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chellekitty -> other-than-sexual objectification party (4/17/2008 11:14:44 PM)
i was reading the sexual objectification party post and i was thinking about how sexual objectification is not really not my thing...but pretty much all other types of obejectification are...plus some other dehumanizing/degredation type things...i like being a kitty (obviously), i like being furniture - foot rest, end table, heck if you're not too heavy i like being sat on, i like being art - bondaged into place for a party... and i've seen articles written about these kinds of parties...or maybe it was someone's fantasy creaping into reality? because i have never heard of one of these kinds of parties happening in real life...like where there is live art or live furniture...everyone just kind of does their own thing, i think the biggest combined effort i have seen has been a puppy mosh pit at a national event...but the pups were kind of in control of that... not really sure what i am looking for, but i just think it would be fun to be a piece of live art or live furniture...that is nothing more than art or furniture - that doesn't have sexual or pain needs or wants for a couple of hours...that is just treated like art or furniture...by everyone...hmm.... chelle

GreedyTop -> RE: other-than-sexual objectification party (4/17/2008 11:16:46 PM)
I've been to a party where the submissive was a serving platter.. does that count?

punkdom -> RE: other-than-sexual objectification party (4/18/2008 2:40:26 AM)
Make it happen. Most of this stuff fails to exist on a regular basis just because no one takes the initiative. I know as a mid to late 20s Dom, I'd be game to go to a local play party involving a bunch of human furniture - and bring friends. Its just coordinating it, publicizing it, securing the participants, ensuring a respectful environment, etc. With all those factors, its less an issue of lack of interest as that there are so many ways to do this wrong. The problem with many very cool BDSM functions, is all it takes is one thing to go wrong for the event to be a disaster... and not to recall bad memories for the LA BDSM scene, but one bad incident involving knife play and inebriation at a public function almost a year ago cast a pall on months worth ensuing events in our local scene. That said, because of the higher bar for getting BDSM events right (getting responsible DMs, devising safe and sane house rules, etc.) few people want to take that initiative. I have heard of limited scope human furniture parties.

SimplyMichael -> RE: other-than-sexual objectification party (4/18/2008 7:39:30 AM)
chellie, Punkdom is right, they can be done but few want to go through the hell of putting on an event. Jay Wiseman has a lovely term for it, he calls it "organizational masochism" and it is. HOWEVER, if you want something, do it yourself or it won't happen. If you search for threads about doing formal dinners you will find useful info on things to consider. http://tribes.tribe.net/mastersden Is an event similar to what you are describing I think The problem with events that are run toward a particular kink is you are going to have structure which means it will rub some people the wrong way. In a huge place like SF they have enough people that if they exclude some they can still have an event. It is harder in a smaller community unless you are really good at getting people to buy into your idea. I once threw a "french maid" party where we asked the participants to offer up their submissives to be maids for the party and dress the part. They were to serve food and drinks to the guests. Sounds fun and innocent right? SHITSTORM...some objected because only their submissive could serve them, some objected to the idea, everyone had a way THEY wanted it to work, some objected to the rules and wanted it to be like a normal party. Few offered to help, few offered their submissive. Everyone wanted to come. My thoughts are, I am doing the work of creating the party, deal with MY structure or kiss off. However, I am also aware that the less my structure considers others, the smaller the list of attendees gets so there is a happy medium. I LIKE throwing themed parties. I throw D/s parties where submissives should sit on the floor, the light is low, the music is moody, play is less the focus and instead the focus is on service. Finger food is the order of the day. It is interesting to watch the differences, some dominants feed their submissive, others are fed by them. I have thrown parties without floggers, want a shitstorm? Announce that and step back. I swear to god some people couldn't do bdsm without them. I love pointing out I consider flogging to be service by dominants to submissives. Pisses people off. You could specify certain types of play, messy play, unusual play, etc. Again, the trick to doing these well is to find a balance between enough structure that the party is actually different but that there are enough people who can enjoy that structure that you have enough people to make the party work. It is also important to clearly articulate your goals for that structure and why you have chosen it. Get people to buy in just enough they want to come and yet don't compromise so much that you don't have the event you want. I haven't thrown a party in years, damn you chellie I think I have the bug again. Oh, and I use bsb as a footstool when I can as well as another useful item. For a future party I am working on a ball gag that suspends a chain down to a serving tray strapped just under those magnificent breasts. I would prefer to suspend it from her nipples but I don't think they could take it. Picture her in black leather arm binders strapping her arms behind her back, that glorious creature with her head thrown proudly back, her shoulders square, gleaming red ball gag in her mouth strolling through your party as nothing more than a mute but beautiful traveling serving tray...

GreedyTop -> RE: other-than-sexual objectification party (4/18/2008 7:42:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael For a future party I am working on a ball gag that suspends a chain down to a serving tray strapped just under those magnificent breasts. I would prefer to suspend it from her nipples but I don't think they could take it. Picture her in black leather arm binders strapping her arms behind her back, that glorious creature with her head thrown proudly back, her shoulders square, gleaming red ball gag in her mouth strolling through your party as nothing more than a mute but beautiful traveling serving tray... ok, that was just HOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Leatherist -> RE: other-than-sexual objectification party (4/18/2008 7:48:11 AM)
You really want to piss someone off? Tell them that the subs all have to show up in diapers. And that the bathroom is off limits,and they better bring changes. Beyond that, you reminded me that I just finished two arm binders last night. More to come.[:D]

ThunderRoad -> RE: other-than-sexual objectification party (4/18/2008 9:56:12 AM)
We once ate birthday cake (angelfood cake with strawberries and whipped cream) off of a slave's belly and chest. She loved it and we all had fun. Plastic tarp IS required.

BossyShoeBitch -> RE: other-than-sexual objectification party (4/18/2008 9:56:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael chellie, Punkdom is right, they can be done but few want to go through the hell of putting on an event. Jay Wiseman has a lovely term for it, he calls it "organizational masochism" and it is. HOWEVER, if you want something, do it yourself or it won't happen. If you search for threads about doing formal dinners you will find useful info on things to consider. http://tribes.tribe.net/mastersden Is an event similar to what you are describing I think The problem with events that are run toward a particular kink is you are going to have structure which means it will rub some people the wrong way. In a huge place like SF they have enough people that if they exclude some they can still have an event. It is harder in a smaller community unless you are really good at getting people to buy into your idea. I once threw a "french maid" party where we asked the participants to offer up their submissives to be maids for the party and dress the part. They were to serve food and drinks to the guests. Sounds fun and innocent right? SHITSTORM...some objected because only their submissive could serve them, some objected to the idea, everyone had a way THEY wanted it to work, some objected to the rules and wanted it to be like a normal party. Few offered to help, few offered their submissive. Everyone wanted to come. My thoughts are, I am doing the work of creating the party, deal with MY structure or kiss off. However, I am also aware that the less my structure considers others, the smaller the list of attendees gets so there is a happy medium. I LIKE throwing themed parties. I throw D/s parties where submissives should sit on the floor, the light is low, the music is moody, play is less the focus and instead the focus is on service. Finger food is the order of the day. It is interesting to watch the differences, some dominants feed their submissive, others are fed by them. I have thrown parties without floggers, want a shitstorm? Announce that and step back. I swear to god some people couldn't do bdsm without them. I love pointing out I consider flogging to be service by dominants to submissives. Pisses people off. You could specify certain types of play, messy play, unusual play, etc. Again, the trick to doing these well is to find a balance between enough structure that the party is actually different but that there are enough people who can enjoy that structure that you have enough people to make the party work. It is also important to clearly articulate your goals for that structure and why you have chosen it. Get people to buy in just enough they want to come and yet don't compromise so much that you don't have the event you want. I haven't thrown a party in years, damn you chellie I think I have the bug again. Oh, and I use bsb as a footstool when I can as well as another useful item. For a future party I am working on a ball gag that suspends a chain down to a serving tray strapped just under those magnificent breasts. I would prefer to suspend it from her nipples but I don't think they could take it. Picture her in black leather arm binders strapping her arms behind her back, that glorious creature with her head thrown proudly back, her shoulders square, gleaming red ball gag in her mouth strolling through your party as nothing more than a mute but beautiful traveling serving tray... Man the 151 rum is good today Sir!

chellekitty -> RE: other-than-sexual objectification party (4/19/2008 9:35:46 AM)
you know those calming water features they sell in walgreens or cvs or whatever your drug store is and sometimes at walmart...with the trickling water...i was thinking about how nice it would be to have one of those...bind up a girl into an interesting but comfortable position (she is going to be there for at least a couple of hours...) with her face pointed up and then have water dripping on her forehead and trickling down her face ala water torture...

PairOfDimes -> RE: other-than-sexual objectification party (4/19/2008 12:34:57 PM)
I, for one, think that an objectification party, and one involving not-sexual objectification, is a wonderful idea. It sounds very hot, either as an adjunct to a 'normal' play party or as a dedicated party in its own right. My party-planner persona says: okay, so you've got some of your guests being footstools and tables and lamps. What does everyone else do then? I like the idea of a service-oriented party, too, and I can see that objectification and service could be integrated well.

SubJordanTyler -> RE: other-than-sexual objectification party (4/20/2008 6:32:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael I once threw a "french maid" party where we asked the participants to offer up their submissives to be maids for the party and dress the part. They were to serve food and drinks to the guests. Sounds fun and innocent right? I've been involved in this kind of party before, as the maid of course. I have this cool french maid costume that looks even better with black thigh-highs and black stilettos. To avoid the problems stated in the post, I was the only maid and I was the sub of the domme hosting the party. So she set the rules and everyone followed them. I pretty much spent most of the night serving the guests food and drinks, but there was some play time in between where my ass was paddled red........and then had to spend the rest of the night walking around in those heels serving the guests with a very sore ass. Not easy!! Then when the serving was over, I was made to really serve the guests. LOL But the whole idea of just being a servant was pretty cool.

Prinsexx -> RE: other-than-sexual objectification party (4/20/2008 2:08:40 PM)
I think the responses thus far confuse self-objectification with fetusjism. Indeed it is through reading chelle's OP that I realise I think the difference between self-objectification and objectifying wnother and making an object into an object of sexualised pleasyre. This has made me consider thtat there is an element of self-objectification inherent in the power position of being owned in itself. If I am 'owned' then I become an object of my Master;s pride, an onject of my master's desire, an object ofr his use. The sychologoical 'feeling' of being an object had occurred to me a few times during a scne. That feeling of being made to keeep absolutely still, to remain motionaless. From other posts I have contributed here many will realise that I have also been the 'victim' or 'object' of a date rape session. some have argued with me that this dd not 9necessarily) constitute bdsm. But for me the experience (once recalled) was as closer than anything I have experienced to becoming an object, involuntarily, for the use and for the pleasure of another, without will. Being used as an object is not my thing, But as I say I understand how ot could be and how it is distingusishable from being objectified.

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