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ORIGINAL: Misstoyou

I have to say I'm "shallow" as well when selecting my subs, though I like to call it having a fine sense of aesthetics. lol I can understand the sub having that need as well. That whole chemistry thing is important because I'm looking for a visceral reaction from my submissive, not simply a mental one.

But unless you're just totally repulsed by the picture, I also agree that a face-to-face meeting is the only way to truly judge if you both mesh.

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ORIGINAL: sebastian63

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ORIGINAL: plantlady64

My Master took this photo as he likes to take pictures of me, he picked my outfit ,I wear his collar 24/7 & I cut my hair myself at home to keep it out of my eyes. I don't even wear makeup, so if you are saying I'm trying to doll my photo up the answer is NOT SO. I dress to please my Master, but when we met we had not even seen a photo of each other as looks are secondary to a real connection between spirits for me.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne

I understand that all the visuals are your master's preferences
and that you and your spirit get no pleasure out of it.

I didn't mean to be snippy--it's just that you didn't seem to reflect on my question as a valid (if complex) issue but more as an opportunity to react with a (in my opinion) sophomoric comment. Satisfying to you and your spirit perhaps, but helpful to my spirit?

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ORIGINAL: xanderzzz

The problem with you would be if you have such a small view of what is attractive. If you think that only a model is attractive then you are the one with a problem.

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ORIGINAL: HentaiGamerKitty

Personally, I would say "meet her in person" first. Some people just don't photograph well. Sometimes a person seems sexy when you meet them in real life because of the way they move, they way they talk, carry themselves,etc..these are things a photo doesn't show.

I don't think you shouldn't enter a relationship with someone you find physically repulsive...however, I don't believe in putting too much emphasis on supermodel perfection. I've found that people who initially seem a bit "plain" often seem gorgeous to me once I've gotten to know them. My rule of thumb is that any person who looks vaguely human and has good hygiene (and who I mesh well with) is someone who has the possibility to become someone that *I* think is gorgeous.

My Master is in his mid thirties, pleasantly plump, with a receding hairline. I think he's GORGEOUS. He has the most intense, mischievious eyes and a smile to melt my heart (not to mention a sexy voice that leaves me quivering.) He's not stereotypically "movie star" good looking, but I think he's the greatest. Likewise, I'm not exactly a Playboy Bunny either.

I think that oftentimes in this lifestyle, attraction is more about what a person does/how they act/how they make us feel as opposed to their looks. Granted my Master would probably prefer I was size 3 than a size 14...but my heart/soul/submission is what makes me beautiful to him.

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ORIGINAL: windchymes

There are gazillions of single people in all the personal ad sites all over the internet..... because they don't feel attracted to the picture.

Much cuter in person,

windchymes

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ORIGINAL: plantlady64

I think the world would be such a different more balanced place for all of us if the exterior weren’t so valued in our society.

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ORIGINAL: sebastian63
When I saw her picture I was not physically attracted to her, but she has a lot to offer.

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I don't think I have a narrow view of what's attractive, and part of the turn-off was about atttitude: "You'll see my picture," she said, "And then say 'No way'."

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ORIGINAL: Kasia

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ORIGINAL: plantlady64

I think the world would be such a different more balanced place for all of us if the exterior weren’t so valued in our society.

I would say that truly balanced people take equal care of their interior as wel as exterior. If one claims to have best personality in the world and looks like something cat dragged out of trash, I would consider that person seriously confused in life matters.

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I think if more people could find a way to focus on their spirits, and personalities instead of colors of skin, height, weight and things like that. It makes me sick to see so many people throwing so much money and effort into the fake hair, nails, plastic surgery etc.. I think the world would be such a different more balanced place for all of us if the exterior weren’t so valued in our society.

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ORIGINAL: plantlady64
I agree to dress attractively and have seriously good hygiene is very important and attractive to me. We should make the best of the natural beauty we have been afforded. I just think as far as all the surface make up & alterations by fake methods people put themselves through thinking this is the only socially acceptable way they can be beautiful is very sad. Our society sends the message if you are not physically model quality perfect you are ugly. I've found a large portion internally ugly people have beautiful exteriors & some of the most beautiful people in the world were not gifted with perfect skin, teeth, stature or Ford Girl proportions.
I agree you shouldn't run around looking like a vagabond, smelling bad, or being physically dirty, but to feel if you have brown eyes you're not beautiful unless you wear blue contacts or if you are a A cup breasted lady you can't be hot without implants etc.. is very sad. That was the point I was trying to communicate.

Sincerely,
sub suzanne