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ozunleashed -> newbie (4/24/2008 12:47:28 PM)
i am new to this master setting. i am curious and want to learn the way of being a master. i would greatly appreciate if someone in that field can help me get on my feet on being a master. give me advice and such. thank you

JohnWarren -> RE: newbie (4/24/2008 12:50:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ozunleashed i am new to this master setting. i am curious and want to learn the way of being a master. i would greatly appreciate if someone in that field can help me get on my feet on being a master. give me advice and such. thank you This is a good group of people to which to ask SPECIFIC questions. Also, fortunately, there are a large selection of books which you can glance at to get a nice overview. I won't post a list but I'm sure someone will be here in a moment to do so

Wantstocontrolu -> RE: newbie (4/24/2008 2:17:00 PM)
Get involved with your local BDSM Community. Go to a munch ask wuestions. Internet searches probably will not work depending on your location. BEST option is find a good Mentor with some references.

derfrewop -> RE: newbie (4/24/2008 2:36:51 PM)
First, honestly answer to yourself why it is sane for you to want to be a Master. After all, most of society thinks you're nuts for wanting to control, hurt, manipulate and dominate somebody else. This answer includes honestly figuring out what things would be insane in your opinion. We call these "hard limits". This answer will tell you how you want to Dom. Next figure out why a person who wants you to do these things to them is sane. After all, most of society thinks a person wanting to be controlled, hurt, humiliated and dominated is nuts. Honestly answering this question will tell you who you are looking for and help you figure out what you need to know to actually achieve what you want. All answers apply only to you and nobody else. Rest assured that everyone here will be certain that you are crazy to a greater or lesser extent. To stand on your own, for your own reasons, in your own way simply because you choose is the first step. Second is to have others choose to follow. For that to happen, it must make sense to everyone, yourself included. Figure out the sense, the sanity and the rest will follow.

Focus50 -> RE: newbie (4/24/2008 3:41:05 PM)
You'd hafta start by examining your own motives. There's not really a lot to "learn" if you're talking about your role in your own personal relationship - that's for you and your partner to decide and define. Water always finds its own level - NO-ONE can teach you the need to be Master over your personal slave; that comes from within and you merely go where your needs drive you. However, if you're looking to live the stereotypical power fantasy of strutting with your superior peers blah blah then you nned to go outside your personal relationships to pick up on the "accepted" traits, lingo and protocols. So the question is, are you trying to impress others by talking the talk while walking the walking or merely get a handle on how to live your private life? While there's not a lot of outside advice for the latter, you'll need to get out and meet other lifestylers in order to "belong".... Focus.

antipode -> RE: newbie (4/24/2008 8:51:00 PM)
Bend over, sweetie

FangsNfeet -> RE: newbie (4/24/2008 9:09:29 PM)
A very important thing to think about is to not get nervous. Many new doms / sadist start off nervous with the idea of "Am I pleasing you?" to the sub. Who is it that's suppose to be pleasing/serving who here? While in the "pleasing" state of mine, you find yourself caught being Topped from the Bottom. However, being topped from the bottom is still not a bad way to start out for your first few scenes. Just realize that sooner or later, you're going to be in complete controll weither the sub likes it or not and they'll love you for it.

chamberqueen -> RE: newbie (4/26/2008 7:56:57 AM)
Keep the lines of communication open. Don't just listen to the words, but to the tone of voice, and watch for body communication. If your sub feels understood and appreciated then they will do almost anything for you, but simply demanding it from them is a very different dynamic. Remember that there can be a big difference between being a Dominant and simply being dominate. Any jerk can dominate; a true Dominant cares for more than just himself.

ozunleashed -> RE: newbie (4/27/2008 11:03:22 PM)
thank you so much. thats more information than i have recieved. i would like to make you my friend but it says your profile cant be found

MistressOfGa -> RE: newbie (4/27/2008 11:57:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ozunleashed thank you so much. thats more information than i have recieved. i would like to make you my friend but it says your profile cant be found Hi, Welcome to the forum. I have one question for you. Out of all the answers that you received, why is it that the one person you want to "be friends" with, is the one woman who posted a response? All these men, with the exception of one, offered you some very good advice, why not ask to be their friend? Curious, MoGa Books I recommend: Screw The Roses, Send Thorns http://www.amazon.com/Screw-Roses-Send-Thorns-Sadomasochism/dp/0964596008/ref=cm_lmf_tit_2 The Loving Dominant (John Warren was one of the Dominants who responded to you) http://www.amazon.com/Loving-Dominant-John-Warren/dp/1890159204/ref=cm_lmf_tit_3 The New Topping Book http://www.amazon.com/New-Topping-Book-Dossie-Easton/dp/1890159360/ref=cm_lmf_tit_4

LadyPact -> RE: newbie (4/28/2008 12:13:16 AM)
Would it be really wrong for Me to say that some of this made Me laugh? Seriously, My advice is two-fold. Get yourself out to the local community. There are plenty folks out there who can teach you a lot of things. Second, it sounds old fashioned, but you really can learn a lot from books. They can be a place to start.

MistressOfGa -> RE: newbie (4/28/2008 1:39:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Would it be really wrong for Me to say that some of this made Me laugh? Seriously, My advice is two-fold. Get yourself out to the local community. There are plenty folks out there who can teach you a lot of things. Second, it sounds old fashioned, but you really can learn a lot from books. They can be a place to start. I dont know...what part made you laugh? :-/

LadyPact -> RE: newbie (4/28/2008 2:23:53 AM)
These: quote: ORIGINAL: JohnWarren This is a good group of people to which to ask SPECIFIC questions. Also, fortunately, there are a large selection of books which you can glance at to get a nice overview. I won't post a list but I'm sure someone will be here in a moment to do so quote: ORIGINAL: antipode Bend over, sweetie quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa Hi, Welcome to the forum. I have one question for you. Out of all the answers that you received, why is it that the one person you want to "be friends" with, is the one woman who posted a response? All these men, with the exception of one, offered you some very good advice, why not ask to be their friend? Curious, MoGa I have a weird sense of humor at 4:00 am.

Dnomyar -> RE: newbie (4/28/2008 8:08:42 AM)
Im with you MG. He did'nt ask me to be his friend.

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