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RE: con people in D/s - 4/20/2008 11:33:31 PM   
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RE: con people in D/s - 4/20/2008 11:36:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: hermione83
Masters get you to think they know best, and it is your thinking that is flawed, and to take a leap of faith etc etc


Maybe you need a lifeguard in the cesspool of life, because it certainly sounds like you are quite malleable and quite naive.

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RE: con people in D/s - 4/20/2008 11:37:34 PM   
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RE: con people in D/s - 4/20/2008 11:41:51 PM   
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RE: con people in D/s - 4/20/2008 11:46:06 PM   
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RE: con people in D/s - 4/20/2008 11:47:55 PM   
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RE: con people in D/s - 4/20/2008 11:48:01 PM   
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that isn't it. it's they can tell you - you're going to do this or that. if you're a slave, you have to.. that's how the relationship works. it requires complete trust. that is extremely vulnerable. it ruins everything if there are predators like that. obviously there are morons who try from the beginning, but to establish a relationship and then do it after trust has been built is crazy. and i don't think he even is a dom/master, who knows? he just realized how easy it was to con one. it would be much harder for a sub to order a Dom to give her/him his banking passwords..


One of the hard lessons in life is to take off the rose colored glasses. 
We would love to think what we imagine can be true, sometimes we want it so badly we ignore the real important stuff.  You need to learn to trust yourself and listen when things strike you as odd rather then play follow your chosen leader. 
Sometimes we pick wrong.  Its your responsibility to figure out what you allowed when you shouldnt have. 
Again, I'm sorry you went through this... But take it as a lesson and move on.


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RE: con people in D/s - 4/20/2008 11:49:51 PM   
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I am sorry Tethers end, for all your pain. Good luck finding someone trustworthy and being able to give your trust=).


I have found someone I can trust.  I trust ME now. 


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RE: con people in D/s - 4/20/2008 11:50:00 PM   
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RE: con people in D/s - 4/20/2008 11:51:04 PM   
hermione83


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Status: offline 		Ah, that's good. I know i'm not trustworthy to myself. I'm extremely hazardous to my own health. Last week I gave myself a concussion (on accident). *sigh* This kinda thing is sort of regular with me.. lol


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RE: con people in D/s - 4/20/2008 11:59:32 PM   
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Now let's see.....You are an expert at begging and giving massages but you are a virgin... oh and an expert at amusement parks.  You want anal sex but don't want to get near HIS.  You want someone with an IQ of 130 or above (if you've taken it ... not sure what IT is that is taken, but ok) and want someone "very" fluent in English.  Being an English teacher, I'm not sure how one is "very" fluent... you are fluent or you aren't... but ok.  .  You don't want any control but you have lots of demands including solving the mysteries of the world, getting spoiled, being a little girl who is the do-ee, and being pursued and captured even if you fight or run away (which is called stalking, btw).  OH and you are depressed, afraid of the world, have had heartache, trauma, and you are sick constantly.

And with all these demands you call yourself a 10,000% slave girl.  wow.  I think you ought to show your list to the Goreans and see what they have to say about your slave heart  ... oooo.. that would be quite the posting.
There was one word you got 100% right - co-dependent.  You may want to check out CoDependents Anonymous... before you really get hurt.

... good luck and be careful... You have a big fat target on you.


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RE: con people in D/s - 4/21/2008 12:08:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well I am an aesthetician, so yeah, I am an expert at massage. I do that as one part of my living.. is that a problem? Just because I am religious doesn't mean that I haven't had serious relationships. I have. And it didn't have a tick box for anal "stuff", just sex. :P And no, giving and receiving anal things are quite different to many people. And saying what kind of person would be my soulmate would be exactly, by listing everything I am also, is to narrow it down. Not to put demands on a person who is not like that. I want to marry the person. And when we've made the commitment, then I am his property to control as he wishes. That is for finding purposes only.. It's as useful for others to look at my crazy list and move on if they aren't that person. (Which is most people). PS: What does the being an expert at going to amusement parks have to do with anything? And yeah, I do have a serious illness. I like to put all my faults out there. Ya know, I know some, and that was the first chatroom I wandered into when I was a pre-teen on IRC, lol. Anyway, I realized that all of the D/s stuff is about personal relationships, not about any protocol that anyone else has written. It's all about individuals being right for individuals. There's no such thing as a group governing such relationships.. Oh, yeah, and you can have a good idea of what you like mentally before partaking physically. Or knowing what something feels like in general, physically, anyway.. You don't have to have anything with another person to know yourself. Besides, I think I'd rather enjoy a man swooping down and kidnapping me like they do in Gor... they keep you, you know...


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RE: con people in D/s - 4/21/2008 4:31:00 AM   
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You know OP, erasing your messages is really not helping your cause. You seem like a right fighter to Me. If you want to be right at all costs or if you take things too personally, you need not to ask for sympathy on this board. If you've read other threads, you'll see it doesn't happen very often.

I'm sorry you got scamed (if you were, because having erased all your previous posts makes it difficult to understand). No mater what, the pain you feel is real because you feel it, and well, that sucks.

BUT, that you are a slave or not makes no difference to the fact that you are the first person responsible for your safety. Would you give your personal info to a stranger? I don't think so. So why would you do it to a Master? Because of the level of trust Ds requires, you should be especially careful, don't you think?

And to answer your comment, being smart doesn't ruin the fantasy. It makes it better in the long run.

Doing anything else is just not intelligent and trully irresponsible.

I'm going to be very direct to you, because from what I've gathered, and no matter what you say, you need a serious wake up call. You sound like the silly subs who've contacted Me and got all hissy-pissed because I was not behaving like they had fantasised. They had expectations, they got disapointed and were angry.

Knights in shining armor just don't exist. And if they do, I'm pretty sure they're not on a dating site like this one.

You really NEED to be VERY careful, because you do have a big target sign on your profile. I'm not saying this to be rude. I'm a Domme and I've read loads of profiles, and yours just spells vulnerable. All one needs to do to gain your trust is tell you what you want to hear. Cons are good at that.

Good luck and be safe.
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RE: con people in D/s - 4/21/2008 4:51:21 AM   
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Besides, I think I'd rather enjoy a man swooping down and kidnapping me like they do in Gor... they keep you, you know...


Do you actually believe that just because someone identifies as Gor that he will "keep you"? 



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RE: con people in D/s - 4/21/2008 5:01:04 AM   
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Knights in shining armor just don't exist. And if they do, I'm pretty sure they're not on a dating site like this one.


oh NO! Now someone tells Me!  I am so done, stick a fork in Me and call Me Muffin! 
 
 

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RE: con people in D/s - 4/21/2008 5:01:22 AM   
TreasureKY


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ORIGINAL: MissLily

... You really NEED to be VERY careful, because you do have a big target sign on your profile ... All one needs to do to gain your trust is tell you what you want to hear.


I would add that your profile also tells them exactly what you want to hear and what to say to gain your trust.  You've made it very easy for those who might con.

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ORIGINAL: MissLily

Knights in shining armor just don't exist. And if they do, I'm pretty sure they're not on a dating site like this one.


Well... there was one, but he's taken now. 

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RE: con people in D/s - 4/21/2008 5:50:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MissLily

Knights in shining armor just don't exist. And if they do, I'm pretty sure they're not on a dating site like this one.

quote:

TreasureKY

Well... there was one, but he's taken now. 


Oh, so you know my HoneyMaster?!!!  *g*

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RE: con people in D/s - 4/21/2008 5:56:38 AM   
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Just an FYI an IQ over 130 is 5% of the entire population and just because they are intellectual doesn't make them a good person. Just MY thoughts.
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RE: con people in D/s - 4/21/2008 6:09:28 AM   
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Oh, so you know my HoneyMaster?!!!  *g*


lol... Okay, I stand corrected.  There were two. 

I will point out that while Firm is my "knight in shining armor", he did not rescue me.  He is more than capable of rescuing and appears to have that instinct to want to solve problems, but he's smart enough to know that a healthy, stable and capable servant is of more value to him and his peace of mind in the long run. 

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RE: con people in D/s - 4/21/2008 6:13:25 AM   
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