RE: How Many can you keep?

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ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

I have read in several threads about how many male subs there are statistically speaking for every Female Dom on CM. Most of those threads are males complaining that they cannot find or attract a FemDom.

Just out of curiosity, I changed my Search on the home page to "Straight Female Dominants from 18 to 60 years, all states." There were FIVE of us on line at that time. I then changed to "Straight Male submissives" of the same age range. I got 3 1/2 pages, 25 per page, of them on line at that time. I wasn't counting all the people who had just left, etc. That would be roughly 18 male subs per FemDom at one given time.

How many of these does each Domme here even try to 'keep'? I've got several that I talk to on a regular basis and have about 6 that I consider good friends and would actually enjoy having as R/L subs if they were geographically closer. (Some of those have been invited to visit, but none have shown up yet.)

I used to wonder about all the women who said they were Pro Doms and make lots of money at it. One spoke of men waiting as long as 2 years for a strap-on session. These things just boggled my mind. I couldn't figure out where they found all these men who were desperate enough for this type of attention to pay for it.

I also never realized how rare a Dominant Woman is as a comparative ratio to sub men looking for them. Is this 'normal' in R/L? Or just an on-line phenomenon? If it's normal, how many subs do most Dommes try to keep?

Ladies, please understand that I am very new to the BDSM community. I've always had my 'boys', but through other venues and have always kept my kinks pretty much under wraps.

I've done Science Fiction/Fantasy conventions since 1979. Those always had at least 10 males for every female... So I've always had my pick of the fan boys. They never cared about being 'one among many' as long as they got some attention. And if they didn't like my kinks? Well - there were plenty more waiting for the chance to try.

I've been on Adult Chatt lines since 1990... Again, it was almost all male, so any female was showered with attention and could easily pick and choose who she wanted to spend time with.

But the open BDSM community? This is new ground for me. I'm not even sure exactly what I'm asking, so please pardon me for rambling. Do the rest of you Ladies keep a 'stable' or prefer to keep just one like a monogamist relationship? Do you keep more on-line than in real life? Or, once again, is this just personal preference?

<--46 and still learning!

Hello MsScarlett,
Did ya count all the acounts here of the subs/slaves/ and wankers?

Well You've to understand that there is more then 50% is fake here..
On all aspects...
(D/s)
So I don't think You can really count it like that, but never the less, there are more subs then Dominants, and that's why it's a hard road to travel, in the Bdsm jungle to find a true sub out there,
or in here in CM.

Now regarding Your question, of how many subs I can keep?

I've one in real life, for over 3 years now, but he doesn't live with Me, he lives in Italy and I see him once or twice a year, so Wwe're online as well as real life.
I've been looking for a sub closeby, or a Dom closeby, to team up, but it's far from easy to
find such.

I've had 3 subs in the past, online that is, that's truly the max for Me, to guide them, and work with them,
I've made one clear decision : that they all have to
be bisexual.

In the beginning I had a lesbian girl, a straight boy and I was going crazy.
They both needed allot of guidance, and
it cost too much energy,
so now
I'm very keen on them being bisexual,
to not have that discussion ever again.

I Love to make it easy for Myself.

And Im ready to meet a lovely subby
closeby for real life fun,
Or Dom/me to team up with.

For now am happy with My ho,
whom Im gonna visit
12 may!!!

~ Fireworks in Bologna ~

I wish You a Great day!

Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`