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Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 3:05:30 PM   
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I've been informally denied acceptance into my chosen college major because of a negative evaluation on  EBE (experience based education) credit. I was given the negative report for 2 reasons.

1. I asked alot of questions. When I'm new at a job, I want to make sure I learn how to do things the right way and avoid as many mistakes as I can. They said I asked questions because I was trying to undermine their authority.

2. I refused to allow them to take advantage of me. I have an unmentionable and also someone I'm dating that I see on weekends (both live a ways away). When I had my EBE interview, I told the company I didn't want to be scheduled on weekends. They took so long with their new employee process that by the time they offered me hours, I had to take whatever I could get just so I could finish my EBE on time (EBE required certain # of hours). It was all on weekends. I accepted the weekend hours on a temporary basis until I could get something during the week and I made that clear. A couple of weeks later, weekdays were available and my boss said I could have them. The next day, I found out my boss's boss wanted to give them to someone else. I said I understood the mix-up and then asked nicely if they could please take me off every weekend when the next weekday hours were available. I was told everyone keeps the schedule they start with. When I reminded them I only accepted the weekend hours on a temporary basis, they did change my schedule. Then they decided to get a little revenge by giving me a bad evaluation.

I tried to tell my college advisor what really happened but she won't believe me. I'm sure she won't have anything positive to say if any other colleges call about me. It's too late for me to withdraw from the EBE and the place I did the EBE at is going to be listed on my transcript If any colleges call them about me, they won't have anything good to say either. I have worked hard for this....I transferred to this college with a 3.87 GPA. I'm tempted to go to another college and only send the transcript from the junior college I attended. Most colleges have rules against omiting transcripts, but how easy is it for them to find out? Am I ruined? What would you do in this situation?

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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 3:15:11 PM   
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1. They will find out if you don't send all your transcripts. Somehow they will.

2. You need to find someone else who can vouch for EBE or another position. However do you have to use them? You always get a reference from someone you had a positive relationship with.

3. You could tell them that you left your positon because of your differences and then explain your position on it. Keep it positive do not say anything negative to about the place. And simply say you learned a lot from the experience.

4. Include a letter with your transcript and application. You could also try to do this face to face.

5. Any schools that have their information call them up and tell them you're not sure if they will be favorable for you. Tell them about your parting ways because of your differences and that could you send other information to them

Good luck!

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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 3:16:51 PM   
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Find a better school.

the system is never wrong.

move on to a situation that works ....

[ps-  you will have to be flexable about weekends.  whenever you have such agreements write down the day and time  that item is agreed to.

what do you want to major in??

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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 3:18:17 PM   
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fuck work..fuck school...your only 34..you can marry a rich man.



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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 3:20:46 PM   
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Sleep with the boss?
Report them to the tax people?
Bribe someone?
Blackmail them?
Make sure any other student boycots them?
Ask for your college money back?
Cut your losses?

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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 3:23:44 PM   
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I don't intend to use them for a reference. But they will be listed on the transcript from this college. Any other college that sees this transcript could easily call the company and ask about me. I don't see what the big deal is about omiting transcripts. It's not like a student is saying they attended a college they didn't attend. College is extremely difficult as it is.....students that work their asses off to maintain academic excellence don't deserve to have their entire future ruined by a couple of assholes.

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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 3:26:57 PM   
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Cut your losses?


Does that mean I'm ruined, that I made straight A's 3 semesters in a row for nothing? Should I just give up on college or omit the transcript?

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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 3:27:45 PM   
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Thanks for the laugh, faerytatoodgirl.
Isebelah, the mark of your ignorance is the depth of your belief in injustice.
chew on that for awhile.
and then, simply change schools.

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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 3:32:50 PM   
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1. They will find out if you don't send all your transcripts. Somehow they will.

How can they find out if I only send the transcript from the first college I attended and not the second?

2. You need to find someone else who can vouch for EBE or another position. However do you have to use them? You always get a reference from someone you had a positive relationship with.

I plan to get positive references from professors but that may not matter. This is the only EBE I've ever done.

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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 3:46:07 PM   
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Cut your losses?


Does that mean I'm ruined, that I made straight A's 3 semesters in a row for nothing? Should I just give up on college or omit the transcript?

Can you do another EBE somewhere else?

Don't delete the transcript.  Explain the transcript to the admissions or intended department at that school.  If they find you're missing a transcript, you'll be accused of fraud.

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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 4:59:28 PM   
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I don't know what your major is, and this might work out more with liberal arts majors, but there is the back door approach.  Say that the field you want to major in has x amount of companies and they all are quick to pick up from three different majors, thats great. So, make the major you wanted, your minor and pick from one of the other two to major in. Then you don't have to change schools and you might win a different advisor. This means you may be able to gain the support from other professors who know what you are capable of and still get what you want.

It might work with business and such, considering things such as sociology majors are usually picked up rather quickly for marketing.  Your GPA might override that EBE and if you maintain that you can beat it.  I don't know if you had to go out and secure it or if it was secured for you AND there is a huge difference either way. 

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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 5:41:08 PM   
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You can't omit a transcript.

I took a community college creative writing course about a thousand years ago and my current university, before they would admit me, made me get a letter from the community college (this class was back in 1990) stating that I was a former student in good standing. They know, although how I have no clue.

Go to the dean of your school and plead your case. (I'm wondering why your instructor doesn't believe you - did you make waves in class or something?)

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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 5:49:41 PM   
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Some blunt advice:

A college degree in anything is better than no college degree.

Whatever decision you make, dropping out and never getting one is the wrong choice.  You need to gather more information before you can make an intelligent decision.  Namely:

1 - What other options do you have at the current school?

2 - What does your advisor really think?

3 - What other schools would be options and how long would that take?

I would also like to state, for the record, that you do come across as somewhat negative in these posts; statements like "I'm sure she won't have anything positive to say..." and "Does that mean I'm ruined, that I made straight A's 3 semesters in a row for nothing?" don't paint you in a positive light.  This is not to say you actually are that way (you may be, you may not be, how the hell do I know?), just that the impression you leave, intentional or not, is that.

But bottom line, whatever you do, definitely get a degree somewhere and somehow.


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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 6:11:51 PM   
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dbg, I hate to point this out - I don't want to - but it if it helps you in the long-run it will be worth it.

I'm sure you're smart and I'm sure you're capable, but if your persona is the same in RL as it often is online, this could be hard going for you. You can be very combattive, to put it mildly. Ask some people (classmates, friends) for some honest feedback about yourself and the manner in which you conduct yourself, and if the feedback is negative, take steps to make positive changes so that you're helping yourself instead of hurting yourself.

I'm not trying to be nasty. I'm trying to point out what could correlate with this particular incident / set of incidents. Correlation doesn't imply causation, of course, but maybe it's something to consider.

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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 6:22:52 PM   
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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 6:29:48 PM   
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It's great that you have a high GPA moving forward in whatever degree you are pursuing.
But you must develop a skill set that will be helpful in the work place.  Employers value people who can be flexible, independent, and proactive in their work.  This means working flexible hours when needed, doing as much as you can independently without asking questions all of the time, and doing what you can to ease your boss's situation.  If you are serious about school, as you seem to be, I'm left not understanding how you completely dropped the ball on this work situation, that is critical to how you are perceived.  I am assuming this job was the length of one semester?  Yet you could not be flexible enough to go with it?  That says a lot.


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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 6:54:53 PM   
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I'm sure we're getting a self-serving description of events, and even the phrase "I refused to allow them to take advantage of me." tips me off to a bad attitude that likely lead to the bad review. I seriously doubt they are out to take advantage of people, but if you put such a negative spin on it then it is no wonder you are getting negativity back.

Believe it or not, you are getting an education from this experience. Now it is up to you to learn from it.


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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 6:55:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Real_Trouble

Some blunt advice:

A college degree in anything is better than no college degree.

Whatever decision you make, dropping out and never getting one is the wrong choice.  You need to gather more information before you can make an intelligent decision.  Namely:

1 - What other options do you have at the current school?

2 - What does your advisor really think?

3 - What other schools would be options and how long would that take?

I would also like to state, for the record, that you do come across as somewhat negative in these posts; statements like "I'm sure she won't have anything positive to say..." and "Does that mean I'm ruined, that I made straight A's 3 semesters in a row for nothing?" don't paint you in a positive light.  This is not to say you actually are that way (you may be, you may not be, how the hell do I know?), just that the impression you leave, intentional or not, is that.

But bottom line, whatever you do, definitely get a degree somewhere and somehow.



Maybe that used to be true but not anymore.
With this global economy and outsourcing a college degree is no garauntee of success.
Unless you're going to specialise in Nursing, any type of Medicine, Engineering, Accounting and other fields you're wasting your time getting a degree in general studies like sociology, psychology, political science, or a lot of other things.
If you get a degree in French you will be living at home with your parents for a very long time!
The people who make the real money are people who own their own businesses, are in sales, (you can be a stockbroker if you pass the series 6 and 7 exams no "degree" neccessary)
or have unusual jobs which involve a lot of travel.
As I've said before in here I can't count the number of waitresses and waiters who've waited on my with some type of "degree" and I ask them!
The number one answer, "Psychology."
It's the law of supply and demand.
The way things are today many waiters and waitresses make more money than people with college degrees.
And the days of General Motors and other corporations having recruiters on college campuses looking to hire ten thousand people every year are gone!
And look at all the IT people who are out of work!
Sorry, but that "you need a degree" stuff is simply no longer true.
It's propaganda put out by the "Degree Factories" that colleges and universities have become.
It worked pretty good 30 years ago but we didn't have a "global economy" then did we.

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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 8:28:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Real_Trouble

Some blunt advice:

A college degree in anything is better than no college degree.

Whatever decision you make, dropping out and never getting one is the wrong choice.  You need to gather more information before you can make an intelligent decision.  Namely:

1 - What other options do you have at the current school?

2 - What does your advisor really think?

3 - What other schools would be options and how long would that take?

I would also like to state, for the record, that you do come across as somewhat negative in these posts; statements like "I'm sure she won't have anything positive to say..." and "Does that mean I'm ruined, that I made straight A's 3 semesters in a row for nothing?" don't paint you in a positive light.  This is not to say you actually are that way (you may be, you may not be, how the hell do I know?), just that the impression you leave, intentional or not, is that.

But bottom line, whatever you do, definitely get a degree somewhere and somehow.



Maybe that used to be true but not anymore.
With this global economy and outsourcing a college degree is no garauntee of success.
Unless you're going to specialise in Nursing, any type of Medicine, Engineering, Accounting and other fields you're wasting your time getting a degree in general studies like sociology, psychology, political science, or a lot of other things.
If you get a degree in French you will be living at home with your parents for a very long time!
The people who make the real money are people who own their own businesses, are in sales, (you can be a stockbroker if you pass the series 6 and 7 exams no "degree" neccessary)
or have unusual jobs which involve a lot of travel.
As I've said before in here I can't count the number of waitresses and waiters who've waited on my with some type of "degree" and I ask them!
The number one answer, "Psychology."
It's the law of supply and demand.
The way things are today many waiters and waitresses make more money than people with college degrees.
And the days of General Motors and other corporations having recruiters on college campuses looking to hire ten thousand people every year are gone!
And look at all the IT people who are out of work!
Sorry, but that "you need a degree" stuff is simply no longer true.
It's propaganda put out by the "Degree Factories" that colleges and universities have become.
It worked pretty good 30 years ago but we didn't have a "global economy" then did we.


This doesn't make any sense to me.  Look at the objective data:

People with college degrees earn more than people without college degrees, on average.  Yes, there are waiters and waitresses with college degrees; but if people like that are going to be waiting tables with those degrees, that tells me two things:

1) You are screwed without one, because you are now waiting tables at best.

2) They probably were not the good students in the class.

I know plenty of very stupid people who have college degrees.  However, and this is speaking as the person in charge of hiring and firing for my team at work, you're not even getting an interview or your foot in the door without a college degree.  You need to have it to even play the game.

In my case, I can tell you that I had eight different job offers to take my pick from when I graduated from college.  I certainly agree with the advice that you should major in something that will get you a job, and that a degree is not going to do all the work for you; however, at no point are you going to be better off without one than with one.

"It's hard even with a degree" is not an argument to fail to get a degree!

Edit - Also, the "many waiters and waitresses who make more than people with a college degree" bit is flat out false; look at the averages and wage distributions for college graduates vs. non-college graduates.  This just does not hold up to scrutiny.


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RE: Am I ruined? In serious need of advice. - 4/25/2008 10:01:27 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: popeye1250

quote:

ORIGINAL: Real_Trouble

Some blunt advice:

A college degree in anything is better than no college degree.

Whatever decision you make, dropping out and never getting one is the wrong choice.  You need to gather more information before you can make an intelligent decision.  Namely:

1 - What other options do you have at the current school?

2 - What does your advisor really think?

3 - What other schools would be options and how long would that take?

I would also like to state, for the record, that you do come across as somewhat negative in these posts; statements like "I'm sure she won't have anything positive to say..." and "Does that mean I'm ruined, that I made straight A's 3 semesters in a row for nothing?" don't paint you in a positive light.  This is not to say you actually are that way (you may be, you may not be, how the hell do I know?), just that the impression you leave, intentional or not, is that.

But bottom line, whatever you do, definitely get a degree somewhere and somehow.



Maybe that used to be true but not anymore.
With this global economy and outsourcing a college degree is no garauntee of success.
Unless you're going to specialise in Nursing, any type of Medicine, Engineering, Accounting and other fields you're wasting your time getting a degree in general studies like sociology, psychology, political science, or a lot of other things.
If you get a degree in French you will be living at home with your parents for a very long time!
The people who make the real money are people who own their own businesses, are in sales, (you can be a stockbroker if you pass the series 6 and 7 exams no "degree" neccessary)
or have unusual jobs which involve a lot of travel.
As I've said before in here I can't count the number of waitresses and waiters who've waited on my with some type of "degree" and I ask them!
The number one answer, "Psychology."
It's the law of supply and demand.
The way things are today many waiters and waitresses make more money than people with college degrees.
And the days of General Motors and other corporations having recruiters on college campuses looking to hire ten thousand people every year are gone!
And look at all the IT people who are out of work!
Sorry, but that "you need a degree" stuff is simply no longer true.
It's propaganda put out by the "Degree Factories" that colleges and universities have become.
It worked pretty good 30 years ago but we didn't have a "global economy" then did we.


This doesn't make any sense to me.  Look at the objective data:

People with college degrees earn more than people without college degrees, on average.  Yes, there are waiters and waitresses with college degrees; but if people like that are going to be waiting tables with those degrees, that tells me two things:

1) You are screwed without one, because you are now waiting tables at best.

2) They probably were not the good students in the class.

I know plenty of very stupid people who have college degrees.  However, and this is speaking as the person in charge of hiring and firing for my team at work, you're not even getting an interview or your foot in the door without a college degree.  You need to have it to even play the game.

In my case, I can tell you that I had eight different job offers to take my pick from when I graduated from college.  I certainly agree with the advice that you should major in something that will get you a job, and that a degree is not going to do all the work for you; however, at no point are you going to be better off without one than with one.

"It's hard even with a degree" is not an argument to fail to get a degree!

Edit - Also, the "many waiters and waitresses who make more than people with a college degree" bit is flat out false; look at the averages and wage distributions for college graduates vs. non-college graduates.  This just does not hold up to scrutiny.



RT, I don't put a lot of trust in our government's "figures."
Do they count the people in their 40's working at a Mc Donalds?
And look at all the paper pusher's jobs in govt. that "require" a degree. What earth shaking decisions are those people going to be making?
The problem is those are secretarial jobs and should be paying $40-$50k not the $80 k that they do now because they have "titles."
We don't need people with degrees doing secretarial jobs for $80k in govt. That's called "feathering your nest."
If someone is going to spend $100k and four years getting a "degree" in sociology don't you really think they'd have been better off investing that money in a business?
I worked for a large Insurance co. During my interview all the lady interviewing me wanted to talk about was what I did while in the U.S. Coast Guard.
I told her; "Oh, I have a B.S. in Bus. Admin too."
Her reply, "that's nice."
The degree didn't get me the job, being in the U.S. Coast Guard did!
Also, the two biggest producing salesmen there, neither one had a degree but years of sales experience and training. And they made a lot of money, well into the $200's and this was in the mid 80's.
Also, a lot of companies promote from within. College degree or no you can't walk into companies like that and expect to by-pass people for a promotion just because they don't have a degree and you do.
And then there's "The Boss's son or daughter!"
They *never* need degrees do they?

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