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batshalom -> RE: Profile Advice (4/24/2008 2:00:47 PM)

Yep. I totally understand about veto power. I was involved in a poly relationship, fell in love with both partners, and was later vetoed after it was too late to be protective of my heart. Apparently the other slave struggled to make it work but in the end wasn't really poly after all. ~shrug~ It happens.

I didn't see the part about the s-type being welcome in your home - perhaps I wasn't reading deeply enough. It seemed more like it would be an "I'll visit you and we'll have some fun" type setup. I'm sure there's a good match out there for you but I also know that it's going to be impossible for you to create the perfect profile. We all miss The Rights, at some time or another. I hope your wait isn't an extended one.



DominantJenny -> RE: Profile Advice (4/24/2008 2:12:53 PM)

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ORIGINAL: batshalom

Yep. I totally understand about veto power. I was involved in a poly relationship, fell in love with both partners, and was later vetoed after it was too late to be protective of my heart. Apparently the other slave struggled to make it work but in the end wasn't really poly after all. ~shrug~ It happens.

I didn't see the part about the s-type being welcome in your home - perhaps I wasn't reading deeply enough. It seemed more like it would be an "I'll visit you and we'll have some fun" type setup. I'm sure there's a good match out there for you but I also know that it's going to be impossible for you to create the perfect profile. We all miss The Rights, at some time or another. I hope your wait isn't an extended one.


*nod* I'm sorry it hear it. Like you say, it happens, but it sure sucks when it does. I kind of wanted to mention that this isn't the first time we've done this sort of thing in order to reassure people that we do actually know we can cope.

I've edited it quite a bit since I read your comments and I hope it's more clear now that I'm looking for a friend and a lover, not just someone to "have fun" with...

I know perfect isn't possible, but I'd like to get as close as I can. Thank you.



madshysoul -> RE: Profile Advice (4/25/2008 1:21:52 AM)

Well I haven't read the original profile that started the thread, so I'm stepping in a bit late but here's my two pfenning.

Saying "long-term/part-time" and "full-blown" seems somewhat contradictory to me.

If I'm right in getting at the essence of what you're writing, it's something like this:

You want a female friend, who's kinky and wants a playmate, but you have a full-life of important ums and want to be up-front that they (as they should) come first. ...So why not just say that? It's certainly normal and reasonable enough. Don't wrap it in labels...since everyone filters them through their own heads anyway... just use plain english.

On that line, I would opine that you're likely to have more success getting to know people in your local new community than via collarme, but in either case, I wish you luck!



sunshinemiss -> RE: Profile Advice (4/25/2008 1:39:20 AM)

Hello Jenny:

Stephann wrote the following and it's really good.  This may help

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1704406/mpage_6/key_men%252Cfind%252Cwoman/tm.htm#1720933

*Blows kissees to Stephann (and his girls)
peace, sunshine



Focus50 -> RE: Profile Advice (4/25/2008 3:57:02 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DominantJenny

Thanks. Yeah, I know the blurry pic hurts me; as I explain in the picture, I'm just not willing to out myself to all and sundry that way. I can accept that some people aren't going to be interested based on that.

I should clarify that, thanks. I think I left it open because I wasn't sure, and I really should be.

Thanks!

Just on the pic - most can appreciate a level of anonymity but your chosen method suggests sloppiness rather than planning.  And then your explanation suggests indecisiveness - a tangled web....
 
It's fine to wanna show yourself without giving up your ID.  But do it in a positive manner, such as a focused pic but at a distance or wearing sunglasses etc if you still wanna protect yourself.
 
Focus.



DominantJenny -> RE: Profile Advice (4/25/2008 5:57:16 AM)

Actually, you are close, but I do want more than a friend/playmate, I want a real, serious romance. Which is what, based on your reaction to "full-blown", I changed my profile to read.
Immigration takes a long time, and we're just at the beginning; it'll be about 2 years before we move, so in the meantime, I'll look online. I will definitely check out the local community once we're there. (Assuming I can find a babysitter. :P)

Thanks!



DominantJenny -> RE: Profile Advice (4/25/2008 6:00:13 AM)

Hrm. I suppose it's not obvious that I carefully blurred a clear photo rather than using one that was blurry to start with. I may take your sunglasses suggestion. I'll take a few photos this weekend and see if I can come up with something I'm comfortable putting up. Thanks.



DominantJenny -> RE: Profile Advice (4/25/2008 6:23:50 AM)

Taking a suggestion mentioned in another post, allow me to express my gratitude for your help. :)

*leaves out a plate of brownies, a plate of cookies, a variety of chips and cheeses, and some drinks*
I would say "help yourself to the tasty treat of your choice", but we all know where THAT would go in about a minute. :P So, instead...Enjoy! ;)



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