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darchChylde -> RE: What Is The Best Way To Show Submission? (4/21/2008 10:41:54 AM)
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Words that are often basically meaningless in bdsm, Ds and life in general:
Best
Worst
Always
Never
Real and True (grouped together because they are often used together or are practically interchangable in our lifestyle)
Any time you seek to define anything as above another in the broad spectrum of thoughts, beliefs and practices in our community; you stand likely to show yourself to be either a) ignorant, b) an ass or c) an ignorant ass. Take care not to make any exclusionary statements without making clear that they are your (or anothers', though be careful speaking for another) own belief, desire, expectation, opinion or way.
To more specifically answer your question, the only "best" way for you to show submission is that which you decide is best for you until such a time that you have a dominant or prospective dominant and you choose to adopt whatever she decides is the "best" way for you ro show your submission to her. The issue of virginity here is moot as it has very little, if any, relevance to your question.
All of the above was solely based upon my opinion and experience, for whatever it's worth.
ps: The "best" way i know of to show my submission to Ma'am is simply to submit to Her will, desires and needs. i most commonly do this by:
- being honest about what's going on with me mentally and emotionally (listed first because it's the most difficult for myself)
- doing the above without holding back due to whatever She might be going through and worrying how it might negatively affect Her (basically, i am not to presume to think for my Dominant; this being part of what makes the above so difficult for me)
- being available when She needs or desires me to, in as much as my life and worldly responsibilities allows
- doing menial labor for Her (dishes, laundry and such) with as much joy and grace as i would massage Her shoulders or pleasure Her physically (not to say that i don't openly let Her know that i don't actually enjoy a particular task... it's common around the household for Her to ask me "Do you want to *insert particular task here*?" and then i would respond with "No, of course i don't want to do *particular task*, but i'll be happy to do so for You, Ma'am".)
- Give Her space when She lets me know that She needs it, and to try to know when She needs it without Her needing to tell me
- living my life and taking care of myself to the best of my ability, while still making it clear that i need Her as well
- never letting a day (and sometimes a conversation) go by without letting Her know, by words or deeds, that i love Her; also, never saying goodbye without telling Her that i love Her
- to always show by my words, actions and demeanor that i have a wonderful, skilled and loving Dominant (Her sigline here on the forums reads "It's the submissives that show to others what type of Dom owns them." - Anonymous and i consider it my duty to take those words to heart and be the best possible reflection of Her that i can possibly be)
i could go on forever, but i think my point is that the "best" way to submit to a dominant is however she would be most pleased; and that seldomly will this be rolled up into one simple word or deed, but is an ongoing practice
Christians have their WWJD? (what would Jesus do?); us submissives should have our own WWDT? (What Would my Dominant Think?) and if you can keep this question in your mind throughout your day, whether in their company or not, you'll find that you will be hard-pressed to go wrong
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