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shahla00 -> New Sub with question (4/21/2008 8:33:16 PM)
What are doms really looking for in a sub? What do you feel the role of a sub should be.

respectyourowner -> RE: New Sub with question (4/21/2008 8:39:07 PM)
You should listen and do what you are told. quote: ORIGINAL: shahla00 What are doms really looking for in a sub? What do you feel the role of a sub should be.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: New Sub with question (4/21/2008 8:41:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shahla00 What are doms really looking for in a sub? What do you feel the role of a sub should be. I am looking for obedience, loyalty and trustworthiness. I am also looking for a relationship, a personality and things in common. Most of all, I am looking for someone I can respect and love, someone I want to spend time with in and out of our lifestyle interactions, and someone I can be proud to call mine. DV

WhiteFox77 -> RE: New Sub with question (4/21/2008 8:47:42 PM)
A fulfilling relationship. Since what that means is different for everyone single person on the plannet, there is no good answer. The three things (beyond a "nomral" relationship) that I look for in a sub it to: A) Do what you are told to do. B) Do what you know you are supposed to do even if not specifically directed. C) Enjoying doing A & B most of the time.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: New Sub with question (4/21/2008 8:54:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shahla00 What are doms really looking for in a sub? A) anything and everything B) it doesn't matter what "doms" are looking for, it matters what relationship dynamic and make up works best for you quote: What do you feel the role of a sub should be. Whatever works for the people involved. Sorry- I understand you want to be given answers and fit in and live within the confines of what the world tells you is good and cool, but there's none to be found.

FangsNfeet -> RE: New Sub with question (4/21/2008 8:56:42 PM)
We're all different but here are a few things that I expect from my sub. 1. Loyalty 2. Love/devotion 3. A kinky mindset and a desire to fuck every chance we get.

Lordandmaster -> RE: New Sub with question (4/21/2008 9:32:13 PM)
Honesty and obedience. Most people aren't capable of both.

SailingBum -> RE: New Sub with question (4/21/2008 9:39:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shahla00 What are doms really looking for in a sub? What do you feel the role of a sub should be. Dunno Ill let ya know once I get my dom badge from my cracker jack box. BadOne

ResidentSadist -> RE: New Sub with question (4/21/2008 9:56:37 PM)
There are a lot of stereotypes in the lifestyle. If you google “BDSM stereotypes” you can get a preview of how the different types fittogether and what they expect.

DesFIP -> RE: New Sub with question (4/22/2008 3:46:43 AM)
Mine looks for emotional transparency, not obedience or service. What do you need a dom to look for? What drives you? Answer those questions and then find someone compatible.

RavenMuse -> RE: New Sub with question (4/22/2008 3:51:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP What do you need a dom to look for? What drives you? Answer those questions and then find someone compatible. OK I am about to fall over from shock because I found a desFIP post which I agree 100% with. There are many many subs/slaves out there that fit their respective lables but wouldn't be compatable with Me in the slightest. People are not cookie-cutters, it doesn't matter what generic qualitys get listed, it is about compatability. If you try to be something you are not then you are heading for a world of disapointment... so is anyone you get involved with. Look at what you are and look for Someone compatable... whatever the lable.

SirKaton -> RE: New Sub with question (4/22/2008 6:10:22 AM)
Patience, obedience, trustworthiness, honesty and loyalty. For starters. These are basics, but what specifics really are defined by your Dom/Domme and their requirements for your submission to them.

JohnWarren -> RE: New Sub with question (4/22/2008 6:17:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shahla00 What are doms really looking for in a sub? What do you feel the role of a sub should be. You are getting a lot of good answers, but the thing to keep in mind is that what keeps a relationship going is shared goals. What YOU want is also very important. You need to find a dominant whose needs complement your own.

Dnomyar -> RE: New Sub with question (4/22/2008 6:29:28 AM)
Doms want subs to be fashion models, topless dancers with nice boobs, they should come with their own set of knee pads. They should have a lot of money. They should have lots of beautiful friends to fix their Dom up with. To all of you people reading this. Stay out of my dream.

willowspirit -> RE: New Sub with question (4/22/2008 6:42:14 AM)
Know yourself first. Don't fool yourself. Value yourself and find your worth. Decide if you just like to bottom ocassionally, which is fine. Figure out if you are really submissive in personality, or not. Is "submissive" a role you take on to get off and get the kink you desire? What kind of relationship do you want? Casual play partners, or do you want to be in a committed and dedicated relationship? Why?

Daddyslilpookie -> RE: New Sub with question (4/22/2008 8:39:43 AM)
My Daddy expects obedience, honesty, love, the list goes on. What matters is what your Dom expects and what works for you as a couple. what works for one Dom may not necessarily work for another, you have to find out what they are into and what they expect of you.

Floggings4You -> RE: New Sub with question (4/22/2008 8:49:39 AM)
This is what I wanted, before I met My sub. In her, I found all this, and much more: First, I wanted to find a sub with compatible kinks. There was no point starting out with the two of U/us being frustrated and/or disappointed. Also, part of My kinkyness is the desire to explore, to push limits, and to keep experimenting with new styles of play. I wanted someone who would join Me as I continually look for new ways to bring pleasure to Myself and to her. Second, I wanted someone with some availability. Even though I'm married, I am able to commit to getting together with My sub two or three times a week (which I believe is more time than many single Doms are willing to offer!) Third, I really wanted a relationship, rather than just NSA kinky sex. I wanted someone who wouldn't mind going out to dinner occasionally, or catching a movie, or listening to a local band. I didn't want to (and don't) control every aspect of My sub's life, but I did want to be a part of her life, moreso than just a kinky fuck-buddy. Of course, relationships require trust, honesty, and communication.

CalifChick -> RE: New Sub with question (4/22/2008 8:50:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shahla00 What are doms really looking for in a sub? What do you feel the role of a sub should be. You might as well ask "what are men really looking for in a woman?" or, "what are women really looking for in a man?" Five thousand different people, 5000 different responses. And none of it matters except, "does this person fit what I want/need/desire?" Cali

antipode -> RE: New Sub with question (4/22/2008 12:47:02 PM)
a) that she doesn't ask stupid questions b) that she puts the subject of her question in the subject line, understanding that that is what subject lines are actually for

Huntertn -> RE: New Sub with question (4/25/2008 8:12:57 PM)
Ok, think about this What Doms are looking for from a sub? The better question is: Just what are you looking for in a Dom, or IN any Male for that Matter? To me this is a meeting of the minds followed by anything else we want it to be! So what is a regular guy looking for from a gurl? honesty,caring,loving,deligent,delightful,funny,sexy baby, and the list goes on and on The simple truth is We all look for the match that makes our soul sing back to their soul

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