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Prinsexx -> RE: Consent and agreement (4/24/2008 5:24:37 PM)
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ORIGINAL: stella41b
Are these two the same? Or can there be a difference between consent and agreement in a relationship?
I've just come back from a rehearsal with my actors working on a play about BDSM. One of the actors made the point that a D/s or BDSM type relationship differs from a conventional 'vanilla' type relationship. This we know. He suggested that the main difference is that a D/s or BDSM relationship is more definite in its structure and boundaries generally speaking than a conventional 'vanilla' type relationship. He claims that a D/s or BDSM relationship although generally based on one partner being dominant is more liberal in some ways than a conventional 'vanilla' type relationship.
What are your thoughts here?
He suggested more 'structured' AND more liberal?
Sorry did I misunderstnd his take on bdsm?
My immediate response is this: I don't know. If I had to choose adjectives as besy fit adjectives to describe a bdsm relationship they would be: unique, intense, individual rather than liberal yet structrued.
Maybe because my bdsm is 'private' seneing rather than public meets. munches or clubs.
My form of bdsm feels more like a refinement yet at the same time an expressive creativity rather than structured. experimental mght also be a good word. Now I know that flies in the face of what might be termed acceptab;e protoco;s but what i define as rottocol again is something that is individualistic and worked through within the dynamic.
I'm out on aa limb here usually. Other phrases; on the edge/ At the cutting edge? pushng the envelope? or even making or breaking the rule.........anarchic feminist slave? there, there's another bag I would put myself in if there were even a bag that iI could squeeze into.
Oh boy, does it take mastery to exchange power with me......smiles sweetly. makes a curtsy, takes a bow and crawls out of the room backwards on her knees......
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