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bipolarber -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/19/2008 7:17:28 AM)

Once again, the straight world begins to catch up with the GLBT world. Back int he 70's, before the plauge, this sort of scene was fairly common. Several venues in major cities across America had either black rooms, or labyrinths, where you could enter and have annonymous sex with as many people as you like. However, a trip to the free clinic was recommended by the end of the week.

(As history has shown, some of the excesses of those times led to some rather sad results.)

However, the idea of "faceless" (i.e. annonymous) sex still has it's attractions. It's a way of allowing yourself to enjoy the act for it's own sake, without things getting muddled by guilt, or worry, brought on by religious or societal conditioning.

However, you could enjoy this sort of thing on a smaller scale, by attending a play party in a leather hood, or a mask (a la "Eyes Wide Shut") and if it is a party where everyone knows each other and uses protection, the negatives are minimized. (This does, however make the "black room" scenario a bit difficult. Try turning out the lights, or wearing a blindfold, and toss a condom over your shoulder. Then try to find it and put it on, while keeping an erection.)



crouchingtigress -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/19/2008 7:24:03 AM)

different moods on different days....but honestly in the last 10 years anon. sex has lost the appeal as the receiver because of potential safety risks, (you cant be sure of a strangers level of dedication to barriers in a dark room or with a blindfold on or even under covers....) but as the giver.... yeah, still hot.



Sundowner -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/19/2008 7:28:06 AM)

 



Fantasy? Definitely hot.

Reality? Definitely not.



Bethnai -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/19/2008 8:40:50 AM)

That is kinda hot.



cjan -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/19/2008 9:03:59 AM)

Anonymous sex is, to me, muy caliente. I've experienced it a number of times and love it. There are other ways to communicate besides verbally. This is one of the things that I like about it. We communicate with our eyes, body language, expressions, touch and pheremones. To be engaged in this, one (two, actually) must be fully present , focused and aware. Hoochie, momma!  Also, just because it may be anonymous doesn't mean it has to be risky if common sense precautions are used. 



Aileen1968 -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/19/2008 10:00:50 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

Okay I am one of those people who views Sex as an action, a Kink in and of itself if you will. To me it is nearly a fetish. The act itself is Sterile of emotion for me, the Person I am doing it with is insighting the emotion. Therefor when I have sex with me wife because I love her the emotion of love is carried out in the action of having sex.

In this you have to understand that this question is being asked of those who see sex as an action and not an emotion. If you cannot have sex with someone you do not love or if you see sex as something that REQUIRES an Emotional attachment then I am sure all of your answers will be the same as you will all require an emotional attachment.

However for those who enjoy sex for the act of sex and have heard about Black Room Orgies, or FurrySex you might be interested in the discussion of Faceless sex.

I am wondering if the idea of not seeing or knowing your partner while having sex with them is erotic to you?

I recently saw an episode of Real Sex (Well not recently it was almost 2 years ago) in which there was this Heodinistic getaway where they had this Orgy room which was PITCH BLACK So dark that you cannot adjust to the darkness and literally have to just feel your way around. The point is that couples use this room to have completely non judgemental sex with random partners all for the enjoyment of sex. The very idea of this was erotic to me. You don't know if you are having sex with the Hot blond or the Drap Brunette or even tha Sassy Redhead all you know is you have your member in (Or having yourself filled by) a complete stranger and you might not even know who it was at all after everything is said and done.

Now when I first got involved in the Lifestyle Furries were HUGE. There was some story being done on them nearly every week. One of the stories was about having sex with someone in a furry suit. Now at first I thought this was Tres Bizare but after thinking back now it is the same as the Dark Room Orgy.

You have comepletely anonymous sex with nothing more than an imagination. They don't have to be hot and sexy because it's all about the MIND.

I personally thought this Idea was HOT.

What do you think? Would you engage in this Kink?

As Always

Steel


See...now this wouldn't work for me because my pessimistic tendencies would have my brain saying that I wasn't having sex with someone hot, but rather it was with someone so butt ugly that they needed pitch black in order to get laid.  My brain wouldn't be able to get around that thought.



DDraigeuraid -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/19/2008 10:14:09 AM)

Nah, don't think so.  I want to look in their eyes.
Dragon



LadyHibiscus -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/19/2008 10:38:41 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

See...now this wouldn't work for me because my pessimistic tendencies would have my brain saying that I wasn't having sex with someone hot, but rather it was with someone so butt ugly that they needed pitch black in order to get laid.  My brain wouldn't be able to get around that thought.


Yeah, I keep coming back to that, too........that's why I am okay with the dark as long as I have SEEN everyone first.  But I am not a gay man, I am an Uberfemme......odd unclean body hair is a turnoff!



SteelofUtah -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/19/2008 12:19:40 PM)

See for me the Image is Unimportant because it is the act I am going for.

I have heard it said all pusst is warm and wet on the inside.

In reality I would like to enjoy the act in and of itself without the judgement on the other person.

I am sure that you might dislike the not so good looks but didn't you learn anything from Revenge of the Nerds.

"Are all nerds good in bed?"

"Yes, cause all Jocks think about is Sports, and thats why they're good at it. all nerds think about is Sex"

The guy who isn't what you would call fuckable might gut bring you to heights of extasy you might have never been before.

**Said by an Ovewrweight Nerd who worked EXTRA hard to be someone people remember after having sex with**

Steel



KnightofMists -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/19/2008 3:56:27 PM)

I am not big on the idea of the dark room orgy.... simple fact is... I seek the physical appeal more so if the emotional connection doesn't exist.  I have been with more than a handleful of women that I don't know their names... or people that I saw more than once. I enjoyed it to a point... but one thing I did realize and it made it difficult.. was finding a woman that enjoyed doing the actions that I enjoy.  I am not so interest in a Hot blonde if she is a dead fuck.... I like passion expressed... I like sexual aggression.  Truth is... as much as sex is an action... there is always an emotional aspect to it... but for nameless sex ... it isn't the emotions I have for the my partner but the emotions I have for the actions that I am engaged in.



Insatiable4Black -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/19/2008 5:44:09 PM)

Hot.. very very hot.  I would want to SEE everyone once before the lights get turned out.  Then-have my Master take me around with a bell on my neck - leashed and collared.. feeling people reach out for me - touching, pulling, caressing and using me for their pleasure (and for His).
 
I dream of a gang bang..  (yes yes STDs and AIDS aside - hard to put such life endangering realities "aside" per se)   I want a MMF at the very least, before I die.  In fact, since we are expressing preferences and our "hot" buttons  -  I will go out on a limb here and even request that MMF/gang bang be with ALL Black Men.
 
 



vampchick88 -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/19/2008 6:19:44 PM)

   I've got the chance to think a bit about this one. Myself and pet have a very deep emotional connection. Yet from the get go of reading this post all I can think of is locking on his black hood that completely encases his head and only has a mouth tube to breathe with. Covering his face so that he cannot see anything, the unknown surrounds his every thought only able to wonder what might happen next. That I can't see his face and that he'll be completely covered head to toe with rubber makes him an object, a sex object to be used anyway I see fit. I think that idea of having my own personal rubber sex toy to have countless hours of fun and amusment with is sexy as hell. ~Lorelei



eyesopened -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/20/2008 3:32:39 AM)

The idea to me is hott!  The idea of possible STDs is not.  Since i was sexually active prior to HIV i indulged in sex for sex's sake and loved it.  Now, i am thrilled to be in a monogomous relationship with a Master who does not share.

That being said, Master has introduced me to hoods and i absolutely love them! Master has a custom latex hood that has eyes, nose and mouth open but is getting two more so that eventually i will have only nose opening for breathing.  Even looking at a hood that is padded so that it's even more confining with just a half-inch grommet for air. 

The hoods make sex more anonymous even though i know it's just Him in the room.  i become nothing more than a fuck-toy, i have no face at all.  It's hott for Him, it's hott for me.  It's bondage at its finest in my opinion.  It is fabulous! 



Maya2001 -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/20/2008 5:28:54 AM)

The fantasy hot but with the risks absolutely will not go there -- to me totally dangerous and foolish

I also was sexually active prior to AIDS.   I had went thru a divorce was a single mom, when at 2 years old my son ended up in the hospital for internal bleeding, I was told if the bleeding continued at the rate it was , then he would require a transfusion.  At the time AIDS was just found in the bloodbanks it was daily news ..people dying, no way to screen... no cure..  and here I am scared not knowing why my son is bleeding internally they were running tests for hemophilia and putting him under nuclear scans for kidney failure they  had call in rare disease experts trying to get answers and now I am  presented  with possibly another menace of him becoming infected with AIDS  while all the news stations are playing  over and over on the screen every couple hours that AIDS has been found in the blood supply... I was damn near a total basket case not knowing whether my son was dying or would die from tainted blood. 

STD screening won't protect you if a new killer STD emerges as no test will exist to detect at least not until deaths start occuring  and the cause becomes indentified and like with AIDS it could be several years before some form of treatment finally becomes available which for many will come too late, like with AIDS it would find its way into the blood banks.

I plan to keep my risk levels as low as possible  by trying to minimize the number of sexual partners I have... instead of counting on condoms to protect me





lateralist1 -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/20/2008 6:16:31 AM)

No.
Sex is about emotion for me.
Domination is about emotion.
I can think of hundreds of sexual fantasies which I would be prepared to indulge in with someone I love who I know loves me. I wouldn't do any of them with someone I didn't love who I knew didn't love me.
I've done a lot more of my fair share of allowing myself to be abused sexually and abusing others.
No more if I can possible avoid it.
It kills my humanity. Regret and guilt are very powerful emotions. In sufficient quantities they can cause the mind to break down.



orfunboi -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/20/2008 6:23:00 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

But being chased around in the darkened room,tormented,slapped pinched and pinned? Slight difference?[:D]


Yes, but if it were really pitch black, wouldn't you be tripping over people and falling on them. Just doesn't strike me as fun. Nice fantasy though, if you don't think about the risk of catching something.



Padriag -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/20/2008 6:30:48 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah]

I am wondering if the idea of not seeing or knowing your partner while having sex with them is erotic to you?

Nope.

I want to see her, know who she is, know enough about her to get inside her head, push her buttons, control her, manipulate her, tease her, frustrate her, raise her up, take her down, spin her right round like a record player...

Love may have nothing to do with it... but that's not necessarily the only thing involved. 



Enjispossesion -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/20/2008 6:20:38 PM)

Fantasies are great! But point blank i do not know You i do not know what You may have etc... Now if there was some magical screening before hand lol (perfect world lol) where do i sign up!!!



Leatherist -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/20/2008 6:25:31 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: orfunboi

quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

But being chased around in the darkened room,tormented,slapped pinched and pinned? Slight difference?[:D]


Yes, but if it were really pitch black, wouldn't you be tripping over people and falling on them. Just doesn't strike me as fun. Nice fantasy though, if you don't think about the risk of catching something.


Who said anything about anything but two people being in the room?



HornyToadsMI -> RE: ~~Hot or Not~~ Faceless Sex. (4/20/2008 8:07:35 PM)

Depends on my mood.  Part of our kink (We are swingers too) is that We love to watch each other with someone else.  So i get pleasure from watching Him be pleasured.  Same for Him.  Now, i would love to be blindfolded, have my hands tied, and have a room full of men and women servicing me.......with Boss there to make sure everyone is behaving.  As for the STD comments....you still screen your f*cks like your scene partners.  Some people require testing.  Others (like us) require condoms.  :)  And We dont just f*ck everyone who comes down the pike.  We do have some standards (they have to be breathing......lol...)



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