immediately with this post. Hence the reason I sense that in the real world, you have difficulties with woman as well. There is tons and tons of books you can read that will help you develop "your inner Dom." These include everything from your basic self help "7 Habits of Highly Effective People" to "48 Laws of Power" to lots of psychological books. Rather than any particular trick, its really all about developing yourself as a person who commands the respect that goes along with Domination.

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: What can I do? (4/17/2008 12:40:30 PM)
It took me two years to find Master and him to find me. Looking for someone isn't easy nor should it be. Finding someone compatible takes time.

Prinsexx -> RE: What can I do? (4/17/2008 1:06:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP With your chin pointed upwards, you look closedminded. SOUNDBITE! SOUNDBITE! [sm=banana.gif] Mind you I have sometimes looked into an ear and seen right through the other side.

Griswold -> RE: What can I do? (4/17/2008 7:58:43 PM)
(I'm telling you...it's the fucking hat).

ResidentSadist -> RE: What can I do? (4/17/2008 8:32:02 PM)
...You guys chewed that poor boy's head off. Here, lemme’ staple that back on for you. I guess they are all saying the same thing, you get what you work for and it appears you just didn’t put in the effort. In general, Doms are opinioned be it valid or not and post a lot of advice whether it is welcome or not… like this reply.

ResidentSadist -> RE: What can I do? (4/17/2008 8:33:10 PM)
then again... it realy could be the hat.

martyrized -> RE: What can I do? (4/17/2008 8:33:34 PM)
/agree

SteelofUtah -> RE: What can I do? (4/17/2008 11:17:28 PM)
Okay I am taking a Pay Pal Money Account for those who wanna buy this poor bastard a New Hat considering his head shape I am thinking a Bowler or News Boy? Anyone wanting to help this poor soul contact me on the other side. Also I am taking additional donations for the reconstructive surgury that will either fix tha look on his face or remove the small woodland creature up his ass who caused it. Folks Give what you can.. Okay we jibbed you enough about this. The serious answer is you only get out what you put in. You put in a Half assed attempt and now you see what that gets you. Steel

chellekitty -> RE: What can I do? (4/17/2008 11:46:13 PM)
well...the good news is that you put "something" in your profile...the bad news is that it's just a bunch of activities...it doesn't really tell much about you as a person...and honestly, if i was looking, i would dismiss you as just another person looking to get off, so here is some advice Stefan gave me when some time back when i was revamping my profile, i hope he doesn't mind me quoting him... chelle quote: Write about the things you're passionate about, the things that make you excited ([not the kind that makes you hard[;)]])and really make you feel great. Write what your goals are in life; study? work? children? where do you want to live? Where do you want to travel? Where have you been? Who do you respect in life? These are things that will flesh out who you are as a person, and those who share your tastes will be more likely to write you as opposed to just passing you by in favor of writing someone else who has more information about themselves. I know I don't know what to write people, if they don't have any personal information.

GoddessTeaze -> RE: What can I do? (4/18/2008 5:55:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BlueHnS Wait ... I thought you just ran down to local market and picked up a new submissive. All shiney and sparkly and custom made to order even ! It's not like one is actually required to put forth any real effort ... or invest something of themself ... They we're on sale today, did ya see em too? I bought a bunch too, they r really fabulous !!! true keepers GoddezzT`

DDraigeuraid -> RE: What can I do? (4/18/2008 9:40:44 AM)
quote: They we're on sale today, did ya see em too? I bought a bunch too, they r really fabulous !!! true keepers GoddezzT` They're prolly still in a container, on a barge, going through the channel. They'll be sick after that. Better get down to the market. Damn it's tough being 2500 miles away. LOL On topic, I perved the OP's profile again. Guess he didn't like any of the advice, hasn't changed a thing. Dragon

winterwolf23 -> RE: What can I do? (4/18/2008 10:24:07 AM)
For those that think I live close to chicago, do a search for Watseka Illnios. Its not what you call in the middle of things. Infact we have a grand total of 10 women on this board who live within 50 miles of me. Most of them are inactive or collared. The fact of the matter is we have a very Small BDSM community that consests primarily of couples who want it to stay couples. As for what do with a submissive. I had a 2 subs. One was killed in a car accident and the other became ill with ALS and passed away. I have spent the last year since looking for some one at the local leval and checking this site when i have the time and internet. The chicago community is great and I have made it to a few munchs, I cant all the time due to my line of work. I just never thought that after 2 years over seas and munching around in Tokyo and Kyoto that it would be this hard to meet some one in the states. If you knew where to look, could couldn't turn up a rock with out finding a submissive female looking for a dominant in Tokyo. Even with the language problem, it was never hard to find some one. It was just finding some one good! I spent the last year looking in the local community. Irougious, Kanakee and Newton counties have almost no luck finding bondage groups except for the couples group earlier. Over all, I am not whineing. I am highly frustrated. I have never had to work this hard to find some one.

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