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RE: Most useful new skill to learn - 4/20/2008 9:35:29 PM   
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RE: Most useful new skill to learn - 4/20/2008 9:38:54 PM   
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It's really all going to depend on the woman in question.  Someone suggested you learn how to mix "girly" drinks.  I drink single-malt whisky.  Landscaping means nothing to me.  I'm a confirmed city-dweller, so my ever owning anything with a yard is unlikely (I hope).  If you ever ordered for me in a restaurant, I'd probably box your ears, unless I'd instructed you to place the order whilst I was away from the table.  One sub I'd made the acquaintance of loves to knit mohair sweaters.  I'm allergic to mohair (apparently some other type of wool was beyond his abilities).  Knowing how to cook, clean, do household repairs, and give massages wouldn't hurt.  I liked Leatherist's idea of learning how to sew fetishwear.  It's something I'd like to do myself, if I had the time.

So, rather than learning a really unusual skill that may be of no use, you'd probably be better off getting good at the basics, then finding out from your domme if there's something specific she'd like you to learn.


And it's just fun to work on projects together. I'm a pretty die hard stubborn top sort-but I'll do lots of projects with friends, matters not how they flag. I do it because I enjoy being creative.

But when you can do it with someone you love?
 
It's just INTENSE.

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RE: Most useful new skill to learn - 4/20/2008 10:19:26 PM   
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It's really all going to depend on the woman in question.  Someone suggested you learn how to mix "girly" drinks.  I drink single-malt whisky.  Landscaping means nothing to me.  I'm a confirmed city-dweller, so my ever owning anything with a yard is unlikely (I hope).  If you ever ordered for me in a restaurant, I'd probably box your ears, unless I'd instructed you to place the order whilst I was away from the table.  One sub I'd made the acquaintance of loves to knit mohair sweaters.  I'm allergic to mohair (apparently some other type of wool was beyond his abilities).  Knowing how to cook, clean, do household repairs, and give massages wouldn't hurt.  I liked Leatherist's idea of learning how to sew fetishwear.  It's something I'd like to do myself, if I had the time.

So, rather than learning a really unusual skill that may be of no use, you'd probably be better off getting good at the basics, then finding out from your domme if there's something specific she'd like you to learn.


Duh.

People varry and their needs varry, OF COURSE! -- But he was just asking for things, in general, some people might want. I don't think he (or anyone posting) was saying that ALL Dominant women would want every thing suggested. He was just looking for ideas.

And yeah --- Advice to "get good at the basics" -- Well what do *you* consider the basics???  ...... because some of the things listed that you just said you wouldn't like, *some* people might consider the basics, ya know? I think that is part of what he was trying to find out and seemed very sincere.

Advice to "Find out from your domme if there is something specific she'd like" -- Unm, I think if he HAD a Domme to ask, he would not be on here asking what would be good to learn TO FIND a Domme easier...... Just saying.


Kinda Pointless "advice" all over really......   

I think anyone can gether that different people will have different needs and Duh, If he had a Domme to be asking what *she* wanted, it seems apparent he already would be and DUH, every sub without a Domme would LOVE for one to appear for them to be able to ask!!! LOL --- You can't dismiss that there are some general things many people would like... At least he realised that some things might be more attractive than others and is willing to work on things. Things aren't working for him, he wants to serve and in the meantime have a goal to work on till her finds someone that will later benefit them, is that so bad?

Telling him to ask his Domme when the original post made it clear that he was doing this to *Find* a domme, is about the dumbest thing I have read yet. 

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RE: Most useful new skill to learn - 4/20/2008 11:26:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

It's really all going to depend on the woman in question.  Someone suggested you learn how to mix "girly" drinks.  I drink single-malt whisky.  Landscaping means nothing to me.  I'm a confirmed city-dweller, so my ever owning anything with a yard is unlikely (I hope).  If you ever ordered for me in a restaurant, I'd probably box your ears, unless I'd instructed you to place the order whilst I was away from the table.  One sub I'd made the acquaintance of loves to knit mohair sweaters.  I'm allergic to mohair (apparently some other type of wool was beyond his abilities).  Knowing how to cook, clean, do household repairs, and give massages wouldn't hurt.  I liked Leatherist's idea of learning how to sew fetishwear.  It's something I'd like to do myself, if I had the time.

So, rather than learning a really unusual skill that may be of no use, you'd probably be better off getting good at the basics, then finding out from your domme if there's something specific she'd like you to learn.


Duh.

People varry and their needs varry, OF COURSE! -- But he was just asking for things, in general, some people might want. I don't think he (or anyone posting) was saying that ALL Dominant women would want every thing suggested. He was just looking for ideas.

And yeah --- Advice to "get good at the basics" -- Well what do *you* consider the basics???  ...... because some of the things listed that you just said you wouldn't like, *some* people might consider the basics, ya know? I think that is part of what he was trying to find out and seemed very sincere.

Advice to "Find out from your domme if there is something specific she'd like" -- Unm, I think if he HAD a Domme to ask, he would not be on here asking what would be good to learn TO FIND a Domme easier...... Just saying.


Kinda Pointless "advice" all over really......   

I think anyone can gether that different people will have different needs and Duh, If he had a Domme to be asking what *she* wanted, it seems apparent he already would be and DUH, every sub without a Domme would LOVE for one to appear for them to be able to ask!!! LOL --- You can't dismiss that there are some general things many people would like... At least he realised that some things might be more attractive than others and is willing to work on things. Things aren't working for him, he wants to serve and in the meantime have a goal to work on till her finds someone that will later benefit them, is that so bad?

Telling him to ask his Domme when the original post made it clear that he was doing this to *Find* a domme, is about the dumbest thing I have read yet. 



I always find it interesting to see when someone gets riled up over nothing.  I was genuinely trying to be helpful.  Your diatribe, however, added nothing to the discussion, so if my post wasn't helpful, yours was even less so.  I can offer him one suggestion:  learn proper grammar, punctuation, spelling, and syntax, so that if he finds himself with a domme who sounds like she is nearly illiterate, he'll be able to help.

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RE: Most useful new skill to learn - 4/21/2008 9:11:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		Personally, I'd go with a Tailoring/Enchanting combination.  With all the cloth drops you get, especially in Outlands, Tailoring is cake to level.  Enchanting can be a bitch, but if you disenchant all the greens/blues you make to level up Tailoring, you'll have a lot easier time with it.  And you'll save a ton of gold by being able to enchant your own shit.  Oh, and if you're a shadow priest or warlock, make SURE you get your Frozen Shadoweave attunement at 350 Tailoring skill, that shit is better than T4.



Seriously though, echoing what's been said previously -- it depends on what is valuable to your Domme.  For the most part I'd say your best course of action is to flat-out ask what she considers to be the most valuable skill for a sub to have, but you can also use a bit of inference to figure it out on your own.  If you know she regularly comes home from work in a tizzy and freaking out about having to make dinner, learning to cook for her may be a good move.  Or if she complains that her back hurts or her feet hurt on a regular basis, learn the art of massage. 



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RE: Most useful new skill to learn - 4/21/2008 11:31:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		Be able to take a cock in the ass.

Well, not a real cock, but it's definately a bonus to be able to enjoy anal penetration, regaurdless of your gender

Cooking helps too!

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RE: Most useful new skill to learn - 4/21/2008 11:39:45 AM   
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Be able to take a cock in the ass.

Well, not a real cock, but it's definately a bonus to be able to enjoy anal penetration, regaurdless of your gender

Cooking helps too!

I am sure you dont cook and enjoy anal penetrations simultaneously, do you?

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RE: Most useful new skill to learn - 4/21/2008 11:48:19 AM   
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RE: Most useful new skill to learn - 4/21/2008 11:59:11 AM   
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RE: Most useful new skill to learn - 4/21/2008 5:11:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		All good skills - I might have to add a few to my list. I recently added cute ways to fold dinner napkins.

As for the anal penetration and cooking - ha! I bet my boy could do both at the same time - ooo what about a fig up his ass and a nice champaign for me. I might just have to start him on some sewing skills after all this conversation.



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RE: Most useful new skill to learn - 4/21/2008 6:15:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Joyful007

All good skills - I might have to add a few to my list. I recently added cute ways to fold dinner napkins.

As for the anal penetration and cooking - ha! I bet my boy could do both at the same time - ooo what about a fig up his ass and a nice champaign for me. I might just have to start him on some sewing skills after all this conversation.





I've been actually looking on google for sites on how to make leather items, or how to work with leather in general since reading some of the replies, so You're not the only one. lol

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RE: Most useful new skill to learn - 4/21/2008 6:57:13 PM   
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As others have already stated, cooking, and cooking well, is a biggie.  Not gourmet, but can you pan grill a nice chicken breast without minute instruction, make some rice and steam a veggie?  Can you set a nice table?  Attention to details regarding the household chores is also nice.  It takes practice.  Dusting the bookcases or not dusting them is noticed!  Learn how to do laundry.  In other words, read tags and follow instructions.  Listen carefully to the Domina, but it helps if you already have a good feel for various fabrics and understand about water temps, types of detergents, soaps, when to use bleach, when not to use bleach etc.  Ironing!  Does anyone know how to iron?  I try not to have too many things that need it, but there are occasions.  And learn how to fold clothing nicely.  That included linens, such as towels, sheets, tablecloths, etc.  I am amazed at the number of boys who do not know how to fold anything.  Be open.  If someone knows how to do the department store fold on a shirt, I am not opposed.  But if you don't, at least be able to fold something nicely, and be able to adjust to folding according to her instructions.   
Practice mutli-tasking.  I find that most boys do not know how to do this.  This does not mean that I expect you to be able to stir the pot while loading the dishwasher and use your foot to mop the floor with the wet towel.  It does mean:  You can have laundry going in the washer and dryer, and while those cycles are going, you can remember to take out the meat to defrost for dinner, and get the bathroom cleaned.  It's really not that hard...It's just good time management and being efficient. 
Reflexology...aromatherapy, a familiarity with some things natural.  Also some basic computer smarts and a good working knowledge of basic auto maintenance needs.
There are lots of things you can bring to the table.  You might mention you have good knowledge as well as flexibility in certain areas, and those could be the things (even without thinking of them herself!) that tips the Domina in your favor! 
Most importantly, always listen to and respect the wishes of the Domina.  It is supposed to be her household and her way.  I have a dishwasher, but there are certain things I need to have handwashed, such as My Cutco knives, My fine china and My crystal.  Much of that is not used very often (except the knives, of course!), but...Goddess help you if I find they've been thrown into the dishwasher. 
Does that help?

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RE: Most useful new skill to learn - 4/21/2008 7:36:28 PM   
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RE: Most useful new skill to learn - 4/21/2008 7:52:56 PM   
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Taxidermy

Gregorian chant

Dowsing


you would be on the bus back to Deliverance with those skills.

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RE: Most useful new skill to learn - 4/21/2008 8:16:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: midgetmafiosa

quote:

ORIGINAL: ultsub

Taxidermy

Gregorian chant

Dowsing


you would be on the bus back to Deliverance with those skills.



Hey, I think the taxidermy would be pretty cool.  I wouldn't mind having the dog from Scrubs, or a stuffed/mounted raven like one of my friends has sitting on her coffee table.


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RE: Most useful new skill to learn - 4/21/2008 8:22:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie

quote:

ORIGINAL: midgetmafiosa

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ORIGINAL: ultsub

Taxidermy

Gregorian chant

Dowsing


you would be on the bus back to Deliverance with those skills.



Hey, I think the taxidermy would be pretty cool.  I wouldn't mind having the dog from Scrubs, or a stuffed/mounted raven like one of my friends has sitting on her coffee table.


I grew up in Maine. I saw enough dead animals on walls/hanging from things/made into lamps to last a lifetime.

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RE: Most useful new skill to learn - 4/21/2008 8:32:30 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Andjew

Be able to take a cock in the ass.

Well, not a real cock, but it's definately a bonus to be able to enjoy anal penetration, regaurdless of your gender

Cooking helps too!

I am sure you dont cook and enjoy anal penetrations simultaneously, do you?



Sure they are - how else do you keep the constant motion of stirring getting tapioca to get done without burning?  :>

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