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MistressHela -> help (4/15/2008 7:46:43 PM)
I'm a out of practice Domma. What should I do once I get a slave? Should I give him/ her a on /off switch to let them know when I want to start and stop?

MsLadySue -> RE: help (4/16/2008 3:26:18 PM)
You're kidding, right?

Misstoyou -> RE: help (4/16/2008 4:41:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressHela I'm a out of practice Domma. What should I do once I get a slave? ... It's okay to be new, both here on the forums and in your profile. You'll find lots of advice in the "Ask a Mistress Forum", and lots of altruistic submissives who will gladly allow you to practice that advice on them. [:D]

MasterFireMaam -> RE: help (4/16/2008 8:22:59 PM)
I think perhaps your question should be, "How do I educate myself about this lifestyle and relationships?" The answer to that question is to read (check my signature) and to get out into your local community. The basic skills/knowledge come first, THEN the slaves, in my opinion, unless you are starting within an already established vanilla relationship. Master Fire

TaintedEyes -> RE: help (4/17/2008 11:52:15 AM)
As someone who is out of practice, perhaps looking for a submissive first would lead way to a slave. They aren't the same thing, and if you aren't sure of what you're doing, you can't possibly hope to care fully for someone else. Secondly, you're asking switches about what to do with a slave? Are you a switch? or do you simply misunderstand the name?

crouchingtigress -> RE: help (4/20/2008 10:54:11 AM)
on off switches are a good idea in the beginning of a d/s relationship IMO, esp if you are new and or out of parctice. i like the sympbolgy of the collar for this, collar on, roles engaged, collar off, roles unengaged.

Dreammster -> RE: help (4/20/2008 7:32:57 PM)
Well Mistress, you might need some special help with that. I suppose I could offer my services for an extended training weekend. It is difficult but we could get you back into slave owner Dominance probably within the weekend. My services are expensive. Training Domme's is a rare and incredibly difficult talent. If you prefer to try on your own, all the best to you. quote: ORIGINAL: MistressHela I'm a out of practice Domma. What should I do once I get a slave? Should I give him/ her a on /off switch to let them know when I want to start and stop?

MadameXTC -> RE: help (4/21/2008 6:35:53 PM)
I think reading some educational stuff would help.. of course some people put away the toys and pick them up like they never laid them down. My advice is read, read, read...watch, communicate and get some help. Maybe a local munch/club/ group some good r/l BDSMers who hold educational sessions. Some of the coolest stuff I learned was at small group get togethers. There is always room to grow and learn something new within the lifestyle and usually someone who is willing to help show how it is done :) but remember there is never one way to do something.. you make it yours and have it work for you in your situation as long as it is safe sane and consensual

balletsissypa -> RE: help (5/11/2008 4:39:56 AM)
Mistress, (curtsey) i don't kow that its a questionof starting and stopping. It is not like Prodomme sessioning. If You are going to take him/her as a full time sub/slave, then it probably needs to be a ful time relationship. You can certainly have levels that You use for being out in public versus at home or when You are really in the mood versusdown with a cold. i have found, especially with Dommes trying to feminize me, that if You keep slipping in and out of rolls i makes it hard to focus and build a D/s relationship. One minute You are treating me like a guy and/or an equal, the next minute You are treating me like a slave and/or a girl. It is hard to keep switching back and forth. Hope that helps. Obediently, lauren xooxooxoxoxoxo curtsey

DiurnalVampire -> RE: help (5/11/2008 8:17:50 AM)
If you are simply out of practice... what did you do when you were IN practice? Being out of practice menas you are not new to this, but you ahve done it before... Read up,and figure out what you want and how to do it, and then TALK to whomeever you are with. There is no black and white answer to what you should do with your pets. DV

ToysAndTies -> RE: help (5/11/2008 11:34:20 AM)
No disrespect...but "Hwaa?" Actually, it's a little known fact that all switches come with a lever implanted in our lower back, and just by flicking it, we go from top to bottom and back again. I think you can get them at home depot, usually in the hardware section. Just go ask for the March of the Wooden Soldiers special.

Raechard -> RE: help (5/11/2008 11:46:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressHela I'm a out of practice Domma. What should I do once I get a slave? Should I give him/ her a on /off switch to let them know when I want to start and stop? I understood you were joking and I enjoyed flicking through your photos to see the mini animation. You have a fun kind of personality which is something very special in my opinion.

Ahlexus -> RE: help (5/14/2008 9:27:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressHela I'm a out of practice Domma. What should I do once I get a slave? Should I give him/ her a on /off switch to let them know when I want to start and stop? your kidding right? a on / off switch i didnt know there was a light on in me... here maybe this will help ( SWITCH THE DEF....) i copyed it from my profile hope this helps ya (My role) I am a SwItCh.....[image]http://www.collarme.com/htmlarea/smileys/0064.gif[/image] Switches are unique in that these people have both dominant and submissive aspects of their personality.When they are choosing to enhance the dominant aspect of their personality, they have the same responsibilities as the Tops. Slaves and submissive also give Switches the gift of submission and place their trust in them.Switches are also responsible for the training of their slaves/subs and for their actions towards others on the site. On the flip side, Switches can also choose to enhance the submissive aspect of their personality and give submissions to other Switches, Masters, or Mistresses.They then have the responsibility of carrying out their Masters / Mistresses / Switches wishes. While, Switches do submit, they are not slaves. The dominant aspect of Switches personal

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