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MissSCD -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/22/2008 10:42:52 AM)

Been there.  Done all of this. He is playing her for a fool, and she needs to break all contact until she meets with his wife.

Regards, MissSCD



subtee -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/22/2008 11:24:29 AM)

Maybe he died. We are all guessing, can't possibly know. And since we have to assume I don't see it helpful to assume you've been "dumped," or that he's married or was just using you; I don't imagine that makes you feel any better about the situation.

What will ultimately improve your feelings about the matter, it seems to me, is to very frankly look at the situation and assess for yourself what you will do, because you cannot control or even impact what he will do. At least not at this moment. Are there scenarios that you can imagine in which this lack of contact would be okay with you? If so, try to learn if one of them applies. If not, or if you can't find out what happened, then decide at what point you're going to move on, try again. 

~hugs~



SailingBum -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/22/2008 12:06:01 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: tnkgrrl

so i have tried calling him, have emailed him, have tried everything i can to contact him. nothing. have i been dismissed? is there anything i can do besides cry over this?

thanks.


So it would appear

BadOne



domiguy -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/22/2008 12:18:36 PM)

I sincerely hope that he has died. Distance does not make the heart grow stronger...In fact it makes the penis long for something closer...It's one of the leading reasons that guys jerk off so much....You are lying on the otherside of the bed but my hand is right here.

Anywhoooo LDR's blow. There really is no sane reason to get involved in one..I know that it is done and everytime that I have persued one I feel like I might be in need of a little electro shock therapy to align my thoughts.

I was at the Cub game last night....40,000 people. Probably half were sporting a slit and probably out of that 20,000 maybe 5% or 10% would be found to be aesthetically pleasing to the sharp eye of the Domidong. So somewhere around Wrigley last night were at least one thousand to two thousand gashes just waiting to be plundered. Probably more once the drinking commenced....Now you have to figure in the kink factor and the fact that I act in the manner that I do and you are probably down to four or five single decent looking women that would actually get a kick out of my company. You should probably add in a few of the stragglers who might be missing some rather necessary body parts and shit that would slightly increase the availability quotient of women that wouldn't mind tangling with an angry Domidong.


Fuck, it appears I might have to start looking for an LDR or twenty...How can these subs really keep track?



windchymes -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/22/2008 3:54:30 PM)

*sigh*   it does my heart so much good to hear the wistful and poetic words of a manly soul who truly cherishes the mystique and femininity of women.



Poetryinpain -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/22/2008 6:43:42 PM)

OP - sometimes men just can't face saying good-bye when they don't really have a substantial reason for ending a relationship but want to end it anyway. The easiest way to do that is to fade away.

To quote an old song, the best thing you can do is, "Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again."

pip, feeling nostalgic



DrkJourney -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/22/2008 6:49:11 PM)

Been there done that....wanna see my t-shirt?....LOL

and how fun it is when they don't respond, then you can see that they've been online, so ya know they're still breathin...lol  or the ones that jumped up and put that they were being considered by you, and all of a sudden that message is removed, and they won't respond.  You know all this after they swear they've never connected with anyone like they have with you and oh how we click....(eye roll)

happens all the time online....mourn then move on



lronitulstahp -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/22/2008 6:49:21 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Wantstocontrolu

Yes you been dumped
Wait!!! That is wrong of you to assume...maybe, just maybe against all hope he is dead...it was a horrible wreck...as the life slipped from his body, he dialed six digits, hoping to explain to you....but....it.....wasn't... to.. be.

Actually, i think it's over, he was likely married, and wanting a quick lay.  Move on...use this as a learning experience, and don't hold the next guy accountable for what's happened.  Please don't become jaded or bitter...it makes your cooch loose and lackluster...which is why i try to stay cheerful and sunny at all times.

OMG...i should've read the whole thread...subtee...you're brilliant!!! hugs!!!(great minds...)



ResidentSadist -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/22/2008 6:59:25 PM)

I don’t think I would call it a dismissal.  Dismissal as I understand it requires someone to actually dismiss you. 

What you have is a new lover/dom that has gone MIA for unknown reasons and his phone is still on.  We can guess that he got sick and is incommunicado, he died and you weren’t on his next of kin list and eventually his phone will be shut off, he is married and got caught cheating, etc
 
The speculations about him being an emotional cripple that can’t end it officially seem far fetched as you said he “talked online, on the phone, text messages daily for two months, then suddenly, poof”.   Seems a bit inefficient for someone that chooses to just go “poof.”  Why wait 2 months? 
 
Whatever the case, looks like it’s  time for you to move on and reserve judgment for the day some facts come to light. 



wandersalone -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/24/2008 9:16:40 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

you are probably down to four or five single decent looking women that would actually get a kick out of my company.


You are being a tad optimistic there aren't you DG? [:D]



batshalom -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/24/2008 12:47:10 PM)

~fast-ish reply~

Not to restate everything that's already been stated, let this be the foundation upon which you build a solid structure for yourself. Lesson learned. Next time, take it more slowly, don't fall so fast, and (maybe most imporantly) trust but verify.



Lordandmaster -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/24/2008 12:49:22 PM)

Or maybe he died.  Or had an accident.

Chances are, he didn't die or have an accident, and just moved on without bothering to say farewell.

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaMistressa

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Many do not want to officially breakup.  They don't like the drama and explanations.  Often this happens because they had an experience with a crazy stalker person.  Or they are a coward.  Take your pick.


Or they are married or attached to someone else - there's always that one.



mypain56 -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/24/2008 1:21:24 PM)

Now let's not jump to conclusions here, it may very well be that op was dumped but if they felt a connection when meeting and op knows that He is under some stress in His life maybe she should give Him the benefit of understanding. Case in point, Daddy and i talked for a few months online, on the phone so forth. And at the time He lived three hours away from me. Then one day nothing no phone calls, no online communication zelch. i was freaking out, thinking all kinds of things. So i just stopped sending messages for about two weeks. And then one day He offlines me telling me His daughter is gravely ill, He's had to take a leave of absence to be @ the hospital day & night. And He apoligized up and down for making me feel lost and my heart hurting in that way. And you know what she has since been ill again not as gravely but still, and no matter what is going on He always takes time to call me even if it's just for a second.. Actually even whenHe's ona break from and Hegoes to get a soda pop somewhere, He'll call just to say hi or whatcha up too thing. i hope this may bring a little smile too your face. Just at this time don't feel negative and just send an offline once a week, saying  "thinking about you Sir".... just an idea!!!!
 
melly/srln-654-049-049



OldBastardly1 -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/24/2008 3:59:39 PM)

yeah...sure...no doubt



windchymes -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/24/2008 4:23:03 PM)

Of course, there's always the possibility that his brother will contact you one of these days telling you of his brother's untimely death and that he asked him to be your new Master.



KatyLied -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/24/2008 6:28:30 PM)

quote:

yeah...sure...no doubt


ditto.  Do you actually believe he couldn't find one moment of time in 2 weeks to tell you what was going on?



Poetryinpain -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/24/2008 9:45:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied
ditto.  Do you actually believe he couldn't find one moment of time in 2 weeks to tell you what was going on?


I have twice had Doms 'disappear' for lengthy periods, only to find that they'd been in the hospital without my number (hadn't reached phone conversation level yet), and without a computer to contact me. I didn't fret, though. I figured either they had lost interest or they had some valid reason for not contacting me. I went on with life.

pip, giving the benefit of the doubt



mypain56 -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/25/2008 4:04:09 PM)

ok,  sorry everyone perhaps i was lucky enough to find an honest one out their in the big bad Dom world. and he's played the poor op like a freaking fiddle.Although i don't think they had established the level my One and i had. So, maybe he's just a big butt hole, just seeing how many little submissive's he can get to chase after him with a 1 1/2 inch penis hard.....
 
melly/srln:654-049-049



OldBastardly1 -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/25/2008 4:16:38 PM)

some people are very easy to satisfy...."shiny things, shiny things...."[sm=rolleyes.gif]



Huntertn -> RE: have i been dismissed? (4/25/2008 7:47:34 PM)

O-vea, Dumped for sure.  Maybe his pc died, but the cell too,no way!  Just enjoy the time you spent with him..and look for another..He is out there and you will find him.  Or in your case, You may wake up one morning, find your in a new place, and there he is..having bought and paid for you.  lol, just kidding



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