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RE: Hardest Decision in life? - 4/30/2008 11:09:39 AM

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RE: Hardest Decision in life? - 4/30/2008 12:06:11 PM

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For the posters...the pain you express is surpassed only by your courage.

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RE: Hardest Decision in life? - 4/30/2008 12:08:20 PM

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For the posters...the pain you express is surpassed only by your courage.

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RE: Hardest Decision in life? - 4/30/2008 12:09:49 PM

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I likely would not have dscussed mine here were it not for the other things shared.

Thank you to all the posters.

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RE: Hardest Decision in life? - 4/30/2008 12:24:44 PM

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I likely would not have dscussed mine here were it not for the other things shared.

Thank you to all the posters.

next time share your phone #

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RE: Hardest Decision in life? - 4/30/2008 12:25:24 PM

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The hardest decision I ever made was showing up in court to face my rapist. At age 14, that was nearly impossible. Add to it I did not tell my parents, because I honestly thought they would believe it was my fault or any of that other stupid victim guilt. I never told them, actually.
The other was not telling my ex I was pregnant. I knew it was likely I would not be able to carry it, and I didnt want anyone to know I was until I was sure I wouldnt lose it. I miscarried 2 months in. I dealt with the miscarriage alone, since I didnt think anyone in the family could have handled the news or the stress.

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RE: Hardest Decision in life? - 4/30/2008 12:46:09 PM

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i'm fairly old, so i've had to make a lot of difficult decisions in my life...probably the hardest was signing the adoption papers on my son...it's a long story, but my ex got custody with my consent, then remarried & hid my son from me...every time i found him, he would be moved again...i was told that his stepmother loved him & that he was better off in that home, so i signed...fast forward to his adulthood when he told me how much his stepmother abused him & how he waited for me to come rescue him...because i didn't know, he resents me & is keeping me from my grandchildren...i have only a couple of regrets in my life & this is the one that bothers me the very most......

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RE: Hardest Decision in life? - 4/30/2008 3:42:40 PM

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as an adoptee who had a most awesome upbringing, id like to tell you i am sure one day your daughter will thank you for making the right choice-just as i did when i found my birth family at 26 years old......

and til then , ill say thanks for her

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RE: Hardest Decision in life? - 4/30/2008 4:10:13 PM

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My father had low sodium and congestive heart failure. For seven days, he was in a coma. It was very hard to see someone you love lie in a fetal position and not respond to you. While being in a coma, he had two episodes of cardiac arrests and the nurses and doctors defibrillated his heart.

During that time, my folks had updated their Will but they did not sign the paperwork because of my dad's hospitalization. I told my mother if he did not recover from his coma or if he went into another cardiac arrest, then we should take him off the ventilator. The irony of this was because I did not get any sleep, had a minor automobile accident, my dad was getting out of his coma. Within five days, he was alert and showed no signs of brain damage. Talk about a miracle and the belief that my dad was a survivor.

He passed away three years ago but I know that he is in a better place!

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RE: Hardest Decision in life? - 5/1/2008 12:22:04 AM

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hardest decision(s)?
to walk away from my soulmate ... because i wasn't his
to call the police and have my 18yr old daugher forcibly removed .. after many incidents it was the throwing of a block of wood through the TV, breaking the china my mother left me, (these i could deal with) it was then she attacked me broke my glasses, bruised my body. it was then i realised if i was not safe and sane, how could i help her
to get over my fear of water after nearly drowning once as a toddler and again last year in the surf

it is not the point to compare that another had a 'bigger' challenge/decision to make than you, it is the process of making that hard decision, weighing it up regretting doing it and knowing at the same time it's the right/best decision .. and just as the doubts come time shows it was the right decision. Yet we still question ourselves, sometimes for the rest of our lives ... but looking back we'd do the same again, and if not you know you have to do something to change the outcome.

whatever has happend in your life you can't change history, just work with the present to make a better future ... it may sound lame, but it's true

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RE: Hardest Decision in life? - 5/1/2008 6:04:04 PM

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I offer my deepest respect and warm wishes to each and every one of you who has posted. God bless you all.

I think the hardest thing I ever did was put my oldest, who was 8 at the time, in a hospital for emotionally disturbed children. I had to drive almost 2 hours, behind the ambulance, in the rain, at 1:00 a.m., and leave him there. Along the way, I lost site of the ambulance, and got hopelessly lost. I drove around for 35 minutes until I found a cop who gave me directions. I didn't have my cell phone because my then husband (we were separated) had it, and it was turned off. He was supposed to be at a meeting that evening, and it turned out he was out drinking with co-workers into the wee hours of the morning. I had to make the decision to have him hospitalized by myself, had to leave him there, screaming at the top of his lungs, "Mommy, please don't leave me! Mommy, I love you, please take me home! Mommy, don't you love me anymore? Please Mommy come back for me, please!" I have no recollection how I got home. God and angels, I suppose. I was devestated, I couldn't think, couldn't breathe, didn't know how to come home, empty-handed, and tell my littlest one that her big brother was away and I didn't know when he would be back home. My husband screamed at me when I walked in and told him what had happened during the evening that brought it to having our second-grader hospitalized far from home. He nearly hit me, told me that I was the worst mother on earth, that I was a piece of shit, that I hated my son, that I needed to be hospitalized instead of him, threatened me with all sorts of things in the upcoming divorce.

I was so dumb-struck by everything that I told Daddy, my love, that I had to stop seeing Him - because I was scared of all the chaos going on in my life. He tried to talk to me about it, but I was so devestated by everything, I just walked away, but we remained good friends. After my little boy came home and things got a bit more settled, Daddy and I rekindled things and we have been together since. Things happened during that time that have made our relationship challenging and sometimes have tested us to the breaking point. But we are together still. I also learned that being a Mommy can put you to the test in more ways than you can ever imagine.

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