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RE: What Drives you? - 10/16/2005 1:24:48 PM

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On a whimiscal note what drive me is a Master with DD battery toy..LOL

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RE: What Drives you? - 10/16/2005 1:51:35 PM

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My question to you is: What drives you to this high level of performance? What is the most important part of it for you? The need to serve? The love of your Master? His approval? Is it your self image and the pride you feel from it?

I guess a lot of my need to perform so well stems from how i was brought up.
I was always brought to perform, do better, get higer grades, work harder, do more than everyone else around you.
This has made me a very driven and service orientated person.

When I left home and started working it was the same but I felt lost without the framework 'pushing' me to do better and now, with my Master, I have that most necessary framework back.

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RE: What Drives you? - 10/16/2005 3:26:14 PM

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My question to you is: What drives you to this high level of performance? What is the most important part of it for you? The need to serve? The love of your Master? His approval? Is it your self image and the pride you feel from it?

hello RainGod

its an interesting question and one i can take into both realms of in and out the lifestyle.

in my first marriage, i wanted to please my husband, it was a drive to bring quality of life, to see him enjoying life. He wasnt a dominant, Master, but as my husband i wanted to do the best for him. I supported him as he needed, encouraged him when he wanted to change careers. Enjoyed being hostess to his/our friends, our front door was always open. I comforted him when his parents passed away. We provided a home when friends needed a roof over their heads.

in my second marriage, my aims were no different even though this time he was a dom. To serve as required, to please him, to provide a home and a life to the best of my ability.

the drive is within, why a high performance simply because if their lifes are happy, so is yours. The most important aspect for me was that they were happy and where possible had what they needed or desired. Yes there is a need to serve, to please, to feel satisfied.

Is it about love of the man? Yes, but then i also served as a volunteer for a children's charity for over a year, i didnt love the family i was helping, but it was a great joy to be able to see a family grow and develop and strengthen.

There is a lot to be said when you gain the person's approval, verbally or just with a smile, it does fill you with an enormous delight sometimes. I arranged a surprise 30th birthday party for my first husband, everyone managed to keep it a complete secret, his face was a fantastic picture when he realised the party he had walked into was his own. He couldnt speak for a long time, but the smile said it all.

is it about self image and pride, no i dont think i would say it was. Although i strived to fulfill my wifely duties(for want of a better word) my first husband never really wanted me sexually so actually most of our time together i had a very poor self image and not a great deal of pride. With my 2nd husband, when he had affairs that didnt help those areas either.

just my ramblins

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RE: What Drives you? - 10/17/2005 12:44:08 PM

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ORIGINAL: RainGod

My question to you is: What drives you to this high level of performance? What is the most important part of it for you? The need to serve? The love of your Master? His approval? Is it your self image and the pride you feel from it?

Yes. *smile*

Like many others, I have lived my entire life with a high level of standards, in no matter what it is that I do. I do believe that this just naturally carries over to my submission to Master.

However, I would say that the one key to what drives me specifically with service to Master though is an overwhelming need and longing to do whatever I can and whatever it takes to make his life the best it can be. I am not new to the lifestyle in general, but this is my first long-term relationship and as I am only six months into that, I AM new to that. I have found that what I often struggle with is that sometimes my need and desire to create a world around him that is perfect (for him) can cause an impatience in me and I fight to remind myself that HE will decide what it takes to make his world perfect...........not ME............no matter how good my intentions are.

The drive to do this ultimately ends with the reward that I do seek, although not usually conciously, which is the feeling of completeness, a sense of satisfaction, and on some particular occasions, even a rush that I find almost like being high. Not subspace, not in play, but from service; from knowing I have pleased.

I can also add that it took finding the "right one" for me to begin to explore that drive and reward fully. Master has said that I needed to be allowed to serve and that he does this for me, and from what I experience daily, I know this to be true. So HE is ultimately the true spark to what ignites my passion and drive to be the best I can be, for he deserves no less.

Blessed be,
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RE: What Drives you? - 10/17/2005 1:16:08 PM

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My question to you is: What drives you to this high level of performance? What is the most important part of it for you? The need to serve? The love of your Master? His approval? Is it your self image and the pride you feel from it?

Hello RainGod,
First let me say I love your posts and this question.
For me the thing that drives me is my inner slave/submissive is the way I'm wired. I feel joy when I can give of myself for two reasons. The first for me is to have enough to help others to be happy by sacrificing my energy and to be albe to make their life better has been how I've lived my whole adult life. I find this means I am blessed to have more than what I need. It seems the more I give away the more I get back. The second is if I feel I not only can carry mysef but others as well I can have confidence that I'll be able to take care of myself no matter what the situation.
When it came to relationships no matter how well I served my vanilla man I never had the sense of completeness or wholeness I now achieve as my Masters slave. The vanilla men didn't understand the gift of my service to them or my submission. In fact it was neglected or abused overall as they did not know how to accept the powerful position of being dominant and still have the ability to respect my feelings and desires. In the end I was always left incomplete.
Now that I have my Master and BDSM in my life my inner slave is fed the love, guidance, discipline, pleasure and pain in a way that completes my life and makes me whole.
In serving my Master, and my Master saying I serve him well I have found the nirvana I've desired, but did not know how to obtain in the vanilla world I use to live in. He understands the concept of me putting his wants and needs first without Him or me feeling like I'm less of a person for being submissive to him.
The most important thing for me is my Masters pleasure being fulfilled with me as the vessel he rides to reach that ultimate joy and satisfaction he can obtain and my knowing I do a good job and serve him well.

To behave as a sub/slave is one of the easiest things I've ever done in my life. It's who I've been and what I've wanted to feel always. The problem was although I knew a piece of the puzzle was missing in my life I had no idea what it was till it was handed to me. Now my puzzle is complete and I'm happier than I could have ever imagined I'd be in my wildest dreams. Being able to live those dreams in real time is very awesome for me indeed.

Sincerely,
sub suzanne

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RE: What Drives you? - 10/18/2005 11:31:29 AM

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I think what drives me is a need for approval. I enjoy getting feedback, confirmation that what I do, how I do it, is pleasing. I'd like to say that I'm perfect and give selflessly, but that really isn't the case.

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uh, i am not attacking...i am merely saying,..."I" discovered a long long time ago,..i do not need...ANYONE to approve diddly. i am quite able to see when a job is finished and THAT is MY happiness..
good luck to ya.
best wishes.
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RE: What Drives you? - 10/18/2005 11:35:26 AM

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greenie<<

with ALL due respect...i am going to guess this was a tongue in cheek thingy...

but for all others.....to answer the Q.

ALL Dommes...TRY the midwest..and TRY to find someone past 40 yrs old...we good ole boy midwest boys are hard workers with a solid work ethic...

good luck Ladies....and "I" am NOW 52....

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RE: What Drives you? - 10/18/2005 12:05:28 PM

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i am quite able to see when a job is finished

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RE: What Drives you? - 10/19/2005 7:48:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: RainGod

My question to you is: What drives you to this high level of performance? What is the most important part of it for you? The need to serve? The love of your Master? His approval? Is it your self image and the pride you feel from it? [/color] [/size]

i would have to say for me it is all of the above. I want to see my Master the happiest he can be. i dont feel that he should carry the stress in our lives...so i carry it all. in this my needs and or wishes dont matter to me.as i derive all my happiness from his

arg...i thought i was signed in as me....not Master.......that should have been...Evilsgirl

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RE: What Drives you? - 10/20/2005 3:12:04 AM

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I could do it all just for those two little words "good girl"

Just those words and a smile on my Master's face can keep me going for days.

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RE: What Drives you? - 10/20/2005 6:54:01 AM

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