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RainGod -> What Drives you? (10/15/2005 5:40:32 AM)
It is to My experience over the years I have lived this lifestyle that some submissives and slaves are the most empathetic and caring women I have ever known in My life. Serving is one thing, but some girls take it above and beyond the call of her role, and strive to be completely the best. I have seen girls not only serve as a wonderful slave or submissive, but also fill in as helpmate, confidant, shoulder to lean on in times of sorrow, chauffeur, soccer mom, chief cook and bottle washer. I have witnessed them take on seemingly impossible loads and serve willingly and cheerfully throughout until it comes to fruition. To those, I salute you.. I cherish you all, and I say you are the most wonderful creation under the sun... and I appreciate you all. My question to you is: What drives you to this high level of performance? What is the most important part of it for you? The need to serve? The love of your Master? His approval? Is it your self image and the pride you feel from it?

fyreredsub -> RE: What Drives you? (10/15/2005 6:39:42 AM)
this girl enjoys pleasing Master and needs the discipline in her life to reach her full potential. however, this girl is finding she has an issue w/ just being a pleasure slave and wished to incorporate service into the equation. then this girl could say she was fully working on her personal fulfillment as to fill the need within her slave desires.

sweetpettjenny -> RE: What Drives you? (10/15/2005 7:07:06 AM)
I serve to please my owner, by pleasing him i feel better about my goals and my drive becomes greater to please him. The sense of self worth and being proud in myself is incredible.... quote: ORIGINAL: RainGod It is to My experience over the years I have lived this lifestyle that some submissives and slaves are the most empathetic and caring women I have ever known in My life. Serving is one thing, but some girls take it above and beyond the call of her role, and strive to be completely the best. I have seen girls not only serve as a wonderful slave or submissive, but also fill in as helpmate, confidant, shoulder to lean on in times of sorrow, chauffeur, soccer mom, chief cook and bottle washer. I have witnessed them take on seemingly impossible loads and serve willingly and cheerfully throughout until it comes to fruition. To those, I salute you.. I cherish you all, and I say you are the most wonderful creation under the sun... and I appreciate you all. My question to you is: What drives you to this high level of performance? What is the most important part of it for you? The need to serve? The love of your Master? His approval? Is it your self image and the pride you feel from it? quote: My question to you is: What drives you to this high level of performance? What is the most important part of it for you? The need to serve? The love of your Master? His approval? Is it your self image and the pride you feel from it?

kisshou -> RE: What Drives you? (10/15/2005 7:41:55 AM)
the most important part is to be found pleasing to Him. Being found pleasing is more than approval but I don't know how to explain it. It is the fire that burns in your slave belly :)

BriansGirl -> RE: What Drives you? (10/15/2005 8:02:04 AM)
quote: I have seen girls not only serve as a wonderful slave or submissive, but also fill in as helpmate, confidant, shoulder to lean on in times of sorrow, chauffeur, soccer mom, chief cook and bottle washer. I have witnessed them take on seemingly impossible loads and serve willingly and cheerfully throughout until it comes to fruition. To those, I salute you.. I cherish you all, and I say you are the most wonderful creation under the sun... and I appreciate you all. My question to you is: What drives you to this high level of performance? What is the most important part of it for you? The need to serve? The love of your Master? His approval? Is it your self image and the pride you feel from it? It is impossible for me to answer that question with a single answer. I suppose the underlying reason for it is a person's upbringing. I was brought up to be empathetic and sympathetic, making the common good, rather than selfish needs, a priority. I was instilled with a strong moral sense of my contribution to humanity, rather than to think of what is in it for me. I was always taught to look inwardly to find solutions to problems, rather than placing responsibility on society or another's shoulder. I think this set me up, from an early age, for a life of service. My own self-worth is dependent on what I can DO for someone else. I practice random acts of kindness to strangers on a regular basis (remember oprha's toll booth stunt.......I don't live in a state with tolls, but when I go to states that do have tolls, and the toll is a fixed amount, I ALWAYS pay my toll and the toll of the two cars behind me). I send flowers annonymously to co-workers that are bitter because they feel under appreciated. When there is a conflict in a relationship (work, vanilla, romantic) if it is not going to bring me REAL harm to shoulder the responsibility in order for us to move past this difficult moment, I am more than happy to do that for the sake of that relationship. For my Master (you, my love) I expend a lot of my imagination trying to find solutions to the challenges in your life, to surprising you with new delights you didn't expect. I get tremendous pleasure when I see YOUR pleasure. Some may say this makes me a doormat..........and sometimes I think it actually has. But imagine what this world would be like, if we all gave a little more of ourselves without us feeling like there had to be "profit" in it for us.

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: What Drives you? (10/15/2005 8:16:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RainGod I have seen girls not only serve as a wonderful slave or submissive, but also fill in as helpmate, confidant, shoulder to lean on in times of sorrow, chauffeur, soccer mom, chief cook and bottle washer. I have witnessed them take on seemingly impossible loads and serve willingly and cheerfully throughout until it comes to fruition. To those, I salute you.. I cherish you all, and I say you are the most wonderful creation under the sun... and I appreciate you all. Of course allow me to say that some subs have no empathy at all, some subs have no drive at all, and that PLENTY of vanilla women and men as well as dominants have just as much drive and empathy as this. quote: My question to you is: What drives you to this high level of performance? What is the most important part of it for you? The need to serve? The love of your Master? His approval? Is it your self image and the pride you feel from it? [/color] [/size] A huge amount of subs are perfectionists and people pleasers, that's a big drive right there. Otherwise, service is simply expressions of who we are.

RainGod -> RE: What Drives you? (10/15/2005 9:06:28 AM)
If I may boast a bit here, I would like to brag on My girl, BriansGirl, formerly needstoserve, for something that convieniently fits in here incidentally. Beyond everything she does for Me (and she does do a tremendous amount of things for Me, both small and large) she showed tremendous amounts of compassion and kindness yesterday here where we live. she was driving to get dinner, and a small boy was hit by a car while riding his bicycle. I was on the phone with her at the time, and she simply said she had to go in an urgent and shocked voice and hung up. Later I learned she h ad stayed with the child and kept him still, trying to comfort him as best she could while calling 911 and then trying to phone his mother. The little boy was of course in tremendous fear and shock and asked her to go with him in the ambulance and as she was preparing to do so, the boys mother arrived. In this world in which we live today, there is often times very little compassion toward a stranger in any way. Oft times today some would look the other direction to avoid meeting the eyes of a hungry stranger begging money. If there's an accident, people tend to dial 911, but "not get involved". We see a home burn to the ground and feel compassion, perhaps, but do precious little to come to the aid of our fellow man who has lost everything in his life in a matter of minutes. I am truly blessed to not only know My girl, but moreover to be her Master... the One she has chosen to serve. I did not actually begin this thread with this intention, but I wish to openly praise My girl for being the sweet, giving woman she is. It is My firm belief that everything you whom have replied to this post have exhibited and offered as example of servitude is truly the very essense of what makes the world go around. I thank all who have posted so far, and look forward to learning more. Thank you.

greenie -> RE: What Drives you? (10/15/2005 9:08:05 AM)
quote: It is to My experience over the years I have lived this lifestyle that some submissives and slaves are the most empathetic and caring women I have ever known in My life. Up until i read that i had never even put the thought of empathy into the equation! i have always been very empathetic, to the point that i can't help but cry when someone else is and i pick up their joy when they're happy. It has been annoying at times. Once i read that part of your post it dawned on me that maybe that does play a role in my submission. One of those things that make you go "hmm".

mossy -> RE: What Drives you? (10/15/2005 10:49:06 AM)
Dear RainGod, For right now in my Life a more appropriate question i don't think i could answer. This will be my first time in ten years, that, for me, "the force behind my service"? "WILL BE the ONE i serve Sir." i have a story pretty common to many on this site, i have felt this submissiveness all my Life. i used to think it was about me, my ability to serve, obey, truly submit. i must smile to myself, and think silly girl....i can be the best slave in the world, with the purest motives, the driving force to serve of a freight train, ten perhaps. "Yet"? If it is with A Master, Who...does not have the abilities, qualities, skills, this particular slave has deep need for? The drive of mine will fulfill His needs only meeting with a dead end. If my drive is strong enough i can sustain this for long periods.....perhaps forever? Yet every year i found myself draining out, and breaking down. [&o] Next time[:)] what will drive me will be the>>>>Master. my caring and empathy, striving to be the best, will of course come from my heart, mind, spirit and soul. Yet will be inspired by my Master, our compatibility. His ability to See/Read deep, inside of me,, and Knowing how to use what He finds... for the betterment of us both. [;)] just my thoughts~~~~~

lonewolf05 -> RE: What Drives you? (10/15/2005 11:00:54 AM)
i am NO female... but as a male....... MY drive is pure 100% unattached uninvolved non sexual domestics... i know a clean floor i know clean dishes..i know what a clean yard is...i know........domestics........whether it is helping Her hubby bring in the boat and complete dock from the lake for winter or if i am merely doing laundry........any dirty job around here is mine..... i serve just to be serving.......with NO DIRECT REWARD for my serving. i do not seek OR expect reward. i ask for nothing for myself.. wolf

Hallittlelolita -> RE: What Drives you? (10/15/2005 11:20:33 AM)
What drives me is pleasing my Master and making Him happy. i always ask Him "What can i do do to serve You Master", and his response is "clean". So i clean up the house and after i am done, i go ask Him again how may i serve you Master and he says you may relax now. my Master dosent work me to the bone because He knows i have to watch Our/our three yr old daughter. He is a very loving Master[;)][:)] Sincerely andie and her Master Hal

greenie -> RE: What Drives you? (10/15/2005 11:47:07 AM)
quote: MY drive is pure 100% unattached uninvolved non sexual domestics... i know a clean floor i know clean dishes..i know what a clean yard is...i know........domestics........whether it is helping Her hubby bring in the boat and complete dock from the lake for winter or if i am merely doing laundry........any dirty job around here is mine..... i serve just to be serving.......with NO DIRECT REWARD for my serving. i do not seek OR expect reward. i ask for nothing for myself.. wolf lol where can i get one of you?

AlderTheKitty -> RE: What Drives you? (10/15/2005 12:57:45 PM)
why do i wish to serve to make a specail woman happy to have her hold me in her arms and tell me i mean the world to her

littleone35 -> RE: What Drives you? (10/15/2005 1:08:48 PM)
I always served to please my Master and it made me fell good to see the approval in his eyes whrn i pleased. That gave me my drive the desire to make him proud of his girl. littleone

denimknight -> RE: What Drives you? (10/15/2005 2:20:52 PM)
I am driven to excel because anything less would be an insult not only to the individual that I am serving at any given moment, but also to myself. I won't say that I know what I am actually capable of, but I do know that it is a very high level. To hold myself to a lower standard is to become something I don't feel much like seeing when I look in the mirror. My drive cannot come from one but from many sources. It has never been enough for me to serve one dominant but to serve an ideal, to serve the world in which I live and to take special joy in the service to one in particular among countless thousands. There is a pure, simple joy that comes with rendering a high level of service to one who is worthy of it. I give my very best in all things, that’s just how I was brought up and I don't know how live any other way. Perhaps it all goes back to a principle my father once taught me: "Son I don't care if you grow up and dig ditches for a living, but always do your very best and dig the best damm ditches in the county". I've always tried to apply that to everything else in my life, why should my service be any different? Respectfully Submitted denimknight

KatyLied -> RE: What Drives you? (10/15/2005 2:25:17 PM)
I think what drives me is a need for approval. I enjoy getting feedback, confirmation that what I do, how I do it, is pleasing. I'd like to say that I'm perfect and give selflessly, but that really isn't the case.

Littlepita -> RE: What Drives you? (10/15/2005 2:36:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BriansGirl Some may say this makes me a doormat..........and sometimes I think it actually has. But imagine what this world would be like, if we all gave a little more of ourselves without us feeling like there had to be "profit" in it for us. It would be a much better world. [:)] I have always been a people pleaser and a submissive. I like pleasing and making people happy. I like to help and be involved in things I care about. What I didn’t care much about is myself. Since meeting my Sir that has drastically changed, my need to please and gain his approval means more then anything I have ever known. I have already made big changes because of his love, support and because it’s what he wants from me. I have taken real steps to get out of debt, I have lost over 40 lbs in the last 6 months and almost a month ago, I quit a 23 year smoking habit. These are huge things for me to do and hearing his approval and the “Good girl” is the best feeling in the world. To not just be a giver, but to also be appreciated and be recognized for the person you are and the person he knows I can become is a never-ending source of amazement for me.

foxglove716 -> RE: What Drives you? (10/16/2005 9:44:37 AM)
Thanks for getting me thinking about this, Rain, because usually the service is so automatic I forget to think sometimes [;)] For me, it is like that wonderful floaty feeling I get at the end of an intense scene, knowing that I can endure all that he can give me. Except its knowing I can do everything he wants me to. Knowing I am the best sub I can be and going above and beyond tickles my ego!

darkinshadows -> RE: What Drives you? (10/16/2005 9:53:30 AM)
quote: My question to you is: What drives you to this high level of performance? What is the most important part of it for you? The need to serve? The love of your Master? His approval? Is it your self image and the pride you feel from it? My submission drives me. Knowing that a Master would be pleased is a key ingredient - knowing that I make Him proud is a key ingredient - but the thing that drives me is my submission. Not that I submit, but the spirit of submission. I strongly believe any submissive person should be without selfishpride, but that the pride is something that one feels for you, not because of you. Peace and Love

BlueAngelSub -> RE: What Drives you? (10/16/2005 1:22:45 PM)
Serving is not a unselfish act. It gives to pleasure to those who serve and those being served. There for another way of increasing your self esteem or endorphines.

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