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Maya2001 -> RE: Money... (5/3/2008 11:09:36 AM)
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ORIGINAL: jeremias13
From my experience, it's difficult to find a definition about BDSM that makes everybody happy. When I say trully I mean it simply to me. Others might agree or disagree and that's fine.
So, for me, if you really submit someone, you don't need even to mention money. When you really control someone if you needed/wanted you'll have it because the person that is with you will do everything to please you.
Most of the cases here look to me as simply greedy people that use BDSM to achive their goals... in most cases gaining money without doing a scratch.
The BDSM either you feel it or you don't, you don't use as an unveil excuse for your greed. And that's what a lot of people is in "here", simply greedy and sometimes with a small bdsm fetish.
Hope I've answered your question.
I am a fem sub but have thought about this I know there are also pro Doms out there as well , and tried to come to an understanding and feel I have come to accept there is a need for. There are 2 types of dommes each fill a different niche ...there are those that are seeking relationships such as what you are looking for who do not ask for money from their subs ...but their is also the pro. They serve those who are not interested in a committed relationship as in those that are married, just want play but would not want to take a domme as a wife, or just seeking to explore if they have an interest in, or may serve subs who use as an interlude to fulfill needs in between relationships, they serve as temporary outlets with no real emotional connection in many most cases. So they fill a society need as there are far more males in particular that want this over a committed relation that male subs wanting a committed relationship. Because of numbers and energy required most cannot have a primary job and still provide a service in this capacity on a daily basis with 2 or 3 clients possibly more a day and have to work weekends as well provideing service, so they therefore need to give up their source of income if they are to provide this service. They also need to provide a location to operate from, then they must equip that location, they have to mostly use purposely designed equipment and must have lots of variety rather than pervertables that most relationship dommes might be able to get away with using and it has to be of good quality inorder to avoid accidents that could lead to legal lawsuits ... so more risk than an accident that occurs in a committed relationship. Since they are dealing with multiple people on a regular basis they likely need to acquire sterilizing equipment for certain toys inorder to prevent infections and STDs in their clients, certain gear will also have to be replaced frequently example whips and floggers if high quality can be $200 to $700 a piece, pros also have to dress the part and when you look at the costs of some outfits they are far from inexpensive much of the poutfits running $700 to a $1000 each, there is also the costs of telephone internet and website, some form or credit taking account. So operating costs to provide this kind of business service can be quite high and inorder to maintain some form of legality and avoid prosecution as a prostitute no sex is offered with the service. As a service business in order to continue to function and operate means that a fee of some sort must be charged.
So if you want a relationship domme then specify that is what you are seeking but don't bitch about those that provide a service for others that want that sort of relationship, and don't complain if they request a fee for their service when approached ..they ydo not owe you freebie service...if you don't like what they are offering then block and delete ...just like us fem subs have to do when we are approached by Doms or sub males who are not what we are seeking. Even fem subs have to sometimes wait months and years to find a compatible relationship dom and we have a far larger pool to choose from than the sub males have ....if you want to call it quits in your search I am sure several other relationship seeking sub males will be cheering because you have just increased their chances by one.
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