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I very very very much want to go back to counsoling, but I'm not finding that many have sliding scales like I need, and add on to that we're a daddy daughter relationship and I am kinky, well from my past experinces most therapists will go running for the pych ward people.

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You can find lifestyle friendly counselors, all you have to do is ask around or do research on the net.  I have been in therapy for a few months now since an incident with my husband.  I am seeing a D/s friendly therapist who is very knowledgable of Daddy/Daughter relationships.  So if you feel that is something you need, trust me, you can find it out there *winks*

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ORIGINAL: azropedntied

daddy daughter ? D/s  BDSM has little to do with  everyday life/money woes , this is an easy fix if you wish to save this for the long haul  You take over the financial and give him a set allowance and no more , also set up an emergency  fund .Or tell him this needs to be taken care of by him and give it 30 days .If this money issue is left unchecked  kiss the relationship buubye .So the question  is is it worth saving ?save it by  grabbing the situation by the horns  and fixing it leaving problem solved . 

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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

In a way it does. The dynamic of the relationship applies through out everything. Same as if I was a submissive. You do the role you chose to take even through out lifes issues. Course you might have to tweak the role a bit every now and then, but the dynamic is what it is, even through out life issues. Dynamics shouldn't get shoved out the door just cause it's not kinky playtime any more.

Now sometimes you do have to shove it aside an step out of your role for the relationship and get all bosy an lay it down, I know.

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ORIGINAL: azropedntied

daddy daughter ? D/s  BDSM has little to do with  everyday life/money woes , this is an easy fix if you wish to save this for the long haul  You take over the financial and give him a set allowance and no more , also set up an emergency  fund .Or tell him this needs to be taken care of by him and give it 30 days .If this money issue is left unchecked  kiss the relationship buubye .So the question  is is it worth saving ?save it by  grabbing the situation by the horns  and fixing it leaving problem solved . 

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

I understand that you love him and I am not suggesting you leave him.

I would like you to consider the pattern of irresponsibility here.

He can not afford health insurance which he needs but wants to spend his tip money on toys.
He won't consider MedCal.
He needs counseling but you can't afford it and my guess is that the week before you get your check things are very tight for you both.

His choices are putting you in an unwinnable position.
You keep having to clean up his messes which takes away from his having to deal with the consequences...without consequences some people are unable to learn.

I might suggest that these could be things that you might want to discuss with a counselor (if you have one and if you don't you might want to consider getting one for yourself.)

Best wshes...it sounds like a very difficult situation.

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

I understand that you love him and I am not suggesting you leave him.

I would like you to consider the pattern of irresponsibility here.

He can not afford health insurance which he needs but wants to spend his tip money on toys.
He won't consider MedCal.
He needs counseling but you can't afford it and my guess is that the week before you get your check things are very tight for you both.

His choices are putting you in an unwinnable position.
You keep having to clean up his messes which takes away from his having to deal with the consequences...without consequences some people are unable to learn.

I might suggest that these could be things that you might want to discuss with a counselor (if you have one and if you don't you might want to consider getting one for yourself.)

Best wshes...it sounds like a very difficult situation.

read this until you realize how wise this person is...

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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

I very very very much want to go back to counsoling, but I'm not finding that many have sliding scales like I need, and add on to that we're a daddy daughter relationship and I am kinky, well from my past experinces most therapists will go running for the pych ward people.

Yes the week before I get my check can be VERY tight, I was down to 10 bucks last month before payday, and normally cause I am in debt I have about 200 dollars left before payday, which again all cycles into bills and debt.

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

I understand that you love him and I am not suggesting you leave him.

I would like you to consider the pattern of irresponsibility here.

He can not afford health insurance which he needs but wants to spend his tip money on toys.
He won't consider MedCal.
He needs counseling but you can't afford it and my guess is that the week before you get your check things are very tight for you both.

His choices are putting you in an unwinnable position.
You keep having to clean up his messes which takes away from his having to deal with the consequences...without consequences some people are unable to learn.

I might suggest that these could be things that you might want to discuss with a counselor (if you have one and if you don't you might want to consider getting one for yourself.)

Best wshes...it sounds like a very difficult situation.

read this until you realize how wise this person is...

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ


If you have health insurance then the insurance should pay for counseling just as it will pay for you to see a doctor...you may have a copay.