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RE: What do "top" and "bottom" mean... - 10/16/2005 10:21:47 AM   
ImpGrrl


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ORIGINAL: Wolfie648

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Just because you change the Sadist/Massochist role from time to time dosen't necessarly make you a switch.

Sure it does - it makes you an s/m switch


As most people would understand it I am a 'top' (as I have posted). If that means that if I tell you to flog me into (x) oblivion (insert into x as required for your situation) or until I tell you to stop I would tell you that I am not a switch but that I like having things done my way - Im not saying any of this has or ever will happen (or won't) but I would hope that it affords you (someone) a broader understanding.

For someone to want and be able to tell their partner to do it, to be flogged one day and flog another does not make them a switch it makes them in control (under the circumstances I've described) - it makes them the dom. So you can be both a flogger and floggee and still be either a dom or a sub, at least in my eyes.

For me the distinction is are you doing it because you want to (and are able to) or because you have been directed to (and want to). Who has the power. Simon says.

D (owner of j)



There is the d/s switch - who can be fulfilled n either end of an authority-based relationship, or can have one relationship in which they take turns with the authority end.

Then there is the s/m switch, who enjoys activities on either side of the whip.

One who retains control of the scenario while bottoming could still be considered a switch (as long as they also have times when they top).


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RE: What do "top" and "bottom" mean... - 10/22/2005 12:55:39 PM   
SirSix72


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Top = Spanker

bottom = spankee



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RE: What do "top" and "bottom" mean... - 10/22/2005 1:56:59 PM   
IronBear


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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I'll try to explain it as simply as possible. (It's actually a very complicated question.)

The first line of your profile says this:

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I Just got spanked for the first time last night!


The person who spanked you was the top, and you were the bottom.



No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, Lam you missed the point. The person who spanked her was the Top, and she was the bottom with the bottom........

~ Ambles off to find hot strong black coffee and f o o d. ~

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