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MistressOfGa -> I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 2:34:24 PM)
How much information can one share on this site, without breaking TOS? I have something that I would love to share, but to be honest, it isn't the TOS, or Mod II that scares me. What scares me is that some folks on here would be so quick to judge my kink. I mean how honest are we really, when we post here? I remember it was either Katylied or Emerald that said that they wouldn't dream of posting any "real" problems here. "I wouldn't post any real problems here." was the exact words. I believe them, because that is what I want to do, yet I can see why they would say that. Real problems, personal problems do not belong on a message forum. I leave myself wide opened to be ridiculed or humiliated. Maybe others won't do this on purpose, and maybe they would on purpose, but the point is, I don't know what to do. I want to know that I am not alone in how I feel. Emerald always says "If your question starts with "has anyone?" or "has this happened to anyone?" then chances are it has or did. I feel alone with this. [sm=needahug.gif] I have searched for other posts like what I am having a problem with, but no responses come up. MoGa ETA: I just noticed that I used Emerald first ID, and now, I can't think of the one she uses now. Someone shoot me.

kittinSol -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 2:39:07 PM)
You might not be alone; I've no idea what the problem is, but you won't find out whether you are alone or not unless you ask. On the other hand, I understand why you would hesitate to post anything of a very personal nature on the boards: they can be ruthless. I've befriended a few people on this site whom I would consider confiding in to should the need arise: perhaps you could do just that, on the other side, in private, if there are such posters you trust? Good luck.

SteelofUtah -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 2:40:03 PM)
Mail it to me. I profess to understand all kinks and will certainly NOT judge you. I Might ask you a MILLION questions but that is because I want to understand it better. If you really want we can talk about it. Steel

MistressOfGa -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 2:54:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kittinSol You might not be alone; I've no idea what the problem is, but you won't find out whether you are alone or not unless you ask. On the other hand, I understand why you would hesitate to post anything of a very personal nature on the boards: they can be ruthless. I've befriended a few people on this site whom I would consider confiding in to should the need arise: perhaps you could do just that, on the other side, in private, if there are such posters you trust? Good luck. Kittin, I have no real life friends. I do have a friend I met here, but part of me is thinkin' that no matter how kinky she is, I would be soiling her. I hope that makes sense. It is a weak moment for me, for sure. Now I am feeling like a drama queen. I think I need to sign off, go to bed, and pray that someone with good sense will delete this thread while I am sleeping.

GreedyTop -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 2:54:39 PM)
Cmail, MoGa hugs

MistressOfGa -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 2:55:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah Mail it to me. I profess to understand all kinks and will certainly NOT judge you. I Might ask you a MILLION questions but that is because I want to understand it better. If you really want we can talk about it. Steel Thank you Steel, I have heard that you are the one to talk to if one is down lol As I said up above, I feel pretty stupid starting this thread. I think I needed encouragement to continue, but now I just need encouragement to get my ass into bed.

Level -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 2:56:47 PM)
MoGa, I would think you'd have less chance of being ridiculed, as many of us here know and like you. Fair or not, veteran posters get more slack than new ones.

TysGalilah -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 2:57:26 PM)
((((((((((((((((Hugzzz)))))))))))))))))) You are not alone. I've been told I have a good listening ear, if you'd like to talk.. I will be around the house gardening most of the day saturday. smiles Cyndi

Prinsexx -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 3:00:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa How much information can one share on this site, without breaking TOS? I have something that I would love to share, but to be honest, it isn't the TOS, or Mod II that scares me. What scares me is that some folks on here would be so quick to judge my kink. I mean how honest are we really, when we post here? I remember it was either Katylied or Emerald that said that they wouldn't dream of posting any "real" problems here. "I wouldn't post any real problems here." was the exact words. I believe them, because that is what I want to do, yet I can see why they would say that. Real problems, personal problems do not belong on a message forum. I leave myself wide opened to be ridiculed or humiliated. Maybe others won't do this on purpose, and maybe they would on purpose, but the point is, I don't know what to do. I want to know that I am not alone in how I feel. Emerald always says "If your question starts with "has anyone?" or "has this happened to anyone?" then chances are it has or did. I feel alone with this. [sm=needahug.gif] I have searched for other posts like what I am having a problem with, but no responses come up. MoGa ETA: I just noticed that I used Emerald first ID, and now, I can't think of the one she uses now. Someone shoot me. I post personal stuff here. I'm not afraid to do it. And actually I think many people have the same personal stuff even though we feel alone when we are going through it. OK so there are friends and foe but I take what I need. I have big big shoulders to cry on so Cmail me also.

sblady -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 3:03:51 PM)
Hugs and squeezes that you can feel to confirm that you are not alone. Regardless of the circumstances, you have us. You've helped many when you respond in the forums and we are here for you regardless. Take care

madshysoul -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 3:07:28 PM)
Send it on the other side, happy to give feed back/opinions/ideas. I have run into, been through, or at least counseled people on...well just about anything including TOS violations. What's in your head is in your head...I don't consider things like that falling under the category of 'judgable' personally. Hell, if it were, I'm guaranteed a front-row seat in hell several times over myself!

RCdc -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 3:08:16 PM)
Lady MoGA Anyone like that who acted so negatively, would not be worth your precious time. Em is now LA...(if that assists). And you have mail. Be safe the.dark.

Mercnbeth -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 3:09:28 PM)
quote: How much information can one share on this site, without breaking TOS? I have something that I would love to share, but to be honest, it isn't the TOS, or Mod II that scares me. What scares me is that some folks on here would be so quick to judge my kink. MoGa, What possible result can scare you? People's judgment shouldn't concern you unless it rings true. I guess there are many people who don't have mirrors in their houses either for the same reason - they don't like what they see reflected. I can not imagine how anything written reflected what we did, how we live, or what we are doing having an emotional effect on us, or making us angry. It is ever did, that's the day I'd put a bullet in the hard drive and rip out the cable modem. From your posts, you are a strong and confident person. If you have a problem or issue which you believe people on CM can help you resolve; by all means do so. When (not if) the negative judgment comes into play, ignore it, or be amused by it; drawing from your strength. Although we both find it a tad silly when someone, coming from either side of the flogger, asks what they should do, or how they should react to a particular situation between them and their partner when their answer is in the head lying on the pillow next to them every night; matters of sexual preference or "kink" don't fall into that category. Most who condemn are the same who think the swimsuit issue of Sports Illustrated should be banned. Their condemnation is as valuable as their opinion and drawn upon with similar real time experience. Sure we can be shocked, disgusted, turned off; but our "condemnation" is limited to waving 'bye-bye' as we removed ourselves as quietly as possible; leaving the participants to enjoy themselves in peace. In reality that's all any of us can ask for and expect. Don't worry about being ridiculed. It can't change or effect the fundamental belief in the facts you know about yourself. Anything you read can only provide perspective. If its a perspective you hadn't considered it's valuable; even if it comes from a ridiculing and mocking source. If it make you think, or better yet, adds another 'brick' of strength to your foundation principles; it was well worth the risk of disclosure. If not and your post is considered just "silly"; meriting 25 pages of 'funny' retorts and mocking - Well, there's never enough laughter in the world and people should appreciate you for make them smile! The internet CAN'T hurt you!

PanthersMom -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 3:16:54 PM)
first of all, you're not alone, you have many friends here in the forums who would be happy to discuss things with you by the number of cmail offers you have received. add me to the list. i'm pretty good with having big shoulders and big ears. if we're not here to support each other and learn from each other, what the heck are we here for? i'm sure that someone somewhere has thought of what you're thinking of, and the person it turns out to be could surprize you. PM

MladyHathor -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 3:37:27 PM)
good gawd woman, if anyone has laid out the saga of their life here, its Me----as Level said, posters with tenure get slack---and besides, if ya can't hang your dirty laundry here, there ain't no clothes line fit for it anywhere--- *((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGE HUGS)))))))))))))))))))*

BitaTruble -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 3:45:38 PM)
MoGa, I adore you and my box ::blinks:: is always open to you ... now, get your ass in bed. [sm=mistress.gif] Celeste

ownedgirlie -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 3:46:13 PM)
Bita recently started a really good thread in which pages of people said they don't subscribe to the "your kink is not ok" philosophy. This would be a good opportunity to see that in effect. And from one who has already been labeled "insane," I promise there is nothing you can say that will shock me or give me cause to make you feel less than your wonderful self. [:)]

cjan -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 3:51:23 PM)
MoGa, you and I have just "met", apparently because of your recent absence from the fora due to your illness and my short time here. However, I have already groked your sincerity and open heart , as well as your pups, and admire and respect you both and your relationship. I am sometimes misjudged, imo, by peeps who seem to think that I am , from time to time, too open in my posts. So be it. Perhaps it is a function of having hidden my true self for so long, I dunno. I think that whatever you have to share would be well received and sincerely answered here by your many friends. Of course, there might be some judgemental folks as well. But, that is the way it is and the risk one takes when one is brave enough to be vulnerable. Whatever route you coose to take, in PM or publicly, I wish you and yours the best. Warm Regards CJ

pupofMoGa -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 4:09:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa quote: ORIGINAL: kittinSol You might not be alone; I've no idea what the problem is, but you won't find out whether you are alone or not unless you ask. On the other hand, I understand why you would hesitate to post anything of a very personal nature on the boards: they can be ruthless. I've befriended a few people on this site whom I would consider confiding in to should the need arise: perhaps you could do just that, on the other side, in private, if there are such posters you trust? Good luck. Kittin, I have no real life friends. I do have a friend I met here, but part of me is thinkin' that no matter how kinky she is, I would be soiling her. I hope that makes sense. It is a weak moment for me, for sure. Now I am feeling like a drama queen. I think I need to sign off, go to bed, and pray that someone with good sense will delete this thread while I am sleeping. <hugs Mistress> You are never alone Mistress. I am here for whatever You need to talk about. -pup

DominantJenny -> RE: I'm alone (I think) (4/25/2008 4:20:14 PM)
I know I'm new around here, but I'm far from new to life...I haven't been shocked or even surprised by much in a long, long time. And I'm very, very nice. Besides, I owe you for giving me good ideas. :) You can talk to me; it may not be my thing, but I'll listen and advise as best I can.

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