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Poetryinpain -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 8:44:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael Attraction is a funny thing, I get almost no mail from women hitting on me, even before BSB but there are people here who I think very little of who seem to have their own little harems. There are people here who I think are amazing and yet haven't found a partner. There are people I couldn't stand to be in the same room with and yet seem to have plenty of interest. Michael, it just means that you have discerning tastes. pip, note I didn't say 'picky'

LadyLynx -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 8:50:35 AM)
I don't know how to explain it.........a certain look in their eye, (and it can't be flat, when I look into their eyes, and sometimes you can tell in a picture.) someone who has an easygoing, humorous side about them.

toservez -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 9:00:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Confidence, happiness. I find that people who are able to enjoy the little things, take time to stop and smell the roses and don't complain about the thorns are more attractive to be with. I can kvetch with the best of them but I'd rather appreciate all I have. I reflect this very much and throw in a dominant who leads (not demands) and make decisions in a decisive manner in what appears to be a natural ease in doing so.

softness -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 10:05:40 AM)
There are a great many facets to what I find attractive in a Dominant Man.... very very few of them are physical I am wildly attracted to men with integrity, who are honest about themselves and their desires, and who actually understand and live up to their responsibilities - not just talk about them .. but live them It also essential they are a complete bastard...Now a complete bastard is actually fairly rare ..and its the complete that is the key word ...They have a job and aren't a bum ... they have a house they dont share with someone else ... they have stable finances they run for themselves... they have no messed up shit going on emotionally that they pretend isn't there ... they actually geton really well with their family and friends ... you can be seen with them without cringing because they keep talking about floggers out with your friends. Theyarea complete person living a full life in every respect and then they areALSO a bastard. Complete Bastard with Integrity, Honesty and Intelligence 25 days

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 10:12:10 AM)
if softness was a Mistress.... she is what i call YUM. [8\|][8\|][8\|] that is all.

CalifChick -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 10:43:09 AM)
I accused Level of putting up a poll about anal sex to surreptitiously start a "do her" list. So Ray, are you also starting a list? Figuring out how you can be even more of a chick magnet than you already are? Cali

cjan -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 10:58:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: softness There are a great many facets to what I find attractive in a Dominant Man.... very very few of them are physical I am wildly attracted to men with integrity, who are honest about themselves and their desires, and who actually understand and live up to their responsibilities - not just talk about them .. but live them It also essential they are a complete bastard...Now a complete bastard is actually fairly rare ..and its the complete that is the key word ...They have a job and aren't a bum ... they have a house they dont share with someone else ... they have stable finances they run for themselves... they have no messed up shit going on emotionally that they pretend isn't there ... they actually geton really well with their family and friends ... you can be seen with them without cringing because they keep talking about floggers out with your friends. Theyarea complete person living a full life in every respect and then they areALSO a bastard. Complete Bastard with Integrity, Honesty and Intelligence 25 days Sorry, but I don't "get" this point of view, the part about being a "complete bastard" being an attractive trait.. I do get it, because I've seen it so often, yet, I still don't get it..But, I don't have to get it, do I ? Whatever floats one's soap... Just sayin'.

metalmiss -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 11:11:05 AM)
Although i have been known to make the first contact with a Dom rarely, if ever.. When i am considering replying to an approach from one i take alot of weight in my decision from their profile. Have they put any effort into it? Does it tell anything of themselves? Is it just the usual generic "kneel bitch" bullshit.. or does it show soul? Do they sound like a real life person or a fantasist? Are they intelligent? Articulate? Is their profile clear, specific, does it inspire me? i guess the point i'm trying to make is that when a profile is all us s-types have to go on, a lot hinges on that defining whether a Dom is "attractive" or not.

Dnomyar -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 11:20:51 AM)
cjan let me try to get this straight. You don't get it. You do get it, You still don't get it. You don't have to get it. You left out I don't care if you get it. Cali I let level start the list for me. Im just expanding on it. Which number do you perfer??

LotusSong -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 11:21:33 AM)
For me, I'm told it's my personality :) (people either love me or hate me)

LilMissHaven -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 11:21:57 AM)
Those who don't pressure me and are understanding of where I am right this second in my life are the ones who get my attention. Tired of drama Tired of being pressured Just plain tired.

softness -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 11:33:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cjan quote: ORIGINAL: softness Complete Bastard with Integrity, Honesty and Intelligence Sorry, but I don't "get" this point of view, the part about being a "complete bastard" being an attractive trait.. I do get it, because I've seen it so often, yet, I still don't get it..But, I don't have to get it, do I ? Whatever floats one's soap... Just sayin'. the being complete bit? ... or the being a bastard bit? The complete bit is non negotiable ...I am a complete human being .. I have a great work/life balance ... I get on well with friends and family.. I have hopes and dreams and ambitions that span well beyond that new flogger I want to try. Why ..asa complete human being would i settle for an incomplete one? The bastard bit is slightly more negotiable ... but it has to be said the ones who aren't total bastards with an evil streak a mile wide tend notto last much beyond breakfast the next day this could have something to do with me being "an evil cunt" ... I like lookingattotal bastards and thinking "we be of one blood thee and I"

softness -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 11:35:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl if softness was a Mistress.... she is what i call YUM. [8\|][8\|][8\|] that is all. give me time faery ..one day i might work out how to beat something without giggling ... then all hell will break loose!

CalifChick -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 11:37:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar Cali I let level start the list for me. Im just expanding on it. Which number do you perfer?? Well I always prefer to be first on anybody's list. Cali

Poetryinpain -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 1:39:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: softness The complete bit is non negotiable ...I am a complete human being .. I have a great work/life balance ... I get on well with friends and family.. I have hopes and dreams and ambitions that span well beyond that new flogger I want to try. Why ..asa complete human being would i settle for an incomplete one? Is that like Isaak Walton's Compleat - as in The Compleat Angler? For some reason, that seems to be the definition I come up with from that title. pip, digging up useless bits of information

SeedDivinus -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 1:49:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar What makes some Dom/Dommes more attractive to subs/slaves. I noticed from posts on here that some Dom/Dommes have a hard time attracting someone while others seem to over attract people. Good looks, intelligence, confidence and authenticity. Having your life in order. Having appreciation for the finer things. Showing good taste. Showing good judgment. Imagination. Darkness. Not getting high or drunk every chance you get. This applies to what I have found attractive in other humans. Not so sure if it represents the sentiments of most on the matter, however.

colouredin -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 2:03:39 PM)
Not pretentious (for some reason the darkness comment of the person above sparked that first hmm) funny, smart, honest like real honesty even when its not pretty basically the things that I would want from a friend.

littlewonder -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 2:15:01 PM)
Their pic is the first thing that attracts me, after that..someone who fits the criteria of my profile...simple as that. Those who I am not attracted to and don't meet my requirements that are stated in my profile I pass by.

daddysliloneds -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 3:31:01 PM)
the usual stuff of course; personality, looks, intelligence, age, humor, moral/ethical belief stystem, character, emotionally/physical availability, sadistic level, maturity level, how they handle problems, how they handle their sub/slave, how they run their life, how i see them inside and out.

cjan -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 5:09:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar cjan let me try to get this straight. You don't get it. You do get it, You still don't get it. You don't have to get it. You left out I don't care if you get it. Cali I let level start the list for me. Im just expanding on it. Which number do you perfer?? You have it exactly right, sir. Women are not the only inscrutable ones. Life and peeps are complex. I simply accept that and don't judge other peoples experience, taste or particularly need to understand it. I also try not to pre-judge my own experience. Works for me. Now, a lady who prefers "bad boys" , to me, is quite another thing from one who likes "comlete or total bastards." This , I guess, is where personal definitions matter, and it's why I asked the question.

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