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Gwynvyd -> Back from the dead (5/2/2008 1:14:14 AM)

Ok.. I am back from the dead..

I survived.

I got moved. I am living with a friend and mutualy helping each other out with bills and kids... ect.

In this all I lost my Townhouse, my vehicle, and in the end my job even. ( yep.. the bastages let me go)

So the question.. or moral of the story is...

When me have friends, realitives.. and people in our life telling us that someone we are seeing is a negative influance and holding us back.. why do we ignore them? Why do we brush it off?

Mine I think was the "White Knight" must save BS... But why do you think most of us do not listen?


Gwyn,
Back from the dead




Rule -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 1:21:28 AM)

Obstinacy.




Asherdelampyr -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 1:21:46 AM)

First!

Yay!!! Good to see you again!!!




girlygurl -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 1:36:30 AM)

Big hugs for you Gwyn. How's your health? I'm sorry to hear you had to move... but I'm sooooooo happy you're back. big kiss! [sm=couple.gif]



girly




LadyEllen -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 3:14:34 AM)

We do not listen because the attack on the other person we interpret as an attack on us, because we have invested emotionally in the other person and see ourselves as closely associated.

And - glad youre back and things are working out.

E




GreedyTop -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 3:57:11 AM)

*smooooches* Gwyn.... you know how to reach me....




MladyHathor -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 5:12:33 AM)

Because 99% os the time, they are wrong, but once in awhile---they get it right.
 
Glad to see you back!




mhawk -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 5:59:48 AM)

sorry to hear about what happened there Gwynvyd, it's really good to have you back.i for one have been missing your posts




MissMorrigan -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 6:01:31 AM)

It's great to see you back posting, Gwyn. You've had a rough trot lately, but you know there's only one way to go now - UP.  

I think we tend not to listen for a number of reasons hon, when a person we care about but we deep-down know is bad for us is being criticised we take the protective stance to defend them. There's also the element that we hope that they'll change if we give them enough time/understanding.  That criticism is also for us for having made such a bad choice in partner... no one likes hearing that they are making bad decisions especially where the heart strings are concerned.  It's easy to lose perspective when emotionally involved.

What is most important here though is not that you didn't listen... you've learned, but will you repeat the cycle, Gwyn? Only you can decide the way forward... just don't go in circles hon.




GreedyTop -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 7:21:10 AM)

<-will be happy to be Gwyn's screener in the future *grin*




PanthersMom -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 7:42:24 AM)

welcome back and i hope things go much better from here on out!  best of luck with the job search.
PM




CalifChick -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 11:31:21 AM)

No advice (I know, I'm shocked too), but welcome back Gwyn!  We (the squirting chicks of CM) missed you!

Cali




subtee -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 1:01:12 PM)

Gwynnie I'm so glad you're back. And I do so hope you've retained your sense of humor!

~hugs~




cjan -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 1:43:13 PM)

Welcome back, Gwynvyd. The next time you plan to be down in my area, let me know and we can hang out, go to a local dungeon, go to "Cracklin' Jacks", and eat some tail. Wanna ?




xxblushesxx -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 1:50:17 PM)

Why? Because of hope...

Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
And never stops at all,

And sweetest in the gale is heard;
And sore must be the storm
That could abash the little bird
That kept so many warm.

I've heard it in the chilliest land
And on the strangest sea;
Yet, never, in extremity,
It asked a crumb of me.

Emily Dickinson

(((hugs)))) welcome back! Just remember *who* you are. No one can take your spirit or your personality or your heart from you, even though sometimes it feels like they can...




YourhandMyAss -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 2:14:16 PM)

And what was the " in all this" that cost ya job an house?
quote:

ORIGINAL: Gwynvyd

Ok.. I am back from the dead..

I survived.



In this all I lost my Townhouse, my vehicle, and in the end my job even. ( yep.. the bastages let me go)


Gwyn,
Back from the dead




Phin -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 2:21:02 PM)

Welcome back we missed you [sm=ass.gif][sm=banana.gif][sm=dancer.gif][sm=excuseme.gif][sm=friends.gif][sm=hello.gif][sm=hippie.gif][sm=pompom.gif][sm=waiting.gif][sm=yahoo.gif][sm=sex.gif]




SteelofUtah -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 2:24:00 PM)

Gwyn.

There is a time and a place for all horrible things to happen in your life.

The LESSON is how many more times you will let them happen.

Not all White Knights are Good People and not all Good People are White Knights. You can Find a truely Wonderful Person without swallowing a whole helping of Bullshit at the same time.

Steel




cjan -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 2:34:29 PM)


quote:

Ok.. I am back from the dead..

I survived.


"Fargin" Bastiges!"

For Gywn:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xv6lHwWwO3w




Gwynvyd -> RE: Back from the dead (5/2/2008 10:02:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Why? Because of hope...

Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
And never stops at all,

And sweetest in the gale is heard;
And sore must be the storm
That could abash the little bird
That kept so many warm.

I've heard it in the chilliest land
And on the strangest sea;
Yet, never, in extremity,
It asked a crumb of me.

Emily Dickinson

(((hugs)))) welcome back! Just remember *who* you are. No one can take your spirit or your personality or your heart from you, even though sometimes it feels like they can...


*gets done snuffling* Woof.. that basicaly said it all.

I have been eternally hopeful. Even in this last move when no help was given by her.. I hoped. I asked time and again.
In vain. When people are awful to me, or others.. I hope.. I hope they will have thier hearts and eyes opened.
It is in my nature. I am not a pesimist. Not one bit. I simply can not be a creature like that.
It is not in me.
I recently realized that yes.. the very diffinition of "Insanity" is to do something over and over and expect a different result.
[image]http://images.multiply.com/common/smiles/confused.png[/image]  Funny eh?
I spent 7 years of Maybe the other person will finaly step up to the plate. Maybe the other person will pull thier weight. Maybe the other person will finaly stop being so angry.
I now see other people in thier lives living the years.. or lifetimes of maybe's. I want to shake them.. to wake them up.. to make the realize there is no maybe's.... there is only insanity on that path.
I never want to have another maybe. Never another wasted moment. Never another time where I am not an important person or even concideration in the realtionship.
Never another maybe.
We all deserve better.

Gwyn




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