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Prinsexx -> RE: I don't quite mean that, but it's the truth (4/28/2008 5:19:07 PM)
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ORIGINAL: tsatske
In another thread, about what we want in our partners, another sub mentioned wanting someone who was 'a complete Bastard'
Again, this brought to mind something i have thought of posting for a while, but hesitated because of the difficulty that what is in my head sometimes has, in trying to travel the long lonely road to become English that can be spoken or typed and make sense. Often, it just does not survive the trip. But, i thought i'd try, anyway.
What are the things you say, or that your partner says, that describe your dynamic in some way, that you do not really mean in the way that most people might take it, but that you do mean - just in a way that is meaningful to you.
I'm thinking of things like, a Dominant friend was speaking with a sub female friend, who was saying that her Master was feeling a bit frustrated about doing without sex because she was sick and couldn't service him. The Dom friend said, all you have to do is lay there - what do i care if you are sick? Did that mean that he would actually have made his sub provide service regardless of the state of her health? No, not regardless - yes for some states, no for others. But it expressed, although he was joking, that Doms wants get a high priority and consideration, in his life, above his subs comfort.
The thread i am stealing this from, a poster said, she needs the man she is looking for to be 'a complete Bastard'. Now, one of my exes embezzled a few thousand off me. I think that makes him a complete bastard. Yet, i am thinking that is not what she means.
This is, in reality, a type of symbolic language. In what ways do you use this, in your relationships, or in your search, or in your life?
This is just a fabulus fabtastic oppoetunity for me to follow the thread and then respond. Simply because it for me what I say, (very little when I am with a dominant), and what I write (very complax, my tool, my job, my own mastery), what I do(compartmentalised into vanilla and bdsm) and what i think (wild fantasies) exist in four different universes but in my bdsm desires I would like at some point for these universes to converge. It's not like I don't know this. It's that I do. And it's not like I don't want to post I do. But I want to see what others say first to help give me some structure to what to write. It's a really excellent opening post.
Thank you tsatsake for this.
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