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DominantJenny -> RE: Highly Sexed: Prerequisite for a female dominant? (5/3/2008 5:00:02 AM)
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Quick reply after a few Smithwicks.
OK. Dominance does not have to be sexual, but I did not see anyone post indicating they were "lukewarm" on sex but still into D/s as a D.
And I am limited, un-enlightened, and male. I cannot walk to the mailbox or fill a glass with water without sexualizing it somehow :-)
Though I may be asking you to describe the undescribable, what is the nature of the pleasure or satisfaction of being dominant over another? Is it possible to describe what that "feels" like? If you are scratching something, can you tell where or what was itching?
As everyone else has said, it's a totally individual thing.
For me, there's nothing like the rush of power (adrenalin, endorphins, whatever goes along with it) I get when I assert my will, especially with an equally strong individual, and that person backs down...and not because I've beaten them down with my arguments/I was simply correct and they had no choice, but because they choose to, just for me, because they willingly give me that power. (And it's even more of a rush if that willingness is intermingled with unwillingness, nothing like seeing opposites slam into each other and tangle till one wins...all inside the same person.)
The other main aspect for me is feeling the vulnerability in that other person, the softness to my hardness that immediately makes me all tender and stuff. There's a high that I get from being trusted. I feed off of my submissive's vulnerability; it gives me a rush, a strength, a sense of all being right with the world...
*laugh* The romance of BDSM.
While all of that can trigger my sex drive, it doesn't have to necessarily. When mingled with the physical pleasure, endorphins, etc, of sex, it all just gets that much more intense. Again, for me. Though I suppose there will be a few who can relate pretty closely to what I've said. :)
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