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RE: Age? - 4/27/2008 8:42:58 AM   
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Finally, I'm just a little amused that you and the other posters seem to be considering the age difference only from your younger perspective. I tend to be not interested in women under 40, mostly because of differences in life experience and their lessons. 


Funny- that was one of the first conversations i had with my Sir. Why the heck he would be interested in me... for exactly those reasons.

it might be that in many are responding to the younger perspective because it is the younger person in the relationship asking... :)

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RE: Age? - 4/27/2008 8:52:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		i would want a Mistress who is atleast 30 years old but not much older than 40.  since i am 37 i think that is a good range.

but i will date all you hot 21 yr old girls on here.... yum.


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RE: Age? - 4/27/2008 8:55:02 AM   
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Hey loves,

I have been on the forums for a small while now and I have come to value your opinions so I want your opinion on something. I have been talking to and have recently been seeing in RL a Dom who is really sweet and I adore and admire him very much. The thing is he is 25 years my senior, now this doesn't bother me terribly but when I think of the fact that he is older than my dad I wonder if what I am doing is okay? Any opinions would be greatly appreciated, love you guys.

Kitty


congrats, darlin...Sir Max is about 20 years younger than i & neither of us have a problem with it...for me, it's not physical attributes that are important, it's the person inside...i look for strong moral fiber, good character, integrity & a great sense of humor    when i met Sir Max after talking with him on & off for over 2 years, i knew that he was special...we met on 2/13, played for the first time on the 15th & i was tattooed & pierced & owned on 3/5...very fast for some folks, but we both just knew it was right...every day i learn more about him & admire & respect him more & more...i worried about moving into his so quickly, but decided that i just needed to act on my desires...damn the torpedos, full speed ahead!!  there are times that we refer to him as "Daddy", even with the age difference...if you adore & admire this man, i say go for it & the rest of the world be damned!!  what's the worst that can happen?

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RE: Age? - 4/27/2008 9:03:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hi KCherry, My hubby is 16 years older than me, we just celebrated 23 years together, when our eldest was born, people used to think she was his grandaughter. I tended to be a bit of a wild thing before I met him, but we clicked so well, so deeply that it just seemd so right. At one point it scared me that it could be so good. But here we are and I still love him deeply, we've been to hell and back, more than once, but thats life. If you feel happy, safe, secure and loved, then you have a LOT of good things going for you. Im not talking financially safe and secure, but in your heart and mind. Age is just a number.
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RE: Age? - 4/27/2008 9:04:56 AM   
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RE: Age? - 4/27/2008 9:44:11 AM   
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It isn't about age as much as about commonalities.

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RE: Age? - 4/27/2008 9:50:01 AM   
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It isn't about age as much as about commonalities.


its a better chance that you would have something in common with someone who is within 5 yrs above or below your age due to being from the same generation.

for instance...if i date someone who lived in the 80s as a teenager...chances are we would have alot in common.  but if i date someone who is still a teenager like 18-19 chances are we have nothing in common.  different generation...means different way of growing up and parents teach differently as well.

i often see huge age differences where the man is 50 and the woman is 20ish.  most times its just for sex (obviously 30 yrs age dif omg) or maybe the man knocked her up.


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RE: Age? - 4/27/2008 9:56:16 AM   
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It isn't about age as much as about commonalities.


its a better chance that you would have something in common with someone who is within 5 yrs above or below your age due to being from the same generation.



i have to disagree with this...most people my age are waaaaaay too old for me!!!

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RE: Age? - 4/27/2008 1:42:31 PM   
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RE: Age? - 4/27/2008 2:10:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

i often see huge age differences where the man is 50 and the woman is 20ish.  most times its just for sex (obviously 30 yrs age dif omg) or maybe the man knocked her up.



HA! Nope, he didn't knock he up.... although.... :)
Nope. Not with him for the sex... with him for the man he is.

Not that I don't thoroughly enjoy playtime!!!

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RE: Age? - 4/27/2008 3:01:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		Age is not important unless you roll play.  I have been with a mother and daughter, one older (11 years) than me and one hyounger (11 years in the other direction) and I enjoyed the pleasure both gave me and they let Me know they enjoyed the pain and pleasure I gave them.  I have been with younger girls who I enjoy in the Lotila style.  But mostly it doesn't matter.  It is how You/you both feel that counts.  Do you fill Him with pleasure?  Does He give you the desires you grave?  I love having an older woman to command just as much as I do a younger one.  The main thing is the feelings we have for each other that is important.  Life is too short to worry about what other people think.  It is what you feel and think that is important.  If you feel good then it is right.

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RE: Age? - 4/27/2008 3:05:27 PM   
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RE: Age? - 4/27/2008 4:48:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		To the OP:  this sums it up nicely.



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RE: Age? - 4/27/2008 4:49:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		lol, thanks Lumus, that made me laugh, :)

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RE: Age? - 4/27/2008 4:52:00 PM   
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RE: Age? - 4/27/2008 10:24:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		 OK, here's my 2 cents worth.  With a 20 year difference one of you can be retired and the other still working full time.  One of you will be starting a career - the other ending a career.  If you are looking at a 24/7 real time relationship there may be problems here...but some good stuff, too.
You want to travel...He doesn't have enough vacation time to go with you.  One of you wants to be outdoorsey and active(go camping and hiking)...the other one has trouble walking on uneven ground.  You might be the same age as His children or the same age as His mother.
He has no problem getting it up or he may have to plan ahead and pop the little blue pill.  He makes you feel older...you make Him feel younger.  One of you falls asleep during TV programs. 
As another poster said a generation gap (20 years) can cause problems - you had different childhoods, you remember different things.  One of you feels out of place when you go out with each other's friends.  One of you wants children the other does not.  Like it or not even a 24/7 BDSM couple lives in a vanilla world.
Sure, have fun together.  So very often the younger person will help the older one feel (and look) younger.  The older one may have a healthier life for being with someone younger.  Go for it! 

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RE: Age? - 4/28/2008 1:48:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		as a person who has a real problem with a big age difference in either direction in a relationship context, i understand the concern.  However on another issue, in vanilla world was discussing it with two (10+older) girl friends.  and one suggested this.

'Take the hipocratic approach.' 

when i asked what that meant, she said doctors have to take an oath before they start practicing so what ever you do ... first do no harm.

if you're ok with it and he's ok with it and the people that are important to you are ok with it
(and if they aren't it's got to be more than the age difference, eg he's an axe murderer or your a cannibal ... but then that could work!... just kidding .. i'm sure you understand what i'm trying to convey)

just follow your instincts 

good wishes to you both

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RE: Age? - 4/28/2008 2:01:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KCherry
I have been talking to and have recently been seeing in RL ... he is 25 years my senior, now this doesn't bother me terribly but when I think of the fact that he is older than my dad I wonder if what I am doing is okay?

One ex of mine was 14 years my senior and another was 30 years younger.  Age doesn’t matter except it predicts who will most likely die first.  If that is handled, then it’s all good imo. 

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RE: Age? - 4/28/2008 6:49:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hi KCherry:

I only have an issue if I'm the "eldest" in the relationship. I love it when the Dom is older than me (though at my age, that would mean he's eligible for Social Security:((

*Short true story*--I have a very good friend who's considerably younger than I am who met a man about my age. She loved being w/him but was embarassed about his age and it didn't help that our group would "tease" her about "Grandpa", but we quickly told her we were kidding and that she shouldn't be ashamed of him just because of his age as long as she was happy. This year they just purchased a home together/I'm expecting an invite to the wedding real soon** 
If he makes you HAPPY, forget about his age!

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RE: Age? - 4/28/2008 11:40:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		i once had a dom 23 yrs older than i; he acually had gone to school with my dad.  it worked for us while we were together.  don't let numbers stand in the way.
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