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Worst turn off and best turn on for a Mistress? - 5/1/2008 9:20:04 AM   
EXODUS1


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Status: offline 		What in Your eyes is the best turn on
when it comes to Bdsm.
 
What is Your worst turn off?
 
For me the best turn on is when I make a rule, and she realizes it is for the best.
 
The worst turn off is when she says
she's not up to it.
 
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RE: Worst turn off and best turn on for a Mistress? - 5/1/2008 9:40:09 AM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		Turn Off = poor hygiene

Turn On = obedience plus meaning that person knows what to do, does it without direct command but with a creative twist that demonstrates he has grown to know me better

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RE: Worst turn off and best turn on for a Mistress? - 5/1/2008 10:19:02 AM   
ShaktiSama


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Status: offline 		Worst turn-off:  lack of feedback and response.  I cannot deal with people who "zone out" and become unresponsive during BDSM.  I know some bottoms really enjoy that private journey they take at those times, but I feel left behind when they do it and quite honestly, I have too much anxiety about continuing when I feel "no one is home".  I'm a bad domme for that kind of sub.

Best turn-on: the power of erotic surrender.  Reaching for those extremes of arousal, pleasure, pain, and yearning.  Asserting physical and emotional control.  Penetrating every barrier to intimacy, and ecstasy.  Colonizing the fertile wilds of a conquered soul.

Yummy. 

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RE: Worst turn off and best turn on for a Mistress? - 5/1/2008 11:57:17 AM   
ElanSubdued


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Status: offline 		ShaktiSama,

quote:

Worst turn-off:  lack of feedback and response.  I cannot deal with people who "zone out" and become unresponsive during BDSM.  I know some bottoms really enjoy that private journey they take at those times, but I feel left behind when they do it and quite honestly, I have too much anxiety about continuing when I feel "no one is home".  I'm a bad domme for that kind of sub.

Best turn-on: the power of erotic surrender.  Reaching for those extremes of arousal, pleasure, pain, and yearning.  Asserting physical and emotional control.  Penetrating every barrier to intimacy, and ecstasy.  Colonizing the fertile wilds of a conquered soul.


This is so good I added it to the list of quotes I keep.  Thanks for posting this. :-)

Edited to add:  added in the "turn-off" section too.  This whole damn thing is really, really good.

Elan.

< Message edited by ElanSubdued -- 5/1/2008 12:01:21 PM >

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RE: Worst turn off and best turn on for a Mistress? - 5/1/2008 12:06:51 PM   
DominantJenny


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

Worst turn-off:  lack of feedback and response.  I cannot deal with people who "zone out" and become unresponsive during BDSM.  I know some bottoms really enjoy that private journey they take at those times, but I feel left behind when they do it and quite honestly, I have too much anxiety about continuing when I feel "no one is home".  I'm a bad domme for that kind of sub.


Turn-off definitely seconded here!

Turn-on eloquently described, but, ultimately, THE thing that turns me on is vulnerability, in pretty much any way, shape or form.

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RE: Worst turn off and best turn on for a Mistress? - 5/1/2008 5:04:23 PM   
AllietheKitten


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Status: offline 		Turn off--Feeling "used" as sub's fantasy instead of valued as Myself. I am surprised at how many subs do this. An example-When I was searching for my sub I met a few guys online but had not progressed farther than talking on the phone for about an hour with one of them. When I found my boy I just knew he was for me so I told the other guy that I was sorry but it was not going to work for us. He proceeded to pursue me for weeks after that, sharing fantasies about how he wanted to sit at my feet, ect. And I thought "He hasn't even met me! He has no idea who I am-it's not *my* feet he wants to sit at-just a Domme's." I felt pretty insulted and turned off by that.

Turn on-when he begs for it. When he cries. When he kneels with his collar in his mouth, wordlessly asking me to put it on him. Also, when I touch his cock and he says "No, don't do that." and I wrestle him into submission (this is a game we play a lot ). Mmm, my boy knows what turns me on. *grin*

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RE: Worst turn off and best turn on for a Mistress? - 5/1/2008 6:06:08 PM   
spinntja


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Status: offline 		Turn on: power. I like my girls who reek of it, who intimidate by standing still, girls who license their eyes with the FBI. The greatest sexual rush I know is having one of those hand over their strength on a plate.

Turn off: Ummm... powerlessness. Not much for the ones who are looking for a wing to hide under.

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RE: Worst turn off and best turn on for a Mistress? - 5/1/2008 6:51:23 PM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		Turn Off:  Useless subs who only whine and beg "Do this for me!  Do that for me!"

Turn On:  A true Southern Gentleman who honestly takes pleasure in finding ways to make me happy then graciously accepts his reward.


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RE: Worst turn off and best turn on for a Mistress? - 5/1/2008 7:29:27 PM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		Worst turn off is -disobedience/lazyiness...Hearing "Mistress I don't want to do that right now" really turns me off.

Best turn on -When he does something to surprise me that completely pleases me. Like if my truck is dirty he will get up and sneak out while Im sleeping to wash it.

~Lashra




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RE: Worst turn off and best turn on for a Mistress? - 5/1/2008 11:40:51 PM   
DarkLovelyDomme


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Status: offline 		Turn-off: Racially based play. I'm proud of being black... but it weirds me out when that's the reason why someone wants to play with me. Or if they're obsessed with modifying my background ("You MUST be mixed with...")

Turn-on: Serious masochists who will let me leave my mark all over them.

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RE: Worst turn off and best turn on for a Mistress? - 5/2/2008 4:52:25 AM   
MladyHathor


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

Turn Off:  Useless subs who only whine and beg "Do this for me!  Do that for me!"

Turn On:  A true Southern Gentleman who honestly takes pleasure in finding ways to make me happy then graciously accepts his reward.



Yep! What She said.

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RE: Worst turn off and best turn on for a Mistress? - 5/2/2008 7:42:43 AM   
DominantJenny


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Status: offline 		I have to amend mine, I suppose technically the WORST turn-off is the me-me-me sub, but those wouldn't even get past the edge of my vision, so I went with something someone I might actually get involved with might do that would be a turn-off. Whining and complaining DEFINITELY leave me dead cold, though.

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RE: Worst turn off and best turn on for a Mistress? - 5/2/2008 8:53:21 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		worst turn off - (besides poor hygiene and those who disappear after 1 message) slaves who propose their services unexpectedly in email and/or IM.

best turn on - when my pet calls when i'm waking up to say "i love you"


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